If only they knew.

[Dying63]

They don't need to worry about it in my opinion... if we don't want help then we don't need it...

[ajmandii]

i wish that my parents could understand why i have an eating disorder and that it isnt just about food but about control. and that its not for attention or to hurt them. but for myself.

[Stephitza]

I wish my mom understood the extent to which I still struggle, despite being at a healthy weight. It can be very intense at times, and sometimes it's difficult to have any sense of hope after 10 years of struggling with this stuff. I wish she understood that getting me to gain weight when I was suffering from anorexia did not solve all my problems, nor did throwing me into therapy. I also wish she realized the effect that her own eating patterns and attitudes toward food continue to have on me.

[EKeato1]

i wish she understood that (at least in my case) it has nothing to do with weight and physically being thin and has everything to do with being in control of what i choose to put in my body. i wish that she could understand how much it hurts, how much time and energy it consumes and how exhausting it is.

[artpal]

I made a documentary about what it is like to be a beautiful woman in real life. The women I interviewed were referred to me because they are considered "beautiful" by many around them. You wouldn't believe the different looks that came my way. The media's definition of beauty is DIFFERENT than the definition in real life. It's a long story - see my blog at beautydocumentary(dot)com.

[blossomingrosesophie]

I wish that my mum knew that, I couldn't just eat and everything will be fine that it is not just a case of no wanting to eat that its more a stuggle to allow yourself to eat something.

[rrf0214]

I wish she could understand that it's up to ME to recover.

[emelizmack]

mamaV!!

so good to see ure videos again!

u r truly inspiring.

[Catlovers141]

I wish my mother understood how much the "fat" comments affected me when I was little. When I was little I danced and my mother said that overweight girls shouldn't be allowed to dance on stage because it is disgusting. Growing up I heard a lot of negative comments like that all the time. I don't blame her for my eating disorder. It is my own thing. I just wish that she wouldn't have said those things because it made me even more self-conscious.

[canadianchick74]

As an adult (34) with anorexia, I wish my mom would understand that it is NOT about her, that I can't just "get better because I am like her...Strong", and also as "Feedme77" said...it's about ME not HER.

[chelly63]

I am in my 40's and have anorexia, I have had anorexia for most of my adult life with a few periods of it being less severe. I am also a Mum of two teenage daughters, I was extremely worried about passing on anything that would lead my two beautiful children, down this awful road of an exsistance, so I worked very hard to be honest and to educate them, I have been lucky, my daughters both have positive attitudes to food and their bodies, but more over they know the damge that ed's do

[feedme77]

i wish my my mum did not think that i can recover for her. that if i eat i will be fine. she thinks that if i dont want to recover then do it for her.... because it hurts her so much that i am killing myself. she does not understand how much more it hurts me...

[thisismyspacebugoff]

i wish they could carry on like it doesnt exist. That maybe i need my mum to just be my mum and that i dont want the eating disorder stuff to be any part of the relationship. Its my issue, so leave me to deal with the doctors and everything. I dont want to discuss the eating problems, i just want to be normal with you, like the eating disorder doesnt exist at all.

[spitfireuchiha]

I with they knew it wasn't a fad, but a disorder. They seem to think you can just stop whenever you chose, but it's harder than that. That, and they should keep in mind that younger people are more impressionable. My parents and extended family always make the most offhand comments that trigger something. That have to know that we're sensitive.

[jeezooy]

I wish they understood how I feel when she tells me that she is worried about my weight. I mean, I was in recovery for so long, and my metabolism got so messed up, and I got so big. My mom started telling me to diet, and I was like, "Are you kidding me?" She just didn't get it.

[diva05876534]

That they realize I'm not doing it on purpose, not trying to make myself upset by continuing my ed. That I can't just eat like a normal person and be ok. That I'm not doing it to get attention. That they would do some research and not just criticize me.

[realeyesXrealize]

that it's not about food,

and it's not a competition.

i'm not trying to be better than her,

and i do think about people other than myself.

it's partly for her.

who want's a fat daughter?

[melleighmeimellow]

I wish they knew it wasn't their fault. They don't seem to get that part just yet.

[killthescale]

1. That my ED is not really about food

2. That my ED is not just trying to get attention. When I went to my mom for help at 15 years old and told her I was Bulimic her respond was "Your not really bulimic, you are just trying to get attention". I was trying to get help not attention. That severely dampered my desire to recover at that point. Even now at 31, I have been in full recovery for 18 months, and am doing well, my mom never ask or wants to know about my ED. Luckily I have found support.

[killthescale]

Elsewhere. Dont get me wrong, I love my mom. It is just never been a source of support i could rely on for recovery.

On the other hand, I am a mom, I have two daughters, and I want to help them be protected against developing and ED themselves. so I have been careful about not creating control issues over food, no food rewards, and trying to avoid talking negativly about my own body, I especially try to avoid any talk about dieting. My parents were always trying to get me to diet!

[Jardinduluxembourg]

the sound sucks...