Gretchen, you have my undying admiration for putting yourself out there on YouTube. I can't believe the vituperation in some of the responses to this video; the ones you deleted must have been incredibly rude and horrible. I followed The Happiness Project for nearly two years and am just getting back to it after some very difficult family issues. You've done some great research and I'm thrilled for your success. Thank you!
I like this idea..a lot. It's very easy to take for granted the ones who are closest to us. It's also easy to beat yourself up for not being "perfect" all the time. This is a manageable plan for results-oriented people. Thank you, for sharing!!
NOTE: this is a continuation of my last post. Guess I exceeded the character limit. (:
Maybe you're stressed over your mother in laws visit. Maybe your friend forgot to pay you back for that coffee and you have no money for the bus ride home. Nobody can be perfect. It is a really good idea to try a week of being extremely nice. Nobody could possibly keep it up forever, but making the conscience effort to be nice will benefit yourself as well as others.
This is a really good idea. I understand what she means when she says that you can't keep up the "extreme" niceness forever. You can't always focus on pleasing others. Sometimes you have days in which you need to focus on what's happening in your own life as opposed to everyone else's. Of course, one should always try to be as nice as possible, but we all have those moments when we snap at someone. Maybe your boss is giving you a bit more than you can handle. Maybe you're stressed over your mot
What I think the Internet has enabled is the ability for people who are spineless to hide behind a keyboard and childlessly poke fun at people only to be hurtful. Seeing this video made me feel thankful that someone is trying to help us take a look at ourselves and to try to be a better person. We are all less than perfect and could all work on that. If you can do better, I challange you to do so!
deleted my commet? what's the matter? can't take an honest look at yourself, gretchen? can't face the fact that MANY of us don't have to make an effort to be nice.
i think you need to forget telling others how to live their lives and take a long, critical, HONEST look at what kind of person you are - from your videos, you come across as a very difficult, person to be around.
So funny... But hey ppl. Look up walking on air funny chose the first one. It's so damn just ull see. Nd also, look at the new year's eve video by the same group. I worked on it so yay! ;D check it out
So you normally don't put away your clothes but when you DID, your husband didn't notice it ?_? I can see how your husband won't notice that you cleaned the fridge or something but to not notice a clean house is.... o.O I don't get it. We can't be "extreme nice" all the time, but we could "try" every day, every moment!
Why don't you just try being nice every day, instead of being extremely nice on occasion. Quit taking him for granted and maybe he WILL notice and give you those "gold stars" that you so value. Seriously, how hard is it to put away your clothes and pick up your Popsicle wrappers? You are an adult, try acting like it.
@44enigma Everyone has their little habits, and if you're living with your husband full time obviously you can't be prim, perfect, and proper every moment of every day. Everyone tries to be nice every day, but at times we get so into our own lives that we stop making that conscious effort. Sure, it's easy to pretend like the world is perfect and that it's common sense to just be nice all of the time, but everyone can do with some reminding to just put in that little bit of extra effort sometimes
It's easy to rag on people, but I think she makes a valuable point in saying that we sometimes treat everybody better than our significant other. I think we forget that they are not obliged to be by our sides and to be grateful to them for putting up with us and what is sometimes our nonsense. One reason why "the honeymoon period" is everybody's favorite is that both partners are still openly expressing so much appreciation and consideration of each other. Why not keep it up?
It takes a strong person to be nice to others when they aren't nice back, and when you want to be nice and can't muster the will to do it, you feel guilty and helpless. That, IMO is why you're getting such hateful comments.
Other than that, I like the idea, but I think we could take it a step further and be nice in a productive way, like helping people in need.
@groundzerosystem Yes. when one makes it a "goal" to be "nice" they are serving no one but themselves, so they can pat themselves on the back. It is the most phony and self serving of behaviors. It is called being manipulative.
HEY pale subhuman sewer skunk cra*cker fa^g/got...tell your cancerous pale wh*ore warthog mother to finish eatin the pigs*** from the back of the barn...then kill your worthless self pale subhuman sewer skunk cra*cker fa^g*got
sorry my gorable ennglish but there is 1 moment to ger respond bak. you must known hu youre partner is such as (vizual, audial kinestetic or digital) its depens wich channel of informacion get to person better its meen effective! i am 3 grade psychology student. (ist just for note)
Is she for real, or is this just a whole "Poe's Law" sort of thing? I really can't tell.
I mean, look @ the thumbs- -down v. -up.
Then, ask the bad-ppl, predators & value-destructive folks if they like having ppl turned-in2 mindless sheep (w/ sunshine beaming-out thr @ss) -- ripe 4 the picking.
Then, ask how much a can of peas would cost if we ALL had 2 add that much pretentiousness 2 the mix.
Probably useful in SMALL (strategic) doses; But otherwise, only a "NICE" pipe-dream.
people are so funny. i mean they make so much out of this simple idea. her idea could be applied to any of us, with or without a spouse and is a good idea.
Being nice only gets you so far, pretty soon your going to revert to old habits and if you have trouble being nice to someone you probably should even try
I fail to see any originality or practicality in the concepts you describe in your videos. In fact, it reminds me too much of the "you must be happy all the time/happiness is the final goal" propaganda of society.
I think that making an extra effort to not annoy your loved one with slovenly habits is a good thing - Why not keep it up forever - seems like a small effort.
That's a nice sweater, and I really like your earrings. You are a natural in front of a camera, and I think you came across well. But as another poster pointed out, maybe trying to improve the way you deal with people on a regular basis might be even better.
or, you could re-aquaint yourself with reality, where there are people who will kill you simply because you're there. People hate because it's part of their instinctual makeup. Greed exists because it's part of self-preservation. Life isn't nice. This "fragile, beautiful world" you assholes are all so fond of is doing it's level best to kill us all every day. "Niceness" will just get you used, abused, raped, murdered, or something else unpleasant.
@urielthelesser - What you described is not reality. There are darned few people out there who will "kill you simply because you're there". Are there bad people? Sure. Do they outnumber the good ones? Not even close - otherwise how could we hever have built a society? Should one take reasonable precautions against being abused? Sure. But you can still be "nice" at the same time. Take your unwarranted negativity somewhere else, please.
The big picture is this. We walk around thinking..(and this is where it all goes wrong). If you can stay in the present moment you have a real shot at truly being peaceful & nice. BUT when we are constantly thinking about either the past or future and ignoring the present moment then old angers come to mind, and then resentment rears it's ugly head and whoever was on our radar gets blasted the minute you see them. NOT so NICE! Listen to Mastering Alchemy to learn more. It's simple but not easy
those without sin can throw the first stone!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats what i thought lol...no1 here can throw one damn stone !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so dont judge her you goofz, thhhbt!
at least she is honest that is more than most of you inconsiderate immature fools that im guessin dont even have a spouse . me personally have been married over ten years "successfully" and yea it can be tough when u live with SUM1 FOR LONG TIME cause we all have things about us that can annoy lol, but LOVE CONQUERS ALL!
You should probably just become more accustomed to oral sex to shut yourself up and in return you could possibly become more accustomed to more jewelery and such. Give it a try. Poor guy.
reading all these useless comments surely shows that this woman is much better than anyone of you could ever be. sad, that in this world no one is allowed to tell his thoughts and feelings without being slammed with stupid statements. instead of hearing things like "good try. you are right" or "I don't think you did it well" people are confronted to things like "bitch", "gay", "dumbass" etc. make love, not war. peace (Y)
@JustinIsraelWaggoner And if her husband doesn't notice it and shower her with goodies for it he'll have hell to pay. This woman is a buck toothed monster.
@JustinIsraelWaggoner Once people get married that IS true. People do blur the boundaries of respect with each other because they get comfortable and know what they can and cant do. Think about it, people DO treat their family or loved ones a little less respectfully then strangers because they will be there for you no matter what.
Jeebus, posters, get a grip. You're all acting like Gretchen said she regularly pours arsenic into her husband's soup. She's not being bitchy or heartless--she's just saying that people as a whole often treat their loved ones with less politeness than the average stranger. The truth of the matter is, we ARE more polite to strangers because we don't KNOW them. Familiarity often causes a lapse in manners because--especially in the case of family--we know that person will love us anyway.
"... I realize that, although my husband is the love of my life, and the center of my life, I often treat him with less consideration than other people who are far less important to me."
She did not use the all inclusive "we". Sure some people are like that, but people who are actually positive aren't like that on a regular basis who have to struggle to behave nicely for a week. Usually they are the opposite where they have bad weeks they temporarily struggle with.
@Chipwhitley274 Point taken about the all-inclusive "we". However, I still stand by what I said and I find it distressing that so many people are getting this ugly over what Gretchen said. Honestly, I don't believe she's being as negative as posters are interpreting. "Less consideration" doesn't mean "horrible witch". While my sister-in-law always thanks me for helping her make dinner, she isn't always as effusive when her husband helps--because his help is expected. Doesn't make her bad.
@daraelise If yer not treating yer "loved ones" as politely as the grocery store clerk, then jump on yer bicycle 'cuz y'all got sum pedlin' ta do! OK, ok already, I know yer right, Dara, but being edgy or mean spirited w/ peeps that luv ya erodes affection. We all hav feelings dat can be hoit. So JEEBUS POSTERS y'all, get to work! BTW, great comment :]
@willyIV Hey, Willy. :) I've rewatched the video, and Gretchen doesn't say that she treats her husband poorly. She just says that she doesn't pick up after herself as much as her husband would like, and she sometimes grumbles when her husband makes a request. Honestly, this doesn't make her--or anyone else like her--an awful human being. What person hasn't made a face at least once when his/her parent/spouse/roommate asks him/her to take out the trash or clean the stove?
@daraelise wait people are nicer to strangers? everywhere i go people point and stare and laugh at me, and whenever i introduce myself to people in a non-formal setting they either ignore me or start making fun of me. not because i have some odd physical deformity or because i dress weird, but because i look young for my age. if that's people's way of being kind to me then i'd hate to see how they treat their loved ones.
@daraelise No, she's just calculating and manipulative. When one is truly "nice" or kind they do not expect anything in return. This woman is doing it to get what she wants. Manipulative bitch is the phrase that comes to mind.
You treat the "love of your life" with less consideration than other people that are less important? You're idea of being extremely nice is to pick up after yourself?
@ytmachx You're dumb. Is actually pretty common for close people be treated less than other people. Think of it as, let's say, your mom (yeah, you must be fucking young to post something so stupid) and your friends. Almost all kids grumble more to their parents than to their friends, CAUSE THEY ARE NOT AS CLOSE SO IT'S EASIER TO LOSE THEM.
why is everyone about karma nowadays? its just idiotic to think some cosmic power would reward you because of you being nice. its just a sign of desperateness. its blaming your failure on something else than your own incompetence.
Proofs of Love?? This may be interpreted in many contradicting ways. Being nice it´s not only pleasing your husband as an automatic machine. Please, understand that communication works in two ways. Extreme Nice or Extreme Depending??
it's a good experiment. if you want to get it absolutely right you need to study Jesus. not some who call themselves christians but Jesus. righteousness is not an act
most women are completely and totally disrespectful of men and they have no idea how disrespectful they are. Don't you think men get tired of constant complaining? Wouldn't you?
The whole video is about "Don't", painted under the guise of Nice. Don't fail your marriage. Don't fail expectations. Don't pester. This is some inner voice that keeps playing over and over "don't, don't don't" like a broken record.
You have to find "Do." It doesn't matter how you find it. You might have to strip yourself of everything you own.. tear it all down and find out what your guiltless and childlike "do" is. It's not about high expectations for yourself. Peace inside.
If I was that nice to my wife, by Wednesday she'll have broken down and started demanding to know what it is I want from her. By Friday she'll be convinced I was feeling guilty about something really major and looking for evidence of an affair.
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Fuck you bitch. I'm fucking miserable, other people look down at me with contempt, I have a shitload of stuff to sort out, and you tell me to be "nice." Eat a fat dick.
here i'm am looking like am idiot, thinking this would be video of some little kid trieing to be nice to his parents or something. instead, i was shown....umm....i'm not even sure what this is...
Well the only thing I know for sure that she got right was that their is no love only proofs of love. Go read 1 Cor. Chapter 13 in the bible to find out what love really is and keep reading to find out how God can give you the power and strength to not just try this for a week, but to change you to walk in his ways of love.
@CogitoErgoCogitoSum Don't know how you've gotten so many thumbs up, your comment is totally irrelevant. She was talking about being extremely nice to her husband, not a stranger.
"Only proofs of love" - this recalls a quote from the Divine Secrets of the Yah-Yah sisterhood, from a mother's advice to her daughter: "Forget love. Try good manners."
Thanks so much for your kind note -- I so appreciate it! Good luck with YOUR happiness project.
GretchenRubinNY 5 months ago
Gretchen, you have my undying admiration for putting yourself out there on YouTube. I can't believe the vituperation in some of the responses to this video; the ones you deleted must have been incredibly rude and horrible. I followed The Happiness Project for nearly two years and am just getting back to it after some very difficult family issues. You've done some great research and I'm thrilled for your success. Thank you!
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PrinceCharming1233 1 year ago
Thank you for a video about bettering yourself.
It is very refreshing!
AllCityUnit 1 year ago
this was nice! thanks for sharing :)
roachafella112 1 year ago
I like this idea..a lot. It's very easy to take for granted the ones who are closest to us. It's also easy to beat yourself up for not being "perfect" all the time. This is a manageable plan for results-oriented people. Thank you, for sharing!!
stylegirlinsac 1 year ago
Sandwich?
Caxwell33 1 year ago
Wow, you're husband gets one week of you being nice....lucky guy..
SocoAL87 1 year ago
I absolutely love this lady. To all you haters, have a great day.
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MagikHandz007 1 year ago
NOTE: this is a continuation of my last post. Guess I exceeded the character limit. (:
Maybe you're stressed over your mother in laws visit. Maybe your friend forgot to pay you back for that coffee and you have no money for the bus ride home. Nobody can be perfect. It is a really good idea to try a week of being extremely nice. Nobody could possibly keep it up forever, but making the conscience effort to be nice will benefit yourself as well as others.
pinkjellybelly123 1 year ago
This is a really good idea. I understand what she means when she says that you can't keep up the "extreme" niceness forever. You can't always focus on pleasing others. Sometimes you have days in which you need to focus on what's happening in your own life as opposed to everyone else's. Of course, one should always try to be as nice as possible, but we all have those moments when we snap at someone. Maybe your boss is giving you a bit more than you can handle. Maybe you're stressed over your mot
pinkjellybelly123 1 year ago
I dnt lik u...
Graceling13 1 year ago
You should have seen the comments! Zoikes.
GretchenRubinNY 1 year ago
I've never seen so many comments censored by an uploader. She must be related to the Chinese government.
yatah 1 year ago 2
This is a great idea.
donbullockjr 1 year ago
What I think the Internet has enabled is the ability for people who are spineless to hide behind a keyboard and childlessly poke fun at people only to be hurtful. Seeing this video made me feel thankful that someone is trying to help us take a look at ourselves and to try to be a better person. We are all less than perfect and could all work on that. If you can do better, I challange you to do so!
gqlite 1 year ago
Great advice Gretchen.
heavenbliss 1 year ago
deleted my commet? what's the matter? can't take an honest look at yourself, gretchen? can't face the fact that MANY of us don't have to make an effort to be nice.
i think you need to forget telling others how to live their lives and take a long, critical, HONEST look at what kind of person you are - from your videos, you come across as a very difficult, person to be around.
beavis4play 1 year ago
sounds ok to me... ill try :)
javiixJ 1 year ago
go away haters, back to your week of extreme mean.
lrobe27 1 year ago
Why is she talking like we are all little kids?
superskwrl 1 year ago
So funny... But hey ppl. Look up walking on air funny chose the first one. It's so damn just ull see. Nd also, look at the new year's eve video by the same group. I worked on it so yay! ;D check it out
breebearrockssocks 1 year ago
COOL!
PEREZCHOOCH 1 year ago
So you normally don't put away your clothes but when you DID, your husband didn't notice it ?_? I can see how your husband won't notice that you cleaned the fridge or something but to not notice a clean house is.... o.O I don't get it. We can't be "extreme nice" all the time, but we could "try" every day, every moment!
DhwaniM 1 year ago
no matter what people say, I like your rants !
nethacker91 1 year ago
Maybe your New Yearth retholution should've been to work on your thpeech impediment, tweety bird.
lulzmusic 1 year ago
so why can't u just be nice to him all the time ?
omega666ification 1 year ago 2
I bet you I stopped listening before you did.
meedily 1 year ago
"It feels extremely nice to be extremely nice. But I could not keep it up forever." Huh? So if it felt awful then you could keep it up forever?
guyNbluejeans 1 year ago
Might sound lame but the old "Treat others the way you want to be treated" saying is pretty good.
GoldenChildBH 1 year ago
You shouldn't be expecting "gold stars" for stuff you're just supposed to do anyway.
IamtheBurceDickenson 1 year ago
Why don't you just try being nice every day, instead of being extremely nice on occasion. Quit taking him for granted and maybe he WILL notice and give you those "gold stars" that you so value. Seriously, how hard is it to put away your clothes and pick up your Popsicle wrappers? You are an adult, try acting like it.
44enigma 1 year ago
@44enigma Everyone has their little habits, and if you're living with your husband full time obviously you can't be prim, perfect, and proper every moment of every day. Everyone tries to be nice every day, but at times we get so into our own lives that we stop making that conscious effort. Sure, it's easy to pretend like the world is perfect and that it's common sense to just be nice all of the time, but everyone can do with some reminding to just put in that little bit of extra effort sometimes
cheersforale 1 year ago
It's easy to rag on people, but I think she makes a valuable point in saying that we sometimes treat everybody better than our significant other. I think we forget that they are not obliged to be by our sides and to be grateful to them for putting up with us and what is sometimes our nonsense. One reason why "the honeymoon period" is everybody's favorite is that both partners are still openly expressing so much appreciation and consideration of each other. Why not keep it up?
kookooboy 1 year ago 2
"It feels very nice to be extremely nice"
94jamiec 1 year ago
It takes a strong person to be nice to others when they aren't nice back, and when you want to be nice and can't muster the will to do it, you feel guilty and helpless. That, IMO is why you're getting such hateful comments.
Other than that, I like the idea, but I think we could take it a step further and be nice in a productive way, like helping people in need.
NsaneNtheNbrane 1 year ago
@groundzerosystem "We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we have those because we have acted rightly." - Plato
412envy 1 year ago
thats just sad... and also dissapponting
ultimateinvito 1 year ago
@groundzerosystem Yes. when one makes it a "goal" to be "nice" they are serving no one but themselves, so they can pat themselves on the back. It is the most phony and self serving of behaviors. It is called being manipulative.
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HEY pale subhuman sewer skunk cra*cker fa^g/got...tell your cancerous pale wh*ore warthog mother to finish eatin the pigs*** from the back of the barn...then kill your worthless self pale subhuman sewer skunk cra*cker fa^g*got
farria25 1 year ago
I love that quote in the end.
Be1smaht 1 year ago
sorry my gorable ennglish but there is 1 moment to ger respond bak. you must known hu youre partner is such as (vizual, audial kinestetic or digital) its depens wich channel of informacion get to person better its meen effective! i am 3 grade psychology student. (ist just for note)
vovavoyevodin 1 year ago
Just keep in touch w/ reality, use ur intelligence (and some consideration) & act accordingly.
prob solved.
drochalsey 1 year ago 14
Is she for real, or is this just a whole "Poe's Law" sort of thing? I really can't tell.
I mean, look @ the thumbs- -down v. -up.
Then, ask the bad-ppl, predators & value-destructive folks if they like having ppl turned-in2 mindless sheep (w/ sunshine beaming-out thr @ss) -- ripe 4 the picking.
Then, ask how much a can of peas would cost if we ALL had 2 add that much pretentiousness 2 the mix.
Probably useful in SMALL (strategic) doses; But otherwise, only a "NICE" pipe-dream.
drochalsey 1 year ago 2
people are so funny. i mean they make so much out of this simple idea. her idea could be applied to any of us, with or without a spouse and is a good idea.
rockyboyjan1999 1 year ago 2
you get gold stars for being a good girl? my four year old brother gets gold stars in his preschool class
weLiKeoaTs 1 year ago
I tried being nice. It didn't work. I'm going back to grumpy.
onjoFilms 1 year ago 2
Being nice only gets you so far, pretty soon your going to revert to old habits and if you have trouble being nice to someone you probably should even try
drh1111 1 year ago
I fail to see any originality or practicality in the concepts you describe in your videos. In fact, it reminds me too much of the "you must be happy all the time/happiness is the final goal" propaganda of society.
Nathan54AB 1 year ago
I think that making an extra effort to not annoy your loved one with slovenly habits is a good thing - Why not keep it up forever - seems like a small effort.
Ncyim 1 year ago
being nice rules!
zerbo803 1 year ago
Uh.... ok.....
That's a nice sweater, and I really like your earrings. You are a natural in front of a camera, and I think you came across well. But as another poster pointed out, maybe trying to improve the way you deal with people on a regular basis might be even better.
......you still get a GOLD STAR.....Nice eh?
jimkinner 1 year ago 3
lame
Supajin1 1 year ago
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ChemTrailSkys 1 year ago
nice is over rated :P
lestat34208 1 year ago
being extreme nice on purpose is not the solution!
you should be yourself and polite every day as much as you can, but not act!
missismercury 1 year ago
Shut up. Oh, shoot, I slipped.
quikmart1 1 year ago
or, you could re-aquaint yourself with reality, where there are people who will kill you simply because you're there. People hate because it's part of their instinctual makeup. Greed exists because it's part of self-preservation. Life isn't nice. This "fragile, beautiful world" you assholes are all so fond of is doing it's level best to kill us all every day. "Niceness" will just get you used, abused, raped, murdered, or something else unpleasant.
urielthelesser 1 year ago
@urielthelesser - What you described is not reality. There are darned few people out there who will "kill you simply because you're there". Are there bad people? Sure. Do they outnumber the good ones? Not even close - otherwise how could we hever have built a society? Should one take reasonable precautions against being abused? Sure. But you can still be "nice" at the same time. Take your unwarranted negativity somewhere else, please.
nasaguy 1 year ago
Being nice is over-rated. Loving somebody doesn't mean being nice 24/7.
maxwellpassion 1 year ago
The big picture is this. We walk around thinking..(and this is where it all goes wrong). If you can stay in the present moment you have a real shot at truly being peaceful & nice. BUT when we are constantly thinking about either the past or future and ignoring the present moment then old angers come to mind, and then resentment rears it's ugly head and whoever was on our radar gets blasted the minute you see them. NOT so NICE! Listen to Mastering Alchemy to learn more. It's simple but not easy
Tones4me1 1 year ago
If it were easy to be nice, everyone would be doing it.
paredesamour 1 year ago
Que bonito es lo bonito !
gibarra001 1 year ago
become a doormat for a week, sounds great
Bowyerma 1 year ago 2
lol, these comments are hilarious!
iOLY32 1 year ago
LOSER!!!
zygotepeyote 1 year ago
lmao the comments on this video are so repulsive
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@Zeon707 fuck you gretchen
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@Logistics5150 fuck you gretchen
justanotherpatriot 1 year ago
You`re christian, right?
would at least explain a lot...
SarcasticTom 1 year ago
those without sin can throw the first stone!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats what i thought lol...no1 here can throw one damn stone !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so dont judge her you goofz, thhhbt!
at least she is honest that is more than most of you inconsiderate immature fools that im guessin dont even have a spouse . me personally have been married over ten years "successfully" and yea it can be tough when u live with SUM1 FOR LONG TIME cause we all have things about us that can annoy lol, but LOVE CONQUERS ALL!
kaegic 1 year ago 2
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Tjalvu 1 year ago
But how an there be proofs of love if there is no love... This means there's no love to be proven..
SimonIsSuperHot 1 year ago
@SimonIsSuperHot and there's is much grammar to be learned, and much thinking before posting something that makes no sense, even if spelled right.
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You should probably just become more accustomed to oral sex to shut yourself up and in return you could possibly become more accustomed to more jewelery and such. Give it a try. Poor guy.
TheL046Kid 1 year ago 5
no
Notownsoad 1 year ago
This sounds a little scary.
missCeilidh 1 year ago
reading all these useless comments surely shows that this woman is much better than anyone of you could ever be. sad, that in this world no one is allowed to tell his thoughts and feelings without being slammed with stupid statements. instead of hearing things like "good try. you are right" or "I don't think you did it well" people are confronted to things like "bitch", "gay", "dumbass" etc. make love, not war. peace (Y)
whatelse123 1 year ago
I'm going to try something different this new year.
I'm going to try a Week of Extreme Stupid.
seanfanning1 1 year ago 3
WOW that is nice... cleaning up after yourself for a WHOLE week!!! wow!!!! good work
JustinIsraelWaggoner 1 year ago 10
@JustinIsraelWaggoner And if her husband doesn't notice it and shower her with goodies for it he'll have hell to pay. This woman is a buck toothed monster.
Indygoguy 1 year ago
@JustinIsraelWaggoner
QFT
Gondile 1 year ago
@JustinIsraelWaggoner Once people get married that IS true. People do blur the boundaries of respect with each other because they get comfortable and know what they can and cant do. Think about it, people DO treat their family or loved ones a little less respectfully then strangers because they will be there for you no matter what.
Javmonster 1 year ago
Jeebus, posters, get a grip. You're all acting like Gretchen said she regularly pours arsenic into her husband's soup. She's not being bitchy or heartless--she's just saying that people as a whole often treat their loved ones with less politeness than the average stranger. The truth of the matter is, we ARE more polite to strangers because we don't KNOW them. Familiarity often causes a lapse in manners because--especially in the case of family--we know that person will love us anyway.
daraelise 1 year ago 30
@daraelise
Actually she said:
"... I realize that, although my husband is the love of my life, and the center of my life, I often treat him with less consideration than other people who are far less important to me."
She did not use the all inclusive "we". Sure some people are like that, but people who are actually positive aren't like that on a regular basis who have to struggle to behave nicely for a week. Usually they are the opposite where they have bad weeks they temporarily struggle with.
Chipwhitley274 1 year ago 3
@Chipwhitley274 Point taken about the all-inclusive "we". However, I still stand by what I said and I find it distressing that so many people are getting this ugly over what Gretchen said. Honestly, I don't believe she's being as negative as posters are interpreting. "Less consideration" doesn't mean "horrible witch". While my sister-in-law always thanks me for helping her make dinner, she isn't always as effusive when her husband helps--because his help is expected. Doesn't make her bad.
daraelise 1 year ago
@daraelise
No, "less consideration" may not mean "horrible witch" but the rest of what she said might:
"... I take him for granted, I grumble a lot, I'm not very cooperative."
"I didn't do all the little things that I do that I know bug him ..."
"... that drives him nuts."
Amazingly thought that is pretty easy behavior she says:
"I could not keep it up forever."
If she couldn’t handle normal behavior, imagine how she behaves when she has a bad attitude.
Chipwhitley274 1 year ago
@daraelise If yer not treating yer "loved ones" as politely as the grocery store clerk, then jump on yer bicycle 'cuz y'all got sum pedlin' ta do! OK, ok already, I know yer right, Dara, but being edgy or mean spirited w/ peeps that luv ya erodes affection. We all hav feelings dat can be hoit. So JEEBUS POSTERS y'all, get to work! BTW, great comment :]
willyIV 1 year ago
@willyIV Hey, Willy. :) I've rewatched the video, and Gretchen doesn't say that she treats her husband poorly. She just says that she doesn't pick up after herself as much as her husband would like, and she sometimes grumbles when her husband makes a request. Honestly, this doesn't make her--or anyone else like her--an awful human being. What person hasn't made a face at least once when his/her parent/spouse/roommate asks him/her to take out the trash or clean the stove?
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willyIV 1 year ago
@daraelise wait people are nicer to strangers? everywhere i go people point and stare and laugh at me, and whenever i introduce myself to people in a non-formal setting they either ignore me or start making fun of me. not because i have some odd physical deformity or because i dress weird, but because i look young for my age. if that's people's way of being kind to me then i'd hate to see how they treat their loved ones.
Cuddlebunzzzz 1 year ago
@Cuddlebunzzzz I've never even seen you and just from reading your post I think you are a freak.
Indygoguy 1 year ago
@Indygoguy ty
Cuddlebunzzzz 1 year ago
@daraelise No, she's just calculating and manipulative. When one is truly "nice" or kind they do not expect anything in return. This woman is doing it to get what she wants. Manipulative bitch is the phrase that comes to mind.
Indygoguy 1 year ago
A wise woman builds her house up. A foolish woman tares it down.
bootsdog3 1 year ago
You treat the "love of your life" with less consideration than other people that are less important? You're idea of being extremely nice is to pick up after yourself?
ytmachx 1 year ago
@ytmachx You're dumb. Is actually pretty common for close people be treated less than other people. Think of it as, let's say, your mom (yeah, you must be fucking young to post something so stupid) and your friends. Almost all kids grumble more to their parents than to their friends, CAUSE THEY ARE NOT AS CLOSE SO IT'S EASIER TO LOSE THEM.
89Valkyrie 1 year ago
@89Valkyrie I wasn't commenting to you little girl. Go back to your room and do your homework, and take off that makeup, you look like a whore.
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Dinamitium 1 year ago
why is everyone about karma nowadays? its just idiotic to think some cosmic power would reward you because of you being nice. its just a sign of desperateness. its blaming your failure on something else than your own incompetence.
SarcasticTom 1 year ago
Proofs of Love?? This may be interpreted in many contradicting ways. Being nice it´s not only pleasing your husband as an automatic machine. Please, understand that communication works in two ways. Extreme Nice or Extreme Depending??
Volgeblanc 1 year ago
@wekosky FOREVER ALONE. Lmao.
Zergikun 1 year ago
i think your idea is amazing!!! =]
dont listen to all these hater comments!
najia1994 1 year ago
yep, welcome to the internet, one tip - ignore them and never feed the trolls. Anyways you seem like a nice person and beautiful wife. gl
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limaq 1 year ago
sorry for all the crappy comments you're getting from people. hope it doesn't get you down.
JaneDoeme 1 year ago
her occupation ; faiuuuuled psychiatrist? jaja
tsakonass 1 year ago
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sorry about the last comment. menopause is the right one. xd
tsakonass 1 year ago 5
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tsakonass 1 year ago
pathetic failure.
tsakonass 1 year ago
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it's a good experiment. if you want to get it absolutely right you need to study Jesus. not some who call themselves christians but Jesus. righteousness is not an act
DanFrederiksen 1 year ago
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DanFrederiksen 1 year ago
@IrishUSAwrestler What's the point in being mean? Seriously, is it fun for you? That's just sick.
TheShadowFlame101 1 year ago
faith and love without action.. isnt successful; without doing something about it!-Thanks for sharing!
ELIJAH5727 1 year ago
most women are completely and totally disrespectful of men and they have no idea how disrespectful they are. Don't you think men get tired of constant complaining? Wouldn't you?
ricknicklesarts 1 year ago 3
How about not getting married in the first place? Saves a lot of trouble.
lawkig 1 year ago 4
my girlfriend and i are extremely nice to each other all the time
jeepndesert 1 year ago
@jeepndesert You're not married. It goes away.
JeeRaph 1 year ago
@JeeRaph LOL!
meghanariel 1 year ago
The whole video is about "Don't", painted under the guise of Nice. Don't fail your marriage. Don't fail expectations. Don't pester. This is some inner voice that keeps playing over and over "don't, don't don't" like a broken record.
You have to find "Do." It doesn't matter how you find it. You might have to strip yourself of everything you own.. tear it all down and find out what your guiltless and childlike "do" is. It's not about high expectations for yourself. Peace inside.
frankbraker 1 year ago
If I was that nice to my wife, by Wednesday she'll have broken down and started demanding to know what it is I want from her. By Friday she'll be convinced I was feeling guilty about something really major and looking for evidence of an affair.
rewboss 1 year ago
why so much hate for the lady?
ivionday 1 year ago
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frankbraker 1 year ago
和谐啊，不只是赤色的区域有这么混蛋的垃圾~
wdxgy136 1 year ago
@wdxgy136 kool
silvr90210 1 year ago
"You probably weren't even being nice, just regular by anyone's standards because your such a bad wife. . . ."
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OathOfOdium 1 year ago
I think a gradual change is better than just a temporary one, but at least this is a postive step in the right direction, be postive people :)
RealistReviewer 1 year ago
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Fuck you bitch. I'm fucking miserable, other people look down at me with contempt, I have a shitload of stuff to sort out, and you tell me to be "nice." Eat a fat dick.
DrDavidHowler 1 year ago
@DrDavidHowler That kind of negative feedback is exactly how you get into bad situations.
TheShadowFlame101 1 year ago
Spongebob: "Remember Patrick, flatter the costumer. Make him feel good."
*Door opens*
Patrick: "I love you."
*Door slams*
MegaRobo9867 1 year ago 61
Nice. What does this mean "nice"?
HellMaster548 1 year ago
here i'm am looking like am idiot, thinking this would be video of some little kid trieing to be nice to his parents or something. instead, i was shown....umm....i'm not even sure what this is...
chaosheaven234 1 year ago
Nice...
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Dragonshear 1 year ago
Well the only thing I know for sure that she got right was that their is no love only proofs of love. Go read 1 Cor. Chapter 13 in the bible to find out what love really is and keep reading to find out how God can give you the power and strength to not just try this for a week, but to change you to walk in his ways of love.
tandspinter 1 year ago
@tandspinter
Stop pushing religion on people.
Arkahtekt 1 year ago
When Im extremely nice to strangers, they call me "creepy". Being nice doesnt get anyone anywhere.
CogitoErgoCogitoSum 1 year ago 2
@CogitoErgoCogitoSum Don't know how you've gotten so many thumbs up, your comment is totally irrelevant. She was talking about being extremely nice to her husband, not a stranger.
cbarge 1 year ago
@cbarge - It's obvious that guy is using his own sock accounts to vote up his own comments. There's not that many viewers of this video so suddenly.
SixthWatcher 1 year ago
@CogitoErgoCogitoSum
Me too. I got called a "creeper" for being nice.
recaked 1 year ago 2
"Only proofs of love" - this recalls a quote from the Divine Secrets of the Yah-Yah sisterhood, from a mother's advice to her daughter: "Forget love. Try good manners."
2009raindrop 1 year ago
Well as you said is a good exercise
iZaga1909 1 year ago
Self-centered nihilism. Fantastic!
dugfriendly 1 year ago
...as in real diamonds.
lotharun 1 year ago
Are those earings real?
lotharun 1 year ago
@lotharun No, you're hallucinating them.
ParaFrost 1 year ago
I agree 100%. Everyone should try this. You can make a lot of new friends this way and feel better about yourself.
gozes189 1 year ago