you can know someone better then yourself, the deeper you see this person,especially if they have been with you for a long time, you can see the deep human emptiness in them, that is the problem , what we all are at this deeper level.
I too have found the 'familiaity breeds contempt' adage to be true. Not just in close relationships, but in friends too. Maybe it's just a human reaction to too much closeness. We're created as single units, so I guess we all need a little more space than maybe society says we need. Society encourages crowding and is suspicious of solitude. Thanks for the thoughts and ideas. Very refreshing.
Off course Alkistis is the expert, but, I think she means like in the Sting song when he says : "if you love somebody set them free", meaning true love is courageous and not insecure.
I always like to think of it like guitar strings (since I am a string player). If they are too close, they can't resonate. If they a e too far apart it distorts the sound. The tension and balance are the elements that make the beautiful music.
So true! As humans we tend to get "dependent" on the other other person as well, so we start feeling hemmed in. Then the relationship starts to unravel quickly. I take trips away from my partner, and he does too. If I can't trust him in another country, then why should I trust him in my bed? I always tell him to, "Have a great, safe time!" He appreciates that totally! Plus, I'm encouraging him to grow as a person. When he gets back or vise versa, we miss each other, and we have stories to tell
Great advice, space also allows a person to develop the qualities that first attracted their partner. Therefore the dynamic of the relationship can continue to evolve. What is more we should actively encourage this healthy room for development as it stops the relationship becoming maladaptive where one person becomes overly reliant on the other, creating a situation which may be unhealthy. If a partner want's to leave you, so what ! I would rather have no relationship than a fake one!
I know how these people feel. Sometimes I get too caught up with my friends that their negative traits become magnified and it can stress me out. But after I take a break from them and start socializing with a different group of people for a short time I return to the relationship with a fresh perspective and generally more tolerant. It doesn't physically change anything, it's just like getting rid of waste that builds up over time. It's very good advice. :)
you can know someone better then yourself, the deeper you see this person,especially if they have been with you for a long time, you can see the deep human emptiness in them, that is the problem , what we all are at this deeper level.
59Disciple 1 year ago
I too have found the 'familiaity breeds contempt' adage to be true. Not just in close relationships, but in friends too. Maybe it's just a human reaction to too much closeness. We're created as single units, so I guess we all need a little more space than maybe society says we need. Society encourages crowding and is suspicious of solitude. Thanks for the thoughts and ideas. Very refreshing.
DublinTroubador 2 years ago
Hi Alkistis:
I didn't understand your statement that said that: if you get too close to a person, they would tend to take you for granted?
So how close would "too close" be? I thought the main goal in getting in a relationship was to know and get along with the other person.
SNL0907 2 years ago
Off course Alkistis is the expert, but, I think she means like in the Sting song when he says : "if you love somebody set them free", meaning true love is courageous and not insecure.
Athenaikos 2 years ago
I always like to think of it like guitar strings (since I am a string player). If they are too close, they can't resonate. If they a e too far apart it distorts the sound. The tension and balance are the elements that make the beautiful music.
Blessings++
sherryfracheymusic 2 years ago 3
I totally agree with this video. Thanks, Alkistis.
MagovernMartialArts 2 years ago 2
great advice, and thank you so much for the video !....; )
moonflower2345 2 years ago 2
So true! As humans we tend to get "dependent" on the other other person as well, so we start feeling hemmed in. Then the relationship starts to unravel quickly. I take trips away from my partner, and he does too. If I can't trust him in another country, then why should I trust him in my bed? I always tell him to, "Have a great, safe time!" He appreciates that totally! Plus, I'm encouraging him to grow as a person. When he gets back or vise versa, we miss each other, and we have stories to tell
RoobieBreastnut 2 years ago 2
Again Heraclitus of Ephesus agrees with Alkistis when he says:
Μεταβάλλον ἀναπαύεται.
In change is rest.
Meaning that a healthy relationship needs an environment of change to thrive.
Athenaikos 2 years ago
Great advice, space also allows a person to develop the qualities that first attracted their partner. Therefore the dynamic of the relationship can continue to evolve. What is more we should actively encourage this healthy room for development as it stops the relationship becoming maladaptive where one person becomes overly reliant on the other, creating a situation which may be unhealthy. If a partner want's to leave you, so what ! I would rather have no relationship than a fake one!
lasercat10cc 2 years ago 2
An ancient Greek philosopher, Heraclitus of Ephesus said something that might apply to relationships as well:
Τὰ ψυχρὰ θέρεται, θερμὸν ψύχεται, ὑγρὸν αὐαίνεται, καρφαλέον νοτίζεται.
Cold becomes warm, and warm, cold; wet becomes dry, and dry, wet.
Athenaikos 2 years ago
I know how these people feel. Sometimes I get too caught up with my friends that their negative traits become magnified and it can stress me out. But after I take a break from them and start socializing with a different group of people for a short time I return to the relationship with a fresh perspective and generally more tolerant. It doesn't physically change anything, it's just like getting rid of waste that builds up over time. It's very good advice. :)
anthonyshock 2 years ago 2