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  • Real stuff bruh, that's deep

  • @MelissaBrune I don't think he ever meant everyone.. If so, it would be an ingrained trait and therefore not worth mentioning. Just saying.

  • Pastor is right!!! But.. I don't think loving someone or his walk with the Lord is the cake! Because, you can have two people that really love the Lord but still do NOT have ANY connection whatsoever.

  • Correct but if you really love the girl, I repeat, really love the girl, then, love her since real love is unconditional. You don't only love her good things but bad things too. The same with her, she will not only love your good things but also bad things. Let her use you and use that time of using you to make/fall in love to you. Love conquers all.

  • ...Thank yea x 100000

  • sometimes u cant tell ...

  • I've had that cake and icing convo before. Good stuff!

  • women are emotional beings... it ls nice to have man that we can see the same views in him that we have emotionally. its a good thing

  • BUT IF A GIRL CANT LIKE YOU FOR MONEY OR LOOKS WHAT ELSE IS THERE ..LOL! I MEAN THERE IS PERSONALITY BUT THAT USUALLY COMES WITH NO MONEY OR NO LOOKS.

  • @markhai2978 Your stupid..

  • THIS IS GREATTTTTTTTTT

  • lmbo!!!! but great msg!

    

  • giving a girl i like test answers because she asks me is that a way she uses me? or is it all in my head...

  • YOU ARE GOOD

    IF YOU WERE A COMEDIAN YOU THE BEST

    BUT YOU ARE SAYING THE TRUTH

  • TRUE WISDOM

  • Man... The Holy Spirit was straight up speakin to my heart! keep preachin!

  • DUDE!!! you are on POINT!!!! #PROPS

  • I was the "good man"....for 5yrs straight..I didnt jump the broom...no kids...(wipes sweat)..

  • My Dude!!!!! I thought it was just me...you are on point!! MUCH RESPECT!!

  • Would I wanna be with a girl who's only with me cos I give her attention? That depends on how hot and dirty in bed she is to be honest...

  • lol @ how often you mention Samson and Delilah in your vids but you keep up the good work these vids are great I truly think about a lot of things when I watch them!

  • WHOOO... #7 is SO TRUE! Some women are obsessed with the idea of getting married and planning a wedding and the white dress, etc. like that movie "27 Dresses" or "Muriel's Wedding." But, they don't have a clue about what marriage is all about and all of the hard work that is involved to have a healthy, successful marriage.

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  • TOO FUNNY AND TRUE

  • HAHAHAHA he said White Pigeons LOL

  • hahaha daddy shopping....

  • I bought the book, Every Woman's Battle earlier today and I'm already half way through. This book is really changing my life. If your videos weren't so awesome, I wouldn't have taken the recommendation! Thank you for that, Pastor Justin. Keep changing lives!

  • Deacon Petersonnnnnnnnn

  • Thus Is true cause some girls dnt like to be alone and will find any guy to fill that gap

  • i cant understand a word u said...

  • @brundle20 you probably wouldn't enjoy kevin hart's stand up

  • love it man.

  • Why did I get married part 3, lol.

  • Praise God for this PJ i have been experiencing this ever since Aug. when i switched churches. You all up in it bruh.

  • Im a woman and I agree with this, take heed.

  • amen

    

  • We need someone, we use someone.

    Ppl use other ppl all the time, it makes the planet keep turning...

    If a beautiful girl wants to use me, that's just fine

  • I think some of your points show a misunderstanding for how God has designed women and marriage. When a woman marries (esp Christian) she comes under her husband's authority. That's scary! When she's pregnant and can't work, do you think she really wants a bum who is lazy and weak? She likes a leader because she needs someone who will care for her and her future children! Only a fool would get emotionally involved without knowing there's some substance behind him.

  • Is It Cool If A Man Gets Thats Book. lol I Just want To Learn more about About Woman and what they REALLY deal with. lol. It Cud Better Help Me Understand.

  • YES #8...I Just Came To The Conclusion That A Woman Doesn't Know What She Wants. So I'm Going To Stay On The Sidelines And Not Try To Do Things Myself. I Do Get Tried Of Waiting, But Thank God He Is My Strength. lol.

  • Nice video. Are u a Christian by any chance lol ?

  • Thankfully, I watched this video before I met this certain girl. When I saw a few of these signs, I grew cautious and thankfully avoided what would have been a horrible relationship with a horrible person.

  • aaaahhh i love this video 4real this is truly for us lol great message you are wonderful

  • is there like different facebooks for people outside the uk because i live in scotland and i dont know how i could add you on facebook?

  • lololol!! @ 12:03

  • Every woman's battle - emotional impurity.... AGREED!!!!

    Love the book!

  • Well said brother

  • After watching this video it had me really think about who I was and who I am now. I did have a lot of those qualities but now I know that the only man I need in my life now is God and whenever he allows my husband to come I know that we can grow more spiritually together!!

  • I'm a woman and this vid made me evaluate myself in terms of my pasts relationships.. But this vid is really funny nice one!

  • Everything said here is 100% true. I'm a girl and when I don't turn to God for my fill, I look towards boys for my emptiness. Sisters, we need to remember that God is the ONLY ONE who can satisfy. Brothers, be watchful because ARE guilty of these things, and yes even without knowing it.

  • heyyyyy, why are u just helping the brothas? What about the ladies?? How do we know???????????

  • This is very enlightening as I was with a girl she said I was clingy cus she fell on a hill and would if slid down into a rocky fast flowing river so I grabed her and stopped her

    A few days later she dumps me she gets a new guy and now 4 weeks later she says she fancies me and is gona dump him to go back with me this is confusing me alot

  • after watching this video I ordered 1 of the books =] can't wait for it 2cum so i can read it

  • 3:43-4:49 happens to me all the time. I've lost a lot of women like that because of other dudes that look similar to me. I just shrug it off because I know it'll happen to me again since it has more than once. *shrugs*

  • finally a video for us man

  • That happen to me, it really open my eyes .

    but looking on the bright side, i'm not alive for nothing :)

  • "You can eat cake without Icing, but you can't eat icing with no cake - your Spirituality is the Cake<33" :) - AWESOME!

  • "Ohhh...what's up with Raheem tho?...but you know....i'm with you..." ROFL!

  • As females we can learn from this vid cos we might not even know we're doing it! big!

  • i dont care if im getting used if im tappin it

  • @hurican310 you going to get hurt at the end

  • As in brothas do u mean just black dudes

  • @MrIvannd

    looool Nah bro... Brother is a term used in church for males, whether black, white, asian etc.. we're all brothers in Christ. Ya dig?

  • @TREPMUSICONLINE2 i dig.

  • Your a great pastor amd you really know how to grab the young peoples attention and teach them well.

    Thank-you God bless you and your doings!

  • you make me laugh!

  • maaaan i can tell he was in that situation about (she wants a godly man until yall start bickering) lol

    i been there too haha

  • Wow, u one bangin pastor. But I won't give u the credit for the wisdom cuz it comes from the lord. I'm just glad I got the wisdom tho.

  • do you have any messages for how to know when a man is using a woman?

  • @pastorJustinofP4cm - Thank you fam! if i had a million bucks for eeverything you just said, i`d sow into your ministry! real talk.

  • where can i get the song!!????

    shout out to who ever that is.And keep it up fam!!!

  • Amen brother. Love from the UK

  • Pastor Justin you're killing me !! killing me !!

    the bit about girls falling for a guy with enough time is true!

  • Wow... I just told my girl that my relationship with Christ is not the icing on the cake of my life... I said He is the cake and she is the icing and until we both view Christ the same she is subject to idolizing me and/or the relationship.... bro. I said this to her yesterday and saw this clip for the first time today..... Confirmation by the Holy Spirit :)

  • @berdew1 wohoooooooooooooooo i love the cake thing cool verse amen my brotherrrr :-)

  • 11 months ago, I was guilty of being girl number 5: Afraid of being alone. Whenever my boyfriend and I got into, I'd end up flirting with somebody else. He made me realize what I was doing (through much of my denial), and he loved me enough to help me with that. I had to understand that being with someone else won't fix the problem that I seemed to have with myself.

  • WHITE PIGEONS?????? HAHAHAHAAHAHAH....i swear ths vid is hialrious....lol...but on a real...as a woman....it's real for real..lol

  • I have to admit that this is so true.

  • Hahahahaha Did he say "dongwong?!!!" Hilarious!

  • Loved the video...I'm goint to have to be doing a lil self-examining, as a sister. I read the book over summer. Ordered after you mentioned it in one of the Wednesday night bible study sermons. It was great...really recommend it. So good infact I made my little sister read it and then I ordered the Every Young Man's Battle and read that too before passing it on to my lil bro

  • This 100 percent, was for me. I was used in my last two relationships and didn't even realize it. This is church on Youtube!

  • I have a question

    I asked out this girl recently and i feel like im being used.

    Should i go on and try to make the relationship work or should i just drop it?

  • I love this video, it makes my day, PRAISE THE LORD!!!

  • I LOVE THIS!!!

  • I know this video was intended for guys, but there are PLENTY of females that this would be a blessing to as well, because bottom line if you are supposed to really be saved, then you have no business falling into any of these categories that you listed, but it certainly is a BIG EPIDEMIC, I am re-posting this vid my brotha, keep the good vids coming! :)

  • AMEN!!!!!!

  • i looked for that book online at the christian book store in my area and it said that it was out of print.... D:

  • all women dont just dream about the wedding..big weddings are overrated.

  • I study these things too and talk about it... I must say you are 100% on point

  • Your video is GREATNESS!!!

  • this video scares me away from girls

    thankyou!

  • real talk, this brother got me thinking real different now

  • Every Young Woman's Battle is an Amazing book

  • that book was great...

  • i seriously had 2nd thoughts about my relationship with my girlfriend.

  • One question , is 2 months enough for a guy to convince himself that the girl really likes him? Please reply. :)

  • @murcielagosegunda u shudnt get into a relationship with a girl unless you know she really likes you....if ur not sure after 2 months maybe you should rethink ur relationship

  • @gogoyubari361 thanks bro. i really appreciate your time. :)

  • lol.. "daddy shoppin"

  • I really enjoy all of your videos. Thank you so much for speaking truth and giving sound, godly advice.

  • yoooooooooooooooo this got me open

  • I loved the video, you hit everything on the spot.

  • I AM SOOO LIVING THIS RIGHT NOW AND I HAD TO PUT THIS TO THE TEST AND AS I THOUGHT, ITS SOO TRUE ABOUT WOMEN!!! Great word Pastor Cox!!! Continue to let God use you big bro

  • he speaking he tuth right thuree.. praise the lord

  • THIS IS THE TRUTH!!! LOL!!!!

  • I am going to go get that book!

  • He got me on the leader part. But being a leader is a good quality in a man. I don't want a follower...cause a follower might follow one of his friends into trouble. I want someone who will stick up for what he believes in!

  • Godliness is attractive to me.

  • A Man like loves cake - you know what I mean...... lol

    "Yo, son - she got that cake!"

  • I really enjoyed this video. I realized the immature cant handle watching it lol but Lord help them. =) Anyway Lots of good points in this video both men and women need the HolySpirit so they can discern the intentions of the people that inter their lives. This video also helps women take a deeper look at the real reason they want a mate! Great Post, Continue to let God use you! This did have me crackin up too! =) God Bless

  • Hey, Aftering watching this vid, has definately put into question for me what are the reasons for women wanting to be with some one or getting married? this is sad. Moreover if these statements are to be true of some women then there really aint not point to wanting along lasting relationship with one! better of showing them the red card ! 'Oyster card' quote Touch in and touch out! keeping it real

  • number 8 is totally true actually cant object to that at all.

  • i agree with some things you said but if some women want to be married to a leader or someone who shall be well off with money, you yoursel said in you why am inot married vid that you are not going to compramise, i want to marry someone who is educated andi know who will support provide for me and i support him.. does that make me one of thoese girls?

  • "U could not have no teeth in your head" LOL!!!!!

  • That book is very on point there is also 'every man's battle'.

  • That book is very on point there is also 'every man's battle'.

  • @14:54 DUDE SHE JUST STEP TO DEACON PETERSON!?!!??!

  • nothing unique about what he is saying, but I do appreciate the common sense and alert it brings to capture the feeble minded. People girls and guys talk about this daily they just do not listen to themselves...only preachers, hardly ever parents and the european aspects of thinking by ROPE MEMORY.

  • Im definately going to read the book, and this video is a blessing to both man and woman! Thank you!

  • Say Pastor J you hit on alot of points that I been thru! Keep up the Great videos & work! Peace Brotha!

  • His perspective is so unique and on point!

  • I really enjoy all of these video's! His perspective is always so unique and on point!

  • hey pastor i really enjoy ur videos. they're so true and funny. but i have one question for you. as a pastor, are you obligated to not talk about certain topics to the church? please get back at me. cuz ive heard some things.

  • great topic & content of information. very profound, prevalent & interesting. u can also add beware of women who like u because they know other women like u. they're going to be curious as to the buzz about u & eventually that curiousity turns into audacity. Also beware of women who like u because they know your history with women and how well you treated them. its easier for a woman to fall for or entertain a guy who knows how to treat her. This is what they talk about in their women circles.

  • great topic, great content of information, very profound and interesting. i also feel that you can add beware of women who like you because they know other women like you because they are going to be curious about whats the buzz about you and beware of women who like you because they know how you are in a relationship and how well you treated your woman. Oh yeah, they do talk about that in their circles. but great topic!

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  • i have good question for you can you still injoy life but still be christian

  • This ministered to me right on time, I was starting to like a brother in the church just because we are supposed to be working together this fall in teaching a class about deliverence and staying free. I found it very attractive that he is godly and that God put us together for this reason, but I knew that it wasnt right for me to like him just based on that. I dont even really know him beyond those two facts! So i thank God 4 this vid. By God's grace, I'll continue 2 be watchful and prayerful.

  • This was a very interesting vlog.. a lot of truth in it, for sure. I definitely think im going to check out that book. Never stop being a blessing Pastor Justin!

    Ps. What was the song that was playing?

  • I purchased the book this past week! Continue to let God work through you. Be blessed

  • this was definitely a blessing... i'm not exactly the attention seeking type. But I can't say some of these points had me saying "Could that be me?". It definitely made me take a step back and re-evaluate my emotional purity (something I've been wrestling with for a quick minute.

    Lookin for that book and lookin out for your next video =)

    Praise God for how He's been using you!

  • lol @i know u u good with your mama lol

  • LOve it Top to botom..

    Love the new intro.

    keep Praising God

  • does this advice work only if your a brother

  • Hey Pastor Justin (: Got the book...read the book. Man! Lots of things to keep in mind and put into practice but very very veryyy gooood book on how to be spiritually pure.

  • pastor justin mmm wat church you go to =)

  • I really enjoyed this video. It's so important for us, as women, to own up to our emotional weaknesses. If we remain prideful and think that we don't have to deal with this part of who we are, it will inevitably lead to our downfall. Women, we are emotional beings. God made us this way. Nothin to be ashamed of, but we have to make sure Christ is the one fulfilling that need. Thanks Pastor Justin for sharing this. I'm going to purchase "Every Woman's Battle".

  • @missivyleague82 Yes, I think you're right, but this is not the issue of every woman nor is it the experience of every man. Additionally, I know far too many men with emotional weaknesses that are neglected because emotions are regarded as a women's concern.

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  • hey pastor justin, what kinna camera do you use? its maaaad clean.

  • ordering one for myself and my little sister!

  • GREAT VIDEO!!!

  • I understand what he is saying, there are women who seek out friendship or relationships with men to fill their void. I'm torn about it though because I believe as women, made from man for man, we shouldn't feel sinful or unnatural for desiring to be desired or wedded by a man.

    Obtaining a man should not be our focus but as carnal beings in this world it's hard to avoid. This vid should have advised men on how to convict a womanto repent once these points are discerned, not ostracize her.

  • How did you get pass 10mins?

  • soo true ,but hows old is this dude anyway?

  • @acheck4s 35

  • truth!

  • I'm glad (for the most part) you said MOST girls... because i'll admit i HAVE (in the past) hung out with a dude just cuz i wanted attention... but after my last relationship i realized i wasnt in the right place (with god) and that's why it wasnt working...HOWEVER!!!! i have never WANTED to get a guy just to get married or because of his status or cuz he has moeny... that makes us seem shallow

    FYI everyone on youtube!!! most girls are NOT shallow like this... especially those in the church!!!

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  • @sleepyhead61

    Most women I have known outside of the church are shallow. I was once one of them. This message is on point! He isn't saying that most women fall into every category, but I do think he is saying that 9/10 women have/are/will struggle with something on that list. Another sad truth is that women in the church aren't that different. We all have the same struggles as women outside of the church...the difference and change only comes by recognizing that, repenting, and surrendering.

  • @viciouslady1 oh i know!!! but that's what i'm saying is i just wish he had said "most" more because i only remember hearing it once and it makes it SOUND like he's saying it to everyone... i agree there are gold-diggers and chicks hung up on status... i personally havent seen THAT in the church but like i said i have been a girl that hangs out wth a guy just cuz he gives me attention!! but i understand we do def. go thru the same challenges!!!

  • Loved it!

  • TRUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTH SO THE TRUTH THANK YOU

  • this is the THE TRUTH the name of this video should be THE TRUTH I would love to seek those books thanks for this many young men needto watch this this.........

  • click on my name to watch my video, share it and copy it before it gets pulled ;)

  • @WillEyePWNu

    Well, he is a man reaching out to young adult men and women. He tends to address the issues that effect us. Every topic that I have heard him preach on has been relevant and helpful. I am a 24 yo female and I think that this message is nothing but the truth!

  • HA HA HA HA HA  this is funny!!!

    I'm sure men don't like women for the same reason

  • PREECH BROTHA!!!!!!! NUMBER 5, SO TRUE

  • @ 04:42 whats up with Rahiem? LMBO!!!!!

  • @Christian900 dude really you can't say lmao? if i am ever to become a christian *highly unlikely..since im already spiritual. i wont bother trying to explain my non-dualistic beliefs / philosophy since mostly anyone on this page is going to see it as japanese* i would never...censor myself from saying words..if i want to say fuck. or ass..its so happening. lol or ass fuck. ha theirs not even any context to how i used it..context should be whats makes things offensive..

  • I Feel you. I Do the same thing. For that comment when I put ''LMBO'' I Just spelled it like that for that day. Idk why I just did. But I see where you coming from @MagicCryo

  • This is boring.

  • I can feel that

  • Hey Pastor Justin! This was a great video. I love that you are taking the time to address, identify, and rectify the issues that women struggle with. Your ministry is such a blessing. Virtuous Women Unite!!

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  • what's up with Raheem?