when you are acutely sensitive, you can often fall prey to every energy vampire reptilian there is.. they feed off this insecurity and subtlety you hold.. they enjoy intimidation and making you react emotionally.
dont let them drive u into self harm, or shut you down, or depress u. in effect they are teaching you to be stronger within and with time you will learn to balance the energies of those who seek to dominate, control or manipulate..
Yes, this course of study is still being looked at by psychology and becoming more accepted as time and evidence for it builds up. Those without it are perfectly free to deny its existence, but for those of us who are not just emotionally sensitive but can feel sensations in our own bodies vividly enough to accurately diagnose something most people need xrays of (has happened to me before), along with a strong, sometimes overpowering empathy for those around us...it's a very real thing.
Also, to those who have been hurt or burned by an HSP you found self-absorbed and only sensitive when it comes to themselves rather than others and the world around them, I'm sure that can happen, as it can with non-HSP people. It's a trait that can end up with other traits attached (like a proclivity for selfishness). However, most of us acutely feel the pain and trauma, love and happiness of complete strangers as well (you can infer from that our empathy for friends and family is stronger).
HSP is not a syndrome or disorder. I see some comments saying that it's also called low anxiety threshold syndrome or neuroticism. No. Sorry, these are not the same thing. HSP is a trait, with benefits and drawbacks like other traits. Now, one of the downsides of this trait is that it can lead to neuroticism, depression and more, especially in societies that don't appreciate the benefits of sensory sensitivity or use that sensitivity to abuse or manipulate the HSP
All these videos that oversensitive people process info more carefully, etc. WRONG! They're only more "sensitive" when it comes to issues concerning themselves, not necessarily others.It is an absolute living HELL for the person who is or was in a relationship with them because their "sensitivity" is directed primarily toward themselves. They have no objectivity, can't accept advice without interpreting it as criticism. Work on humility (Oops.can't tell them that because they're "sensitive").
Wow everything u said, I relate and feel. I do not know where to go from here. I Can make people feel my energi aswell, people who do not believe me. without touching them, I feel a Magnetic energy around people, and it can push me, while sitting nxt to them. I sometimes have to go and put my hands in cold water because they feel uncomfortable, and full of energy, it helps. I can feel others phsysical pain, hard to explain, but if i focus my energy, I feel tthe excact same pain. i need guide...
@Marieeazy "Disease” is too harsh a word; this word is negative and loaded – it implies you can’t do anything about it, and your fate is doomed to be controlled by emotions. To be sensitive, however, isn’t entirely negative; you’re certainly not doomed. It is important to realize that we’re capable of adapting – and this is the best trait of all, because it’s useful. Adapting means a few extra changes here and there, but if it makes life more manageable – it’s a positive that goes a LONG way.
I don't know what to label anything, highly sensitive, extra sensory, whatever. But the things that take shape in my conciousness are beyond description and I always wish I could convey the abstract imaginations I entertain myself with.
Im a freshman at a private High School and Ive always been known to be very sensitive and shy. A teacher one day made me pick up trash and when I asked him why he told me "quit your bitching". i never knew how much that could really hurt me since ive never been treated so badly. I dont know what to do about it, if I just ignore it it seems as if though Im weak and cant deal with my problems. Im too shy to talk to anyone about this thats why Im typing this, can anyone please give my ann advice.
@EHvicefaction : i don't know how to help you but i give you some tip:switch your focus on people who are very less fortunate than to yourself.. like watching documentaries about it, coz this helps me realize.. also watch movies or listen to music that will surely gives u a positive effect.. this shifts my nega moodiness.. then, i've just realize if we,HSP can't help ourselves, i think we can offer our help to others:offer free help to an orphanage near on your home, and doing diz 4 3 months..
@EHvicefaction : I've just think of it.. since i'm an HSP i'll be living my WHOLE life being like this, a sensitive person who can't manage his own self but it doesn't mean that i can't change.. that i could still rise up.. hmm.. i don't wanna be anybody else but i can be better me(you).. soon.. after hard-work.. and self-meditation.. i can stand not as high than others but still.. at least, 4 once in my life, I've stand confidently.. hehe.. ~^-^~ God bless to us all.. ~^-^~
@EHvicefaction i think it's pretty bad that you're teacher said something like that. i'm pretty sensitive and shy too. the sound of that statement kind of cuts into my heart a little. but i'm sure 99% of the people you meet will not want to hurt you. people just have different perceptions and their own way of understanding people. we can't really read each other's minds so yea... people are usually nice to me too since i'm shy. sorry i don't have any real advice to give you.
No teacher should be making YOU pick up trash,....unless you are the one who threw it in the first place,......or if it is some kind of group project.
I would state, "You either explain yourself, or I am reporting you!" It looks like emotional abuse to me, and this so called 'teacher' has found someone to manipulate, and push around.
Bark out, "HELL NO, and if you try this again, you won't have a job!"
Especially since 1999, I have had my life dragged through the sewers. I've had some really, really shitty stuff happen to me. I have also done some really, really shitty stuff to myself. The worst of it was about one and a half years ago now. April 2010. Somehow, I survived. I'll be stuffed if I know how. I mean physically survived. I almost died. It was very soon after 20 April 2010 that I heard about all this high sensitivity stuff. It was a real revelation. Anyway, now I'm cool.
Being overly sensitive can actually be a form of self love.. You`ll notice that the bigger the ego someone has the more fragile their ego can be.. For example if a woman is extremley beautiful and some guy makes a negative comment about her appearance, It would actually bother her much more than a woman who is just average looking.. People who are very sensitive usually have a high opinion of themselves and that`s why they can`t take any criticism
@Goldenchild795 How do you know that? Some people are just sensitive. Some beautiful people know a lot of people like them will not care if one guy says no to them. I hate when people say I have a big ego because I am sensitive. What does one have to do with the other? Some people are very critical of themselves and someone else contributing to their negative feelings of themselves just makes it worst.
i just did the test and i am highly sensitive i did not even know! cats love me for some reason i can feel peoples moods and if its bad it affects me its like having a second pair of eyes you can suss out the good and the bad i hate arguments violence and seeing people getting hurt it really upsets me nasty peoples comments so sensitive i kept quiet is it a good thing to be i dont know love junysawrus
Another thing, I sense people's energy and intentions. If they have negative energy, that energy affects me by draining mines. At least I can sense it, so I back away from them or keep them at distance, so it doesn't affect my harmony. I am extremely curious, so that makes me highly nervous and aware. I am also a perfectionist, always trying to do everything in the best way possible. =(
trance. It's like I am in the present and past at the same time, damn it's so strange I have a hard time explaining. I see things other people don't see, I smell what other's can't smell, I hear what other's don't, and I feel what other's don't feel. I have trouble with very bright light, I like to be alone, I love art and music, and I do art and play instruments too. when a child, I was always seen by others, including my parents, as the eccentric, odd, paranormal child.
Wow, I definitely know I have this because a doctor once told me. Many people that know me well end up saying you must be HSP, and because I have taken a test too. I don't know if because of this, I see spirits and can feel their presence. I sense when the atmosphere changes when this beings are approaching. I have had telepathic experiences with a few people and they know it too. I also have had memories of past times(reincarnation)while doing something during the day, I go in some kind of
What a pile of crap. People need to stop looking for disorders and syndromes and conditions to explain away their own personal shortcomings and failures and just accept that SOME people aren't as good at a given activity as others. There are people that are good at LOTS of things, and people who suck at nearly everything.
Such is life. The sooner everyone accepts who they are, including their strengths and limitations, the sooner people will start being happier and healthier.
@Xartavion It's a physiological trait, like blue eyes. The brain works differently in HSPs. Have you read the book? You can't go by just this video and the comments here.
@dorocasaubon If you posit that this is a physiological trait like blue eyes, then by extension that means it's also tied to genetics in the same way blue eyes are. As such, in order for this trait to have managed to survive into the 21st century, people had to overcome the adversity of it - the same way they overcame the adversity of having blue eyes in a world dominated by brown-eyed people. Should we start a disorder or syndrome for those with blue eyes, too? Maybe a support group?
@Xartavion A lot of the comments here are from people who haven't read the book and don't know what they are talking about. People with this trait don't need a support group or to be told they have a syndrome or disorder. They aren't sick and they aren't special, they take in more stimuli than most people. If you have this trait, you just need to be aware of it because you have to modify your lifestyle or you may have problems. I have been hypersensitive to sound my whole life, can't filter it..
@Xartavion .. also to light, touch, etc. I couldn't understand why things like a tap dripping or clock ticking would drive me nuts and if I mentioned it to anyone, they didn't experience that. I thought there was something wrong with me, now because of Elaine Aron's book and research, I know there isn't. That is helpful. I am able to take better care of myself instead of pushing myself to take part in things that sap my energy quickly, cause me physical distress etc.
@Xartavion this trait is found in animals too, and it is genetic. this isn't open to discussion. it has been scientifically verified and statistically established. you're sarcasm is not funny, nor welcome.
@SuperAnimalDrummer Actually it kind of is open to discussion as it hasn't been cannonized into psychological texts as hardened fact like "drilling holes in the head is not a viable medical practice". G'head, look it up. I'll wait while you do. And I could give a damn whether you appreciate my sarcasm? Wah-wah, I'll send you a box of tissues to help you through the crisis of someone on the internet not taking you seriously.
@SuperAnimalDrummer Wow, child, let it go already. I'm not sure what "self-righteous" attitude you're talking about but I think it's past your bedtime as you're starting to see things that aren't there.
@Xartavion by the tone and choice of words that you are using you clearly don't know what we all are talkin about ... nor what is said in the video.... if you feel its a load of bs then your entitled to having this feeling but you don't have to call it out... just walk away
@lilithmoon1979 You're right, I should just admit it: you win.
But you know what they say about arguing on the internet - its kind of like the Special Olympics. Even if you win, you're still retarded.
Funny thing: YOU had the choice to fly right on by my comment in peace too, but elected to start some ridiculous argument with a comment from a month ago!
If you are HSP it's important to find others who are sensitive in the way you are and at the same time don't shy away from trying to be with all kinds of people. But at the same time try to follow the idiom that birds of a feather flock together.
Wish I would have learned about HSP years ago. As a teenager, unlike my peers I preferred different music. Reading a good book or story would affect me deeply. I had (and still have) a much more vivid imagination than others. I knew I was different but didn't know why. Now I am a farmer and it is one of the best occupations for someone like me. Growing crops and working with animals is wonderful. The hardest thing is I have to work as an IT guy on the side, and dealing with nasty people.
@ichai1 It's ok when I am dealing with patient, sympathetic people. Having to deal with the nasty ones is bad. And actually the very worst are younger women in their early twenties. The new generation of young people today are a bunch of arrogant bullies.
I can be easily excited with good and bad things, i am easily overwhelmed. I was literally paralized all my life due to shyness, anxiety and repression. Now I think about all that and feel stupid for being like that. I was certainly sensitive, but i dont think its biological.
I am an HSP too. people often see me as multitalented. i sing, i compose songs, play guitar, piano, harmonica, flute, teach choir...classroom teacher, a licensed physical therapist..also good in sports. was a basketball varsity back in high school..also a football player..i can play table tennis well..read a lot of books and have a strong inclination to writing....i feel i am better than most of my classmates...but i feel nervous classroom, losing my composure..im terribly sensitive, a thorn.
Maybe, ones hormonal wiring can be used as an advantage.
When I think back of my few attempts on colloquies a year ago, I can actually remember in specific pictures the notes I made, the notes btw were trivial.
So it might be heavy and tiring to be a HSP, but actually making a study of oneself might make this "HSP" a skill.
E.g. work with people you know well, but In a place where there are many others.
The social sensitivity might boost your academic memory, by adrenaline.
So what's my point, well I'm most certainty a HSP.
Even though I have a great memory of social situations, my academic memory varies.
So the point here is that my social memory probably correlates with adrenaline i.e. other hormones. Studies have shown that adrenaline plays a huge role in memory. E.g. Post traumatic stress patients get more or less well when adrenaline is suppressed, that is during the time it's kept low.
I'm a university student, I tend to study at home, because I get easily distracted else where, or I'll simply find it tiring to work in colloquies.
But, I think I haven't experimented enough with this.
I have an extremely good memory when it comes to social situations, I can remember every persons facial expression from a specific situation years back that others would see as a trivial one. I'm a man, I'd say I got a better mem than even the most gossipish women
So, it all sounded very thoughtful until the end when she said "punishment must be gentler". Punishing people shows just how far we still have to go before we can start talking about being civilized.
Check out the zeitgeist movement if you want to learn more...
As an HSP, I tend to hate other HSPs. They are so complicated and make everything difficult, just like how I used to be. It's possible to greatly suppress this trait, but it comes with a great cost such as extreme emotional callousness. For HSPs, sensitivity is attached to your emotions. So to get rid of it, you have to get rid of emotions. I used to have sociopathic traits and that was how I temporarily got rid of sensitivity. But I was obviously miserable. Being HSP is such a handicap.
its impossible for me to stay in a place with alot of people I feel like evryone is looking at me and i know they are not it makes me feel very uncomfortable
so i prefer staying at home and when I feel that i have to get out im going to a place alone in the nature a place that I know that no one is going there, am i the only one like that or its a part of HSP?
I don't think anyone fits in a particular box or only one box. In fact, personally, I do not like boxes. They may be useful as a resource to help us understand ourselves, but that's it - only a resource.
@RashawnDaDon I think what you're asking is, do psychologists take advantage of people's desire to feel like they're not responsible for their failures by inventing new disorders to blame? This might be true in some cases, but what Dr. Aron here is saying is that people who experience failures as a result of this disorder of HSP ought to consider living their lives in a smarter way with a realistic view of their own capabilities and needs, and take the necessary steps to ensure they don't fail.
i just found out im an hsp after getting headaches for years and years throughout my childhood from what ive just come to realize is the emotional tension around me. i am 17 years old and im glad this video was posted so i know im not crazy lol. and it is true about our society and how sensitivity isnt valued anymore. this video was very helpful. ive also looked into this on another website and being an hsp is also considered being psychic, but on an emotional level.
Been Highly sensitive and highly anxious since I was a child. We can look at being an HSP as a curse or take it in as what it really is disguised as, a blessing. HSP are capable of many great things. We just need to quiet the mind and learn how to control our nervous system before we can utilize our abilities to the maximum power. Our deepest struggles are going to give us the greatest strength one day, but only if we allow it.I wouldn't have the knowledge I have today if it wasn't for this.
This is the first time I've ever heard Elaine Aron speak about HSPs in person, and I'm so excited to see it. I learned about Elaine's work and read her book only about 4 years ago, and I was so relieved to find it.
It would be so great if there was a video like this by Ms Aron which explained high sensitivity to the non-HSPs... Like: What are typical behaviours that are typical for HSPs how they can be seen by their surrounding, and how they can contribute to making life with an HSP easier.
Being highly sensitive (I could have been and still could be considered hyper-sensitive) is great, if one is able to overcome certain unavoidable obstacles. The most important journey in life is the spiritual one, and the HSP has an unparalleled ability to grow spiritually. Furthermore, we are able to see what is stupid or wrong with society. If anyone can change this world, it is the HSP! The most important thing for us is to believe in a higher power; I do that through Sahaja Meditation. Peace
@jugglingfreaky just because it's not considereed a mental disorder does not mean it doesn't exist. I am a very sensitive person. I am very compassionate but sometimes I can take things the wrong way probably because I haven't ben able to a chieve a high self esteem yet... But I am working on it. In this society it is hard to fit in because there are so many "ideals" but we need to realize most people don't fit them.
@jugglingfreaky just because it's not considereed a mental disorder does not mean it doesn't exist. I am a very sensitive person. I am very compassionate but sometimes I can take things the wrong way probably because I haven't ben able to a chieve a high self esteem yet... But I am working on it. In this society it is hard to fit in because there are so many "ideals" but we need to realize most people don't fit them.
I don't find this extremely helpful, if this was said 30 years ago, I'd say thanks for saving me & others a lot of heartache & grief, but I guess since I'm not so dyslexic anymore & can read & little better. So I can somehow prove I'm not dumb & stupid & get a real job, I can throw away my artistic gifted ability which is drawing cos I couldn't read or spell for s**t, reasons I can't explain why, just couldn't, but I can draw the Mona Lisa, but I was still considered DUMB & STUPID to society.
Unable to communicate with people properly, them always laughing at me saying they don't understand me, the simplest things too. Until they made me cry & hide, I thought I was getting somewhat stronger with age, but now I'm going trough menopause. Having the most disturbing headaches & most likely have to have heart surgery cos my heart's stuffed, the doctors brushed me off saying I'm having anxiety attack.
Friggen sucks for me, always thinking there was something seriously wrong with me for nearly 43 years, my birthdays on the 21st of this month (yay) so friggen earth shattering, again (yay). Finding it difficult all my life to keep friends cos I felt so alienated from them & my family, feeling their feeling towards me. Calling me dumb, stupid etc & a fruit loop, nut case & the rest of the self pity crap I was lead to believe about myself, just makes it more worse for me.
how can you find work if you haven't been able to work like ever because of your sensitivity and had to quit all the schools? i mean, how does one get a job with no credentials and a ton of diagnoses? especially when you go out and are around people you get exhausted or sick or downright psychotic? how do you work like that? let alone find meaningful work? especially when you have no self esteem and are totally traumatized? i mean what are HSPs like that supposed to do?
I have the same thinking! We are screwed forever. No jobs, no schools. I never even considered schools because I knew it would be impossible for me to utilize knowledge in real life environment. I think at one point we are going to see that there is no perspective for us. Just dying!
@rafapak well for everyone it's different cuz we're all different, so i can't say what works for me is for you, but Abraham-Hicks is awesome, i've recently discovered it. :) there's plenty of that on youtube even if you don't wanna buy their books and tapes.
I am extremely grateful I found out about her book! Noise in particular has been a real problem for me. I have become ill from pushing myself to try to be like everyone else. No more!!
That's interesting, I didn't know there was such a term for someone like myself. I had thought about it and came to the conclusion that I and certain members of my family felt more pain in general. Perhaps society can learn how to be more humane and not traumatize those of us that are HSP. *I'm using the acronym already*
this nervous system is inefficient! it doesn't do the job it is supposed to do. this is why many of hsp report that while learning sth they have to push very hard. Many of hsp report troubles with reading. this nervous system is weak and works poorly!
As HSPs we're taught to think that this makes us "weak" or "damaged".....it's a pity that we actually believe them. I have a page for HSPs, if anybody wants to come join my slow growing community ("Sensitivity is not a Flaw" on Facebook).....the more, the merrier :)
What a precious therapist, your work is so appreciated! It took me a lifetime to understand that my sensitivity required a different space and timing with the world. This has affected everything. May you be blessed for helping others finding their way into security self esteem and independence.
thank god for dr elaine.befor i knew about our HSP,i thought i was having a mental disorder.having this makes it a little difficult for me to socialize.to them,i am just too sensitive:(
I came away feeling confused after reading this book. It told me how different i was and not understood by non hsp's. I feel i shouldnt go and socialise with non sensitive people cos they would think im strange. wtf? It didnt tell me ways to calm the system in these situations, apart from walking away and taking time out.
I like being a Highly Sensitive person. I dislike chaotic and overwhelming situation. I do realise that I need downtime. But I like having 'a rich inner life.
I've been wondering whether my sensitivity to loud noises and social chaos (and perhaps other forms of stimulation too) is unchangeable or not. It's quite frustrating to hear others suggest that I'm too sensitive or tell me just to get used it, since not only am I aware of my "problem", but am myself actively trying to deal with it, whether that involves getting used to the stimulation or avoiding some of it.
If you like me, are highly sensitive then you will most likely be aware that you had it from a very young age and it's a rare quality that few of us have. We were all born sensitives to a degree but our peers and family become the conditioning in which we change. Sensitive people work on a different vibe. I expect amny of you feel like me, like total strangers to this world and don't fit in. I'm not anti-social but I can't bare crowds or loud music or excess negativity or noise.
I can, unfortunately, related to each characteristic and trait with the one exception of startling easily. I was always too much in tune with others' moods and body language. If I say good morning at work to someone else in another department and there is not facial movement or certain tone in the voice, I can feel devastated, even if I don't know that person well. If I look into someone's eyes, I feel I see too much and there is no defense, etc. It is tough existing like this.
it SUCKS! i feel so doomed, i seem to have a myriad of disorders and i know i am certainly a HSP. yes, yes, i can be a good artist, musician, poet blah blah blah i know. but things don't work like that for me - i can't isolate the creative side of me and sustain a consistent work ethic to further my talent cos i'm too messed up in my life in general BECAUSE of, guess what, my excrusciating sensitivity.
@ohdoshutit i'm also definately an exraverted HSP (kind of a show-off) and NEED people to feel alive, yet have a chronic habit of isolating myself from life and people. i live with depression all the time, have high anxiety and whenever i make a stab at a 'normal' life ie. job, relatioships etc. something always goes wrong and i retreat again. that's not even going into my addictions and dependencies....
@ohdoshutit Liked ur's, feel so DOOMED, mine goes a little further, OK a lot further. I don't just hear talking in the next room so to speak, I hear voices talking about me on the other side of a loud music blasting night club. An impossible frequency for any normal human to hear, but I do somehow, & if u r like me, u would be able to see, feel, hear, Oh, & talk to invisible people that most humans can't see, their apparently called ghost, spirits, angels etc. I call them people without a body.
@sexinthecityLV Have see them though, the only way I think we see invisible people is if our mind/brain allows us too. I call them people without a body cos I can see their energy, they still look like a real person standing there in solid form to me, they've never been smokey, see though or misty. Like ghosts/spirits r believed to only look like, but they can look like a black shadows & appear big, large or even huge but they not meant to frighten, it just their energy shape form.
@sexinthecityLV They also can appear with no limbs but still in a solid human looking form. I know this cos I seen just a head, no body, smiling at me through my kitchen window, but the the top part of my window, like 12 ft from the ground window outside, just floating. & I was sitting on my couch just finished with mopping my floor, then something said look up at the the window, & I did, but still no one believes me even when I said he was more shock at my reaction, cos I wasn't shock at his.
I am a highly sensitive person/empath and I have read The Highly Sensitive Person and it changed my life! It is amazing, however I am going through a down time now, and its so hard because of the 20% im an extrovert.......**but I feel like im losing it. Do you think its possible to lose this?** I wouldnt want to change for the world because I feel I have an important mission in life....
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It would make me so mad growing up when the people closest to me would say "she's so sensitive." I'm a visual artist. I was born with the ability to draw, paint, or make things. I spent a lot of time alone. The world has always scared me and I don't know why it doesn't scare everyone. I'm on medication now for bipolar type 2. I started on med's after I had a mental break down.
yes it sucks being a HSP anxiety ridden person I am now 57 and have suffered anxiety,"shyness",hands shaking, feeling stoned/buzzed all my life.......was always anxious in my school/work years............right now I am not working I just cant handle it anymore and I dont receive any financial help.so slowly we sink into debt.I just feel locked out of the mainstream...I was hoping with age things would improve...one doctor said I have social phobia....but HSP also seems to fit the bill
haha funny thing is i thought every charactersitic described about being a hsp was unique only to me, and thought was better than everyone else on the inside. but i'm wrong. it seems like other people, infact alot are feeling the same feelings how i feel in different situations.
to JSHC I don't want to talk to you anymore. I don't think you are a nice person. I don't drink international coffee. I am a poor artist. Leave me alone.
Being a HSP is actually a gift because you can enjoy all forms of intimacy at a greater level then the average person can. With a bit of a caution and acceptance of oneself life will be easier.
It is almost 6 month now since i found out I was highly sensitive and now I'm starting to really really enjoy life, for the first time in 8 years! (I'm 18) ( -.-' )
I've noticed many people really appreciate me as a friend also if I use my "skills" to really take care of our relationship. :D
It doesn't work if I'm overwhelmed though - then I totally lose everything.
So people, take care of yourself! If you do, it WILL get better.
Does anyone know if someone who is actually a hsp is frequently likely to be mis-dianosed as a person with high functioning autism or some form of atypical autism, as I feel I have been?
Does anyone know if someone who is actually a hsp is frequently likely to be mis-dianosed as a person with high functioning autism or some form of atypical autism, as I feel I have been?
How does this concept relate to latent inhibition? Its like HSP brains don't tune out background stimuli in the way a regular persons would. Latent inhibition tunes out those stimuli which are not good at predicting a certain event in classical conditioning. Its like the HSP brain stays open to stimuli an ordinary brain would simply ignore. Surely these two concepts are intertwined.
I'm having a hard time reconciling this quality with being a gift. It makes my life unlivable by the standards of modern society. I wouldn't mind living in a cave on the Savanna though, boy that would be sw-eee-t.
@Jeustful Yes. This is why i resigned from my last job in the government. I was so focused on quality over quantity, and they had the opposite view. I don't know what career to pursue now :(
@JesusSucksHorseCock Do you have anything nice to say? If you were trying to hurt my feelings about my comment on this video, you succeeded. By the way, you ended your criticism (a sentence) of me with a preposition. Maybe you need more education. This lady has a very nice video. I think you're very disrespectful.
@jungzanima73 First, I have many nice things to say, but not to a sanctimonious and vapid YouTube goddess . Second, I don't give two cross-eyed, chocolate-covered fucks if you have problems with prepositions, split infinitives or wearing white socks after Labor Day. Finally, I have read almost all of Dr Aron's work, and am very impressed with most of it, but not at all impressed at how she, in her own words, created "an elite" out of her study group. Now STFU. Crying is not a virtue!
@jungzanima73 One other thing: If you're such a persnickety grammarian, what have you to say about Aron's first book, "The Highly Sensitive Person?" It's LOADED with grammar errors and typos. There must be three instances of "then/than" errors. Go sit in a corner and drink your internationally flavored coffee and wallow in sentimentality all you like; Aron's book has merit but her approach to documentation is no better than most self-help fluff tomes by hack shrinks. She needs an editor!
I took the Self Test, 26 out of 27 are true of me, the only one that dont apply to me is I am not sensitive to physical pain, emotional pain yes, (so should I have checked that one too?) very much so, but not physical pain, dogs can hang from my arms and I wouldnt notice, LOL
I took the Self Test, 26 out of 27 are true of me, the only one that dont apply to me is I am not sensitive to physical pain, emotional pain yes, (so should I have checked that one too?) very much so, but not physical pain, dogs can hang from my arms and I wouldnt notice, LOL
...He seem like he doesn't want to hurt people feeling and he doesn't want to said bad thing to anyone or he doesn't want to be rude also he tend to get hurt easily by the bad mood or action of people easily and feel pity and discourage if someone hurt his feeling and lastly he tend to hide his truth feeling to people and not show it to them when he get anger or get annoy by them
I often get confuse of him can someone let me know please if he a HSP or not?
It is very difficult to determine whether he is a highly sensitive person from one paragraph of text. I can say that what you write about him does match being a highly sensitive person. You can buy/borrow Elaine Aron's book or go to her website and there is a series of questions which she has devised (based on research from thousands of interviews with people) to determine whether someone is highly sensitive. If you can, have him do it. If not, it gives you a guide. All the best!
After 4 years of thinking there was something completely wrong with me, and getting depressed and being put on anti-depressants from the age of 16, i now know why my past situations caused me so much heartache and pain. If i was told i was a HSP, maybe i would have not suffered so much in the past. Wanting to get away, not being able to deal with people negative emotions, and getting comfort from the idea of escaping...all came from the HSP traits within me.
Thank you....I am all of the above - having been an Empath all my life I suffered greatly from not understanding why I am so sensitive. No one understood me and many times I didn't understand myself, but now I am grown and learning that my sensitivity is a BLESSING, A GIFT FROM GOD, and others can only strive to be as in touch with nature, people and animals. Love and Light to you dear Elaine. Thank you for this video.
It's a development through living. How you feel and think is developed on what's happening to you.
Everyone is born sensitive.
when it's hereditary, it's just because developed behavior personalities can be chained through parents, because family tends to wind up behaving to their children similar.
my psych diagnosed me with this and a few other things, i notice every subtley i can feel everyones energy all around me all the time which is annoying and crzy, she said i'm a mind reader, i'm learning a lot from her
I knew I was more sensitive and compassionate than my friends, but I didn't know it was something that could be diagnosed. I looked it up and read a list of effects and realised "I am everything on this list". scared :O
@jgl1277 You should never waste your time by reading other peoples findings. Instead analyze yourself and look into own brain all by yourself. It works! You will fix yourself! Good luck!
Fixing yourself? With no reflection at all besides your own reflection is like knowing the way out of your own maze but not looking at the reality that lies outside of that... you will be filled with amazement.
It's not wasting time... it's called "taking care of yourself".
I know you wrote 9 months ago and rustambayli's reply is now 8 months old but I just wanted to provide you with my thoughts.
I disagree with rustambayli's advice.That advice is like saying that you should find out where your wee comes from with nothing more than your own observations.As if reference books on anything are a waste of paper.Trying to self analyse emotions and psychology, which have no physical dimension, is even harder!
I only heard about this HSP a few weeks ago and it was almost scary to hear. 'Cause it was as if they were talking about ME. Almost everything was fitting... I would like to let my parents know about this 'cause I've never really felt understood..
when you are acutely sensitive, you can often fall prey to every energy vampire reptilian there is.. they feed off this insecurity and subtlety you hold.. they enjoy intimidation and making you react emotionally.
dont let them drive u into self harm, or shut you down, or depress u. in effect they are teaching you to be stronger within and with time you will learn to balance the energies of those who seek to dominate, control or manipulate..
who hasnt had a troubled childhood..? !
SovereignBeing 2 days ago
it's about me!!!!!!!!
11BrandA 2 weeks ago
Yes, this course of study is still being looked at by psychology and becoming more accepted as time and evidence for it builds up. Those without it are perfectly free to deny its existence, but for those of us who are not just emotionally sensitive but can feel sensations in our own bodies vividly enough to accurately diagnose something most people need xrays of (has happened to me before), along with a strong, sometimes overpowering empathy for those around us...it's a very real thing.
MuseSings 2 weeks ago
Also, to those who have been hurt or burned by an HSP you found self-absorbed and only sensitive when it comes to themselves rather than others and the world around them, I'm sure that can happen, as it can with non-HSP people. It's a trait that can end up with other traits attached (like a proclivity for selfishness). However, most of us acutely feel the pain and trauma, love and happiness of complete strangers as well (you can infer from that our empathy for friends and family is stronger).
MuseSings 2 weeks ago
HSP is not a syndrome or disorder. I see some comments saying that it's also called low anxiety threshold syndrome or neuroticism. No. Sorry, these are not the same thing. HSP is a trait, with benefits and drawbacks like other traits. Now, one of the downsides of this trait is that it can lead to neuroticism, depression and more, especially in societies that don't appreciate the benefits of sensory sensitivity or use that sensitivity to abuse or manipulate the HSP
MuseSings 2 weeks ago
:( it sucks being sensitive... im ruining my relationship between me and my bf :'(
TheMangaQueen 3 weeks ago
All these videos that oversensitive people process info more carefully, etc. WRONG! They're only more "sensitive" when it comes to issues concerning themselves, not necessarily others.It is an absolute living HELL for the person who is or was in a relationship with them because their "sensitivity" is directed primarily toward themselves. They have no objectivity, can't accept advice without interpreting it as criticism. Work on humility (Oops.can't tell them that because they're "sensitive").
mrtruthforever 1 month ago
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Wow everything u said, I relate and feel. I do not know where to go from here. I Can make people feel my energi aswell, people who do not believe me. without touching them, I feel a Magnetic energy around people, and it can push me, while sitting nxt to them. I sometimes have to go and put my hands in cold water because they feel uncomfortable, and full of energy, it helps. I can feel others phsysical pain, hard to explain, but if i focus my energy, I feel tthe excact same pain. i need guide...
allermann1 2 months ago
she makes it sound like a disease, i mite have it... me and mi mother oh well.
Marieeazy 3 months ago
@Marieeazy "Disease” is too harsh a word; this word is negative and loaded – it implies you can’t do anything about it, and your fate is doomed to be controlled by emotions. To be sensitive, however, isn’t entirely negative; you’re certainly not doomed. It is important to realize that we’re capable of adapting – and this is the best trait of all, because it’s useful. Adapting means a few extra changes here and there, but if it makes life more manageable – it’s a positive that goes a LONG way.
BladesOfMunch 3 months ago
@BladesOfMunch yeah i agree
Marieeazy 3 months ago
I don't know what to label anything, highly sensitive, extra sensory, whatever. But the things that take shape in my conciousness are beyond description and I always wish I could convey the abstract imaginations I entertain myself with.
IIemzyII 3 months ago
Im a freshman at a private High School and Ive always been known to be very sensitive and shy. A teacher one day made me pick up trash and when I asked him why he told me "quit your bitching". i never knew how much that could really hurt me since ive never been treated so badly. I dont know what to do about it, if I just ignore it it seems as if though Im weak and cant deal with my problems. Im too shy to talk to anyone about this thats why Im typing this, can anyone please give my ann advice.
EHvicefaction 3 months ago 7
@EHvicefaction : i don't know how to help you but i give you some tip:switch your focus on people who are very less fortunate than to yourself.. like watching documentaries about it, coz this helps me realize.. also watch movies or listen to music that will surely gives u a positive effect.. this shifts my nega moodiness.. then, i've just realize if we,HSP can't help ourselves, i think we can offer our help to others:offer free help to an orphanage near on your home, and doing diz 4 3 months..
TxChoY123 3 months ago
@EHvicefaction : I've just think of it.. since i'm an HSP i'll be living my WHOLE life being like this, a sensitive person who can't manage his own self but it doesn't mean that i can't change.. that i could still rise up.. hmm.. i don't wanna be anybody else but i can be better me(you).. soon.. after hard-work.. and self-meditation.. i can stand not as high than others but still.. at least, 4 once in my life, I've stand confidently.. hehe.. ~^-^~ God bless to us all.. ~^-^~
TxChoY123 3 months ago
@EHvicefaction i think it's pretty bad that you're teacher said something like that. i'm pretty sensitive and shy too. the sound of that statement kind of cuts into my heart a little. but i'm sure 99% of the people you meet will not want to hurt you. people just have different perceptions and their own way of understanding people. we can't really read each other's minds so yea... people are usually nice to me too since i'm shy. sorry i don't have any real advice to give you.
bubbles02010 1 month ago
@EHvicefaction
No teacher should be making YOU pick up trash,....unless you are the one who threw it in the first place,......or if it is some kind of group project.
I would state, "You either explain yourself, or I am reporting you!" It looks like emotional abuse to me, and this so called 'teacher' has found someone to manipulate, and push around.
Bark out, "HELL NO, and if you try this again, you won't have a job!"
That ought to work beautifully.
Love, & strength to you!
rainbo5250 2 days ago in playlist Health & Nutrition
Especially since 1999, I have had my life dragged through the sewers. I've had some really, really shitty stuff happen to me. I have also done some really, really shitty stuff to myself. The worst of it was about one and a half years ago now. April 2010. Somehow, I survived. I'll be stuffed if I know how. I mean physically survived. I almost died. It was very soon after 20 April 2010 that I heard about all this high sensitivity stuff. It was a real revelation. Anyway, now I'm cool.
LifeIsTheGreatest 4 months ago
i think hsp are smarter and kind of different in a good way, i'm highly sensitive btw :)
1994jordanian 4 months ago
are we ment to be with society? how is it even possible to think evrythings gonna be alright around such non sevsitivity?!
ichai1 4 months ago
Being overly sensitive can actually be a form of self love.. You`ll notice that the bigger the ego someone has the more fragile their ego can be.. For example if a woman is extremley beautiful and some guy makes a negative comment about her appearance, It would actually bother her much more than a woman who is just average looking.. People who are very sensitive usually have a high opinion of themselves and that`s why they can`t take any criticism
Goldenchild795 4 months ago
@Goldenchild795 How do you know that? Some people are just sensitive. Some beautiful people know a lot of people like them will not care if one guy says no to them. I hate when people say I have a big ego because I am sensitive. What does one have to do with the other? Some people are very critical of themselves and someone else contributing to their negative feelings of themselves just makes it worst.
TopazScorpio909 3 months ago
@Goldenchild795 your comment is so true!!! thumbs up!!!
kambridge967 2 months ago
Lovely clip - very calming voice.
Abbi81able 4 months ago
Everything has more sense now. Thank you! Blessings and smiles to you!! ♥
mungosmahan 5 months ago
i just did the test and i am highly sensitive i did not even know! cats love me for some reason i can feel peoples moods and if its bad it affects me its like having a second pair of eyes you can suss out the good and the bad i hate arguments violence and seeing people getting hurt it really upsets me nasty peoples comments so sensitive i kept quiet is it a good thing to be i dont know love junysawrus
junysaerus 5 months ago
Another thing, I sense people's energy and intentions. If they have negative energy, that energy affects me by draining mines. At least I can sense it, so I back away from them or keep them at distance, so it doesn't affect my harmony. I am extremely curious, so that makes me highly nervous and aware. I am also a perfectionist, always trying to do everything in the best way possible. =(
Scorpiusgrl 5 months ago
trance. It's like I am in the present and past at the same time, damn it's so strange I have a hard time explaining. I see things other people don't see, I smell what other's can't smell, I hear what other's don't, and I feel what other's don't feel. I have trouble with very bright light, I like to be alone, I love art and music, and I do art and play instruments too. when a child, I was always seen by others, including my parents, as the eccentric, odd, paranormal child.
Scorpiusgrl 5 months ago
Wow, I definitely know I have this because a doctor once told me. Many people that know me well end up saying you must be HSP, and because I have taken a test too. I don't know if because of this, I see spirits and can feel their presence. I sense when the atmosphere changes when this beings are approaching. I have had telepathic experiences with a few people and they know it too. I also have had memories of past times(reincarnation)while doing something during the day, I go in some kind of
Scorpiusgrl 5 months ago
What a pile of crap. People need to stop looking for disorders and syndromes and conditions to explain away their own personal shortcomings and failures and just accept that SOME people aren't as good at a given activity as others. There are people that are good at LOTS of things, and people who suck at nearly everything.
Such is life. The sooner everyone accepts who they are, including their strengths and limitations, the sooner people will start being happier and healthier.
Xartavion 6 months ago
@Xartavion It's a physiological trait, like blue eyes. The brain works differently in HSPs. Have you read the book? You can't go by just this video and the comments here.
dorocasaubon 2 months ago
@dorocasaubon If you posit that this is a physiological trait like blue eyes, then by extension that means it's also tied to genetics in the same way blue eyes are. As such, in order for this trait to have managed to survive into the 21st century, people had to overcome the adversity of it - the same way they overcame the adversity of having blue eyes in a world dominated by brown-eyed people. Should we start a disorder or syndrome for those with blue eyes, too? Maybe a support group?
Xartavion 2 months ago
@Xartavion A lot of the comments here are from people who haven't read the book and don't know what they are talking about. People with this trait don't need a support group or to be told they have a syndrome or disorder. They aren't sick and they aren't special, they take in more stimuli than most people. If you have this trait, you just need to be aware of it because you have to modify your lifestyle or you may have problems. I have been hypersensitive to sound my whole life, can't filter it..
dorocasaubon 2 months ago
@Xartavion .. also to light, touch, etc. I couldn't understand why things like a tap dripping or clock ticking would drive me nuts and if I mentioned it to anyone, they didn't experience that. I thought there was something wrong with me, now because of Elaine Aron's book and research, I know there isn't. That is helpful. I am able to take better care of myself instead of pushing myself to take part in things that sap my energy quickly, cause me physical distress etc.
dorocasaubon 2 months ago
@Xartavion this trait is found in animals too, and it is genetic. this isn't open to discussion. it has been scientifically verified and statistically established. you're sarcasm is not funny, nor welcome.
SuperAnimalDrummer 2 months ago
@SuperAnimalDrummer Actually it kind of is open to discussion as it hasn't been cannonized into psychological texts as hardened fact like "drilling holes in the head is not a viable medical practice". G'head, look it up. I'll wait while you do. And I could give a damn whether you appreciate my sarcasm? Wah-wah, I'll send you a box of tissues to help you through the crisis of someone on the internet not taking you seriously.
Xartavion 2 months ago
@Xartavion okay tough guy. whatever you say.
SuperAnimalDrummer 2 months ago
@SuperAnimalDrummer "tough guy"? You're the one that chose to resurrect a dead issue, champ, and presume to condescend to me. Get your head straight.
Xartavion 2 months ago
@Xartavion You're interpretation of facts is idiotic. Ditch the self-righteous attitude.
SuperAnimalDrummer 2 months ago
@SuperAnimalDrummer Wow, child, let it go already. I'm not sure what "self-righteous" attitude you're talking about but I think it's past your bedtime as you're starting to see things that aren't there.
Xartavion 2 months ago
@Xartavion by the tone and choice of words that you are using you clearly don't know what we all are talkin about ... nor what is said in the video.... if you feel its a load of bs then your entitled to having this feeling but you don't have to call it out... just walk away
lilithmoon1979 3 weeks ago
@lilithmoon1979 Terribly sorry. I dd not realize the internet was intended for censorship.
Xartavion 3 weeks ago
@Xartavion and again you had the choice to walk away in peace but yet again you choose to show your ignorance...
lilithmoon1979 3 weeks ago
@lilithmoon1979 You're right, I should just admit it: you win.
But you know what they say about arguing on the internet - its kind of like the Special Olympics. Even if you win, you're still retarded.
Funny thing: YOU had the choice to fly right on by my comment in peace too, but elected to start some ridiculous argument with a comment from a month ago!
Xartavion 3 weeks ago
@Xartavion then why are u responding?
lilithmoon1979 3 weeks ago
If you are HSP it's important to find others who are sensitive in the way you are and at the same time don't shy away from trying to be with all kinds of people. But at the same time try to follow the idiom that birds of a feather flock together.
11xzxzxz 6 months ago
Some people are normal sensitive, many other do not detect a lot of things that are taking place.
Ineke210000 6 months ago
My mom has HSP, she has problems with her job as a nurse.
She works great, the patients like her and she has good colleague's.
But there are also some colleague's that don't understand how they heart her.
Even though most of them now she has it and she explains that she is extra
sensitive. I would just like to go with her and tell everybody to stop acting
the way they do.
themreerste 6 months ago
Wish I would have learned about HSP years ago. As a teenager, unlike my peers I preferred different music. Reading a good book or story would affect me deeply. I had (and still have) a much more vivid imagination than others. I knew I was different but didn't know why. Now I am a farmer and it is one of the best occupations for someone like me. Growing crops and working with animals is wonderful. The hardest thing is I have to work as an IT guy on the side, and dealing with nasty people.
farmerne 7 months ago 15
@farmerne Are You Happie With Your Job?i gotta ask
ichai1 3 months ago
@ichai1 It's ok when I am dealing with patient, sympathetic people. Having to deal with the nasty ones is bad. And actually the very worst are younger women in their early twenties. The new generation of young people today are a bunch of arrogant bullies.
farmerne 3 months ago
@farmerne
I can be easily excited with good and bad things, i am easily overwhelmed. I was literally paralized all my life due to shyness, anxiety and repression. Now I think about all that and feel stupid for being like that. I was certainly sensitive, but i dont think its biological.
vasu594 3 months ago
I think Dr. Aron was reading a script on this video. Probably, she was not so confident that she needed a script. :)
TheProctoy1 7 months ago
I am an HSP too. people often see me as multitalented. i sing, i compose songs, play guitar, piano, harmonica, flute, teach choir...classroom teacher, a licensed physical therapist..also good in sports. was a basketball varsity back in high school..also a football player..i can play table tennis well..read a lot of books and have a strong inclination to writing....i feel i am better than most of my classmates...but i feel nervous classroom, losing my composure..im terribly sensitive, a thorn.
TheProctoy1 7 months ago
I'm only 13 and i got highly sensitive on the test.
question me about troubled childhood im in it.
TheBANZEEE 7 months ago
How to overcome genetic/ learned behaviors.
Get over yourself.
Sovember 7 months ago
In other words, never getting completely calm in terms of sensitivity when studying, might be advantageous. We seek "calmness" for concentration.
But a balance of "calmness" AND high sensitivity might boost your memory.
This is of course a challenging task for many, but if it's made in to a project to obtain such a balance, you might manage it.
Seeking sensitivity for a boost in memory.
We're all different, so a managing something like this would be different from HSP to HSP.
Carebearbull 7 months ago
Conclusion:
Maybe, ones hormonal wiring can be used as an advantage.
When I think back of my few attempts on colloquies a year ago, I can actually remember in specific pictures the notes I made, the notes btw were trivial.
So it might be heavy and tiring to be a HSP, but actually making a study of oneself might make this "HSP" a skill.
E.g. work with people you know well, but In a place where there are many others.
The social sensitivity might boost your academic memory, by adrenaline.
Carebearbull 7 months ago
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So what's my point, well I'm most certainty a HSP.
Even though I have a great memory of social situations, my academic memory varies.
So the point here is that my social memory probably correlates with adrenaline i.e. other hormones. Studies have shown that adrenaline plays a huge role in memory. E.g. Post traumatic stress patients get more or less well when adrenaline is suppressed, that is during the time it's kept low.
Carebearbull 7 months ago
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I just realized something.
I'm a university student, I tend to study at home, because I get easily distracted else where, or I'll simply find it tiring to work in colloquies.
But, I think I haven't experimented enough with this.
I have an extremely good memory when it comes to social situations, I can remember every persons facial expression from a specific situation years back that others would see as a trivial one. I'm a man, I'd say I got a better mem than even the most gossipish women
Carebearbull 7 months ago
Thank you for this information. I will probably be blogging about this in the near future.
Bearfreaked 8 months ago
So, it all sounded very thoughtful until the end when she said "punishment must be gentler". Punishing people shows just how far we still have to go before we can start talking about being civilized.
Check out the zeitgeist movement if you want to learn more...
gojiberry1 8 months ago
As an HSP, I tend to hate other HSPs. They are so complicated and make everything difficult, just like how I used to be. It's possible to greatly suppress this trait, but it comes with a great cost such as extreme emotional callousness. For HSPs, sensitivity is attached to your emotions. So to get rid of it, you have to get rid of emotions. I used to have sociopathic traits and that was how I temporarily got rid of sensitivity. But I was obviously miserable. Being HSP is such a handicap.
jpzxcvbnm 9 months ago
its impossible for me to stay in a place with alot of people I feel like evryone is looking at me and i know they are not it makes me feel very uncomfortable
so i prefer staying at home and when I feel that i have to get out im going to a place alone in the nature a place that I know that no one is going there, am i the only one like that or its a part of HSP?
ichai1 9 months ago
im confused i dont know if im hsp or if i have social anxiety or if i just over analyze/observe people and situations. someone reply please
welderman9429380 9 months ago
@welderman9429380
I don't think anyone fits in a particular box or only one box. In fact, personally, I do not like boxes. They may be useful as a resource to help us understand ourselves, but that's it - only a resource.
ayemaya75 8 months ago
im confused i dont know if im hsp or if i have social anxiety or if i just over analyze/observe people and situations
welderman9429380 9 months ago
@RashawnDaDon I'd like to hear psychologists view of how the "best and brightest" people wrecked our economy and many businesses along the way.
fdh2006 9 months ago
@RashawnDaDon I think what you're asking is, do psychologists take advantage of people's desire to feel like they're not responsible for their failures by inventing new disorders to blame? This might be true in some cases, but what Dr. Aron here is saying is that people who experience failures as a result of this disorder of HSP ought to consider living their lives in a smarter way with a realistic view of their own capabilities and needs, and take the necessary steps to ensure they don't fail.
jpistoff 9 months ago
i just found out im an hsp after getting headaches for years and years throughout my childhood from what ive just come to realize is the emotional tension around me. i am 17 years old and im glad this video was posted so i know im not crazy lol. and it is true about our society and how sensitivity isnt valued anymore. this video was very helpful. ive also looked into this on another website and being an hsp is also considered being psychic, but on an emotional level.
FrikkenChicken 10 months ago
Been Highly sensitive and highly anxious since I was a child. We can look at being an HSP as a curse or take it in as what it really is disguised as, a blessing. HSP are capable of many great things. We just need to quiet the mind and learn how to control our nervous system before we can utilize our abilities to the maximum power. Our deepest struggles are going to give us the greatest strength one day, but only if we allow it.I wouldn't have the knowledge I have today if it wasn't for this.
OneUnderground 10 months ago
This is the first time I've ever heard Elaine Aron speak about HSPs in person, and I'm so excited to see it. I learned about Elaine's work and read her book only about 4 years ago, and I was so relieved to find it.
beekiebaby 10 months ago
It would be so great if there was a video like this by Ms Aron which explained high sensitivity to the non-HSPs... Like: What are typical behaviours that are typical for HSPs how they can be seen by their surrounding, and how they can contribute to making life with an HSP easier.
DontWorryBeTuby 11 months ago
Being highly sensitive (I could have been and still could be considered hyper-sensitive) is great, if one is able to overcome certain unavoidable obstacles. The most important journey in life is the spiritual one, and the HSP has an unparalleled ability to grow spiritually. Furthermore, we are able to see what is stupid or wrong with society. If anyone can change this world, it is the HSP! The most important thing for us is to believe in a higher power; I do that through Sahaja Meditation. Peace
thestoicdramaking 1 year ago
@thestoicdramaking I totally agree!
NikeshalovesCasey 11 months ago
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@thestoicdramaking I totally agree!
NikeshalovesCasey 11 months ago
HSP doesn't exist!! it does not have a DSM code.
jugglingfreaky 1 year ago
@jugglingfreaky just because it's not considereed a mental disorder does not mean it doesn't exist. I am a very sensitive person. I am very compassionate but sometimes I can take things the wrong way probably because I haven't ben able to a chieve a high self esteem yet... But I am working on it. In this society it is hard to fit in because there are so many "ideals" but we need to realize most people don't fit them.
NikeshalovesCasey 11 months ago
@jugglingfreaky just because it's not considereed a mental disorder does not mean it doesn't exist. I am a very sensitive person. I am very compassionate but sometimes I can take things the wrong way probably because I haven't ben able to a chieve a high self esteem yet... But I am working on it. In this society it is hard to fit in because there are so many "ideals" but we need to realize most people don't fit them.
NikeshalovesCasey 11 months ago
I don't find this extremely helpful, if this was said 30 years ago, I'd say thanks for saving me & others a lot of heartache & grief, but I guess since I'm not so dyslexic anymore & can read & little better. So I can somehow prove I'm not dumb & stupid & get a real job, I can throw away my artistic gifted ability which is drawing cos I couldn't read or spell for s**t, reasons I can't explain why, just couldn't, but I can draw the Mona Lisa, but I was still considered DUMB & STUPID to society.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
Unable to communicate with people properly, them always laughing at me saying they don't understand me, the simplest things too. Until they made me cry & hide, I thought I was getting somewhat stronger with age, but now I'm going trough menopause. Having the most disturbing headaches & most likely have to have heart surgery cos my heart's stuffed, the doctors brushed me off saying I'm having anxiety attack.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
Friggen sucks for me, always thinking there was something seriously wrong with me for nearly 43 years, my birthdays on the 21st of this month (yay) so friggen earth shattering, again (yay). Finding it difficult all my life to keep friends cos I felt so alienated from them & my family, feeling their feeling towards me. Calling me dumb, stupid etc & a fruit loop, nut case & the rest of the self pity crap I was lead to believe about myself, just makes it more worse for me.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
I have heard of her book but usually just ignore them but from watching this video i will have to recommend her book to my anxiety meetup.com group.
Tampa0123456789 1 year ago
how can you find work if you haven't been able to work like ever because of your sensitivity and had to quit all the schools? i mean, how does one get a job with no credentials and a ton of diagnoses? especially when you go out and are around people you get exhausted or sick or downright psychotic? how do you work like that? let alone find meaningful work? especially when you have no self esteem and are totally traumatized? i mean what are HSPs like that supposed to do?
LemonOdette 1 year ago
@LemonOdette
I have the same thinking! We are screwed forever. No jobs, no schools. I never even considered schools because I knew it would be impossible for me to utilize knowledge in real life environment. I think at one point we are going to see that there is no perspective for us. Just dying!
rafapak 1 year ago
@rafapak i changed my mind! we're not screwed! :D but it takes a perception shift!
LemonOdette 1 year ago
@LemonOdette
What does this perception shift involve? What should be done so that perception shift is accomplished?
rafapak 1 year ago
@rafapak well for everyone it's different cuz we're all different, so i can't say what works for me is for you, but Abraham-Hicks is awesome, i've recently discovered it. :) there's plenty of that on youtube even if you don't wanna buy their books and tapes.
LemonOdette 1 year ago
I am extremely grateful I found out about her book! Noise in particular has been a real problem for me. I have become ill from pushing myself to try to be like everyone else. No more!!
artemisshock 1 year ago
That's interesting, I didn't know there was such a term for someone like myself. I had thought about it and came to the conclusion that I and certain members of my family felt more pain in general. Perhaps society can learn how to be more humane and not traumatize those of us that are HSP. *I'm using the acronym already*
lordjavathe3rd 1 year ago
One thing about HSP people is that we prefer no contact or when need be "minimal" contact relationships.
Distance and space are greatly valued and appreciated.
themalina92 1 year ago
I wonder if anybody ever investigated suicide rate among highly sensitive people. I wonder if it is high or low
rafapak 1 year ago 2
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I just can't imagine HS kid not having a troubled childhood. To some extent it will always be such.
soultrail7 1 year ago
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soultrail7 1 year ago
this nervous system is inefficient! it doesn't do the job it is supposed to do. this is why many of hsp report that while learning sth they have to push very hard. Many of hsp report troubles with reading. this nervous system is weak and works poorly!
rafapak 1 year ago
As HSPs we're taught to think that this makes us "weak" or "damaged".....it's a pity that we actually believe them. I have a page for HSPs, if anybody wants to come join my slow growing community ("Sensitivity is not a Flaw" on Facebook).....the more, the merrier :)
jorabohem 1 year ago
What a precious therapist, your work is so appreciated! It took me a lifetime to understand that my sensitivity required a different space and timing with the world. This has affected everything. May you be blessed for helping others finding their way into security self esteem and independence.
singingmaya 1 year ago
Amazing.. simply Amazing... That's Me !!
2minutefix 1 year ago
thank god for dr elaine.befor i knew about our HSP,i thought i was having a mental disorder.having this makes it a little difficult for me to socialize.to them,i am just too sensitive:(
stylegal20 1 year ago
I came away feeling confused after reading this book. It told me how different i was and not understood by non hsp's. I feel i shouldnt go and socialise with non sensitive people cos they would think im strange. wtf? It didnt tell me ways to calm the system in these situations, apart from walking away and taking time out.
spacks77 1 year ago
ive just read this book it`s helped save my life.thank you so much.
xpxi 1 year ago
Qoute from vid
"you need to work on your selfesteem cause our culture generaly does not value sensitivity"
Why should i let myself be indoctrinated
if our culture doesnt value, there's something wrong with our culture
easyriders141 1 year ago 3
I am also a HSP
and I saw something called the linden method
does anyone know if this program works or heard about it?
Sabocalypse 1 year ago
I like being a Highly Sensitive person. I dislike chaotic and overwhelming situation. I do realise that I need downtime. But I like having 'a rich inner life.
Alicesliced 1 year ago
I've been wondering whether my sensitivity to loud noises and social chaos (and perhaps other forms of stimulation too) is unchangeable or not. It's quite frustrating to hear others suggest that I'm too sensitive or tell me just to get used it, since not only am I aware of my "problem", but am myself actively trying to deal with it, whether that involves getting used to the stimulation or avoiding some of it.
Thanks for the suggestions given in the video.
ougoah 1 year ago
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If you are not sensitive that means you are dead!
kovrcek 1 year ago
If you like me, are highly sensitive then you will most likely be aware that you had it from a very young age and it's a rare quality that few of us have. We were all born sensitives to a degree but our peers and family become the conditioning in which we change. Sensitive people work on a different vibe. I expect amny of you feel like me, like total strangers to this world and don't fit in. I'm not anti-social but I can't bare crowds or loud music or excess negativity or noise.
Agui007 1 year ago
I can, unfortunately, related to each characteristic and trait with the one exception of startling easily. I was always too much in tune with others' moods and body language. If I say good morning at work to someone else in another department and there is not facial movement or certain tone in the voice, I can feel devastated, even if I don't know that person well. If I look into someone's eyes, I feel I see too much and there is no defense, etc. It is tough existing like this.
CaledoniaJeanne 1 year ago
"work on your self esteem!!! right!!!
unseenmirage 1 year ago
it SUCKS! i feel so doomed, i seem to have a myriad of disorders and i know i am certainly a HSP. yes, yes, i can be a good artist, musician, poet blah blah blah i know. but things don't work like that for me - i can't isolate the creative side of me and sustain a consistent work ethic to further my talent cos i'm too messed up in my life in general BECAUSE of, guess what, my excrusciating sensitivity.
ohdoshutit 1 year ago 19
@ohdoshutit i'm also definately an exraverted HSP (kind of a show-off) and NEED people to feel alive, yet have a chronic habit of isolating myself from life and people. i live with depression all the time, have high anxiety and whenever i make a stab at a 'normal' life ie. job, relatioships etc. something always goes wrong and i retreat again. that's not even going into my addictions and dependencies....
ohdoshutit 1 year ago
@ohdoshutit Liked ur's, feel so DOOMED, mine goes a little further, OK a lot further. I don't just hear talking in the next room so to speak, I hear voices talking about me on the other side of a loud music blasting night club. An impossible frequency for any normal human to hear, but I do somehow, & if u r like me, u would be able to see, feel, hear, Oh, & talk to invisible people that most humans can't see, their apparently called ghost, spirits, angels etc. I call them people without a body.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
@dazlisalon i call them invisiible people
sexinthecityLV 1 year ago
@sexinthecityLV Have see them though, the only way I think we see invisible people is if our mind/brain allows us too. I call them people without a body cos I can see their energy, they still look like a real person standing there in solid form to me, they've never been smokey, see though or misty. Like ghosts/spirits r believed to only look like, but they can look like a black shadows & appear big, large or even huge but they not meant to frighten, it just their energy shape form.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
@sexinthecityLV They also can appear with no limbs but still in a solid human looking form. I know this cos I seen just a head, no body, smiling at me through my kitchen window, but the the top part of my window, like 12 ft from the ground window outside, just floating. & I was sitting on my couch just finished with mopping my floor, then something said look up at the the window, & I did, but still no one believes me even when I said he was more shock at my reaction, cos I wasn't shock at his.
dazlisalon 1 year ago
@ohdoshutit We're with you, mate. It sucks big time.
ginissimo 4 months ago
I am a highly sensitive person/empath and I have read The Highly Sensitive Person and it changed my life! It is amazing, however I am going through a down time now, and its so hard because of the 20% im an extrovert.......**but I feel like im losing it. Do you think its possible to lose this?** I wouldnt want to change for the world because I feel I have an important mission in life....
babyboi69100 1 year ago
Ahh! I can't concentrate because of her unruly left eyebrow.
Megriz 1 year ago
@Megriz ouch!lol
hotties3v3n 1 year ago
Wonderful and thank you, for the sensitive may I suggest trying this Natural remedy for living. to calm the mind & cope better. it will work for you. Just listen to these cds for: pain management, sleep, deep relaxation, recovery, breathing; rehearsal, morning &/or evening. I use these CD's and I am relaxed, switched on & sleep soundly & cope better. Practice this daily and be well. All the best. Google Relaxationforme U-tube yourbraintraining
EvettBrown 1 year ago
It would make me so mad growing up when the people closest to me would say "she's so sensitive." I'm a visual artist. I was born with the ability to draw, paint, or make things. I spent a lot of time alone. The world has always scared me and I don't know why it doesn't scare everyone. I'm on medication now for bipolar type 2. I started on med's after I had a mental break down.
jhartist123 1 year ago
yes it sucks being a HSP anxiety ridden person I am now 57 and have suffered anxiety,"shyness",hands shaking, feeling stoned/buzzed all my life.......was always anxious in my school/work years............right now I am not working I just cant handle it anymore and I dont receive any financial help.so slowly we sink into debt.I just feel locked out of the mainstream...I was hoping with age things would improve...one doctor said I have social phobia....but HSP also seems to fit the bill
capnvideo2006 1 year ago
The book & workbook were really interesting and very helpful...it's kewl to finally understand myself and know how to survive in this crazy world.
AngelAbove00 1 year ago
haha funny thing is i thought every charactersitic described about being a hsp was unique only to me, and thought was better than everyone else on the inside. but i'm wrong. it seems like other people, infact alot are feeling the same feelings how i feel in different situations.
llJAFYll 1 year ago
to JSHC I don't want to talk to you anymore. I don't think you are a nice person. I don't drink international coffee. I am a poor artist. Leave me alone.
jungzanima73 1 year ago
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Being a HSP is actually a gift because you can enjoy all forms of intimacy at a greater level then the average person can. With a bit of a caution and acceptance of oneself life will be easier.
MrBinieam 1 year ago
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MrBinieam 1 year ago
It is almost 6 month now since i found out I was highly sensitive and now I'm starting to really really enjoy life, for the first time in 8 years! (I'm 18) ( -.-' )
I've noticed many people really appreciate me as a friend also if I use my "skills" to really take care of our relationship. :D
It doesn't work if I'm overwhelmed though - then I totally lose everything.
So people, take care of yourself! If you do, it WILL get better.
athiria 1 year ago
I had a very difficult being HSP I starved myself to the point where I was almost dead.
jazzy4887 1 year ago
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Does anyone know if someone who is actually a hsp is frequently likely to be mis-dianosed as a person with high functioning autism or some form of atypical autism, as I feel I have been?
springrobin 1 year ago
Does anyone know if someone who is actually a hsp is frequently likely to be mis-dianosed as a person with high functioning autism or some form of atypical autism, as I feel I have been?
springrobin 1 year ago
How does this concept relate to latent inhibition? Its like HSP brains don't tune out background stimuli in the way a regular persons would. Latent inhibition tunes out those stimuli which are not good at predicting a certain event in classical conditioning. Its like the HSP brain stays open to stimuli an ordinary brain would simply ignore. Surely these two concepts are intertwined.
bangthatdrumb 1 year ago
I'm having a hard time reconciling this quality with being a gift. It makes my life unlivable by the standards of modern society. I wouldn't mind living in a cave on the Savanna though, boy that would be sw-eee-t.
bangthatdrumb 1 year ago
It's more and more complicated to be HSP, in a society that prefers a overbearing work schedule to quality work.
Jeustful 1 year ago 33
@Jeustful Yes. This is why i resigned from my last job in the government. I was so focused on quality over quantity, and they had the opposite view. I don't know what career to pursue now :(
Reddogg387 7 months ago
way to go! good to bring this information out into the world. A lot of us are so happy with the acknowledgements, including me;-)
pinkladyenrose 1 year ago 3
She's reading from cue cards. Not impressive.
JesusSucksHorseCock 1 year ago
@JesusSucksHorseCock Do you have anything nice to say? If you were trying to hurt my feelings about my comment on this video, you succeeded. By the way, you ended your criticism (a sentence) of me with a preposition. Maybe you need more education. This lady has a very nice video. I think you're very disrespectful.
jungzanima73 1 year ago
@jungzanima73 First, I have many nice things to say, but not to a sanctimonious and vapid YouTube goddess . Second, I don't give two cross-eyed, chocolate-covered fucks if you have problems with prepositions, split infinitives or wearing white socks after Labor Day. Finally, I have read almost all of Dr Aron's work, and am very impressed with most of it, but not at all impressed at how she, in her own words, created "an elite" out of her study group. Now STFU. Crying is not a virtue!
JesusSucksHorseCock 1 year ago
@jungzanima73 One other thing: If you're such a persnickety grammarian, what have you to say about Aron's first book, "The Highly Sensitive Person?" It's LOADED with grammar errors and typos. There must be three instances of "then/than" errors. Go sit in a corner and drink your internationally flavored coffee and wallow in sentimentality all you like; Aron's book has merit but her approach to documentation is no better than most self-help fluff tomes by hack shrinks. She needs an editor!
JesusSucksHorseCock 1 year ago
I took the Self Test, 26 out of 27 are true of me, the only one that dont apply to me is I am not sensitive to physical pain, emotional pain yes, (so should I have checked that one too?) very much so, but not physical pain, dogs can hang from my arms and I wouldnt notice, LOL
Britishspitfire 1 year ago
I took the Self Test, 26 out of 27 are true of me, the only one that dont apply to me is I am not sensitive to physical pain, emotional pain yes, (so should I have checked that one too?) very much so, but not physical pain, dogs can hang from my arms and I wouldnt notice, LOL
Britishspitfire 1 year ago
I have MCS (multiple chemical sensitivity) is this the same? MCS'ers are sensitive to toxic's in the environment. Does HSP lead to MCS?
yennil9 1 year ago
Is my friend also a HSP too?
...He seem like he doesn't want to hurt people feeling and he doesn't want to said bad thing to anyone or he doesn't want to be rude also he tend to get hurt easily by the bad mood or action of people easily and feel pity and discourage if someone hurt his feeling and lastly he tend to hide his truth feeling to people and not show it to them when he get anger or get annoy by them
I often get confuse of him can someone let me know please if he a HSP or not?
Ricciardi82 1 year ago
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It is very difficult to determine whether he is a highly sensitive person from one paragraph of text. I can say that what you write about him does match being a highly sensitive person. You can buy/borrow Elaine Aron's book or go to her website and there is a series of questions which she has devised (based on research from thousands of interviews with people) to determine whether someone is highly sensitive. If you can, have him do it. If not, it gives you a guide. All the best!
LoveHeartLogicHead 1 year ago
After 4 years of thinking there was something completely wrong with me, and getting depressed and being put on anti-depressants from the age of 16, i now know why my past situations caused me so much heartache and pain. If i was told i was a HSP, maybe i would have not suffered so much in the past. Wanting to get away, not being able to deal with people negative emotions, and getting comfort from the idea of escaping...all came from the HSP traits within me.
DemmiXxX 1 year ago 28
Thank you....I am all of the above - having been an Empath all my life I suffered greatly from not understanding why I am so sensitive. No one understood me and many times I didn't understand myself, but now I am grown and learning that my sensitivity is a BLESSING, A GIFT FROM GOD, and others can only strive to be as in touch with nature, people and animals. Love and Light to you dear Elaine. Thank you for this video.
Ascend2013 2 years ago 5
It's a development through living. How you feel and think is developed on what's happening to you.
Everyone is born sensitive.
when it's hereditary, it's just because developed behavior personalities can be chained through parents, because family tends to wind up behaving to their children similar.
nagzul 2 years ago
im so glad i finally found whats been wrong with me for 22 years!
my life actually might make sense now
reuu1 2 years ago 5
You will end up knowing that there is nothing wrong with you.
There is NO such Thing as Being WRONG about yourself.
One can admit though that he has been wrong... but then again that is something on a different level.
XtOfje 2 years ago
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@reuu1 You will end up knowing that there is nothing wrong with you.
There is NO such Thing as Being WRONG about yourself.
One can admit though that he has been wrong... but then again that is something on a different level.
XtOfje 1 year ago
my psych diagnosed me with this and a few other things, i notice every subtley i can feel everyones energy all around me all the time which is annoying and crzy, she said i'm a mind reader, i'm learning a lot from her
aaronamccoy 2 years ago
What's the distinction between a troubled and normal childhhod?
anarchicmoon 2 years ago
Did it feel wrong or when looking back... does it feel right?
How do YOU FEEL about it is the question one has to ask.
You cannot judge with your mind but you have to measure with your emotions.
XtOfje 2 years ago
This lady just expanded me, my situations, and relationships, with absolute perfection.
Britishspitfire 2 years ago 3
I am HSP too but it toke me like a year to find out what it was and all.
Paganizernl 2 years ago 2
I knew I was more sensitive and compassionate than my friends, but I didn't know it was something that could be diagnosed. I looked it up and read a list of effects and realised "I am everything on this list". scared :O
Blythe93 2 years ago 3
Thanks for this clear practical explanation on what it means to be a highly sensitive person...I'm sharing out to people!
annewalshcoach 2 years ago
I´m HSP too!
I always know I´m diffrent and today i found a text about HSP and i thought OMG this it about me!
rosiCullen7 2 years ago 2
Is the shelve or camera skewed? LOL
rustambayli 2 years ago
Can anyone tell me what the difference is between being highly sensitive and having ADD?
foreverguga 2 years ago 2
Wow. I always knew I was different, but this describes me perfectly. Guess I should read the book. Any HSP wanna start a support group in North NJ?
jgl1277 2 years ago 5
@jgl1277 You should never waste your time by reading other peoples findings. Instead analyze yourself and look into own brain all by yourself. It works! You will fix yourself! Good luck!
rustambayli 2 years ago
Fixing yourself? With no reflection at all besides your own reflection is like knowing the way out of your own maze but not looking at the reality that lies outside of that... you will be filled with amazement.
It's not wasting time... it's called "taking care of yourself".
I'm amazed by your "advise"
XtOfje 2 years ago
@jgl1277
I know you wrote 9 months ago and rustambayli's reply is now 8 months old but I just wanted to provide you with my thoughts.
I disagree with rustambayli's advice.That advice is like saying that you should find out where your wee comes from with nothing more than your own observations.As if reference books on anything are a waste of paper.Trying to self analyse emotions and psychology, which have no physical dimension, is even harder!
I say: ***definitely*** read the book as a guide.
LoveHeartLogicHead 1 year ago
I guess this means I'm a sensitive person.
Arejek 2 years ago
I've been reading about HSP this afternoon and, wow, recognised so many things about myself. Crazy.
jazrusso 2 years ago
I only heard about this HSP a few weeks ago and it was almost scary to hear. 'Cause it was as if they were talking about ME. Almost everything was fitting... I would like to let my parents know about this 'cause I've never really felt understood..
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