i've pretty much managed to overcome my stammer i had throughout my teenage years however i find it annoying how it seems to creep up on me when in important or embarrassing situations it shatters my confidence everytime..
Yes, @topgunslayer, I know about Starfish, run by Annie Blight, who used to be with McGuire. It's good - try everything, but be careful because there are a lot of sharks about!
I stammer a lot and am very embarrassed... it keeps my away from socializing with people and I don't really know how to fix it no matter how much I tried.
@speakingout12 hey 1st of all sry 4r d late response...it is really nice that some stranger like u care about my stammering n ask questions!!! n about stammering i just started taking lessons by a speech therapist. hope things got better n at last keep going... u r doing a gud job...
I have a stammering problem, I've had ever since I was small. I believe I got it from my dad because he also has a stammer. I'm 19 and I get really nervous and stammer when I talk to new people, go out with friends to eat like stammering when asking for the food I want, etc. Whenever I'm alone, I talk out loud and I'm stammer free, nothing even a single stammer, it just happens when I talk to people, I get really nervous and freak out thinking to myself I'm gonna stammer. Any advice?
Yes, @Acasas956, find a NHS speech therapist locally. If you have trouble, contact British Stammering Association Helpline on 0845 603 2001 or email info at stammering org. On Facebook, go to British Stammering Association. Stammering is not 'infectious', but there is a strong hereditary element in the genes. Unfortunately, we have a neurological weakness in the speech planning and execution part of our brains, so we find it hard to speak fluently, especially if the demands are too great.
@yashist come bro try to learn stuff that make you more confident , like guitar or sports.
and thank God we can still speak or listen or see. you know we are better then many, look at a bright side. you are more compassionate more understanding you know.
I don't have a stammer but i have a friend that does, and i accept him and listen to what he has to say...I find your videos every inspirational for those that do have this, and I'm a fan. Great Job and keep making Videos!!
Good to hear from you, @AzDer1000. It is possible to make a stammer go away, but it does not often happen. There is still no cure for stammering. Speech therapy is still the best way to learn how to become more fluent and, often, more accepting of a stammer - which helps reduce the fear of speaking. Have you contacted DAVS in Copenhagen? Their site is davs dot dk. Good luck and please get back to me, via my channel, if you want to talk about anything.
You are not alone, @nigelnyamazana! Most of us - in fact probably all of us - have been laughed at at some some time, just because we stammer. The question is, what can we do about it? For example, if people were laughing at someone who had another neurologically-based condition, such as cerebral palsy, what would you say to them?
TheZadzzz - have you thought about joining the British Stammering Association; it'll help you get over that feeling of being alone. They've got a page on Facebook you could take a look at. Good luck.
There is a bright side to having a stammer. You will find that we are all more intelligent!!! As from an early age you learn to change a sentence that you want to say, but cant, into something you can say, all in your head in the blink of an eye. You can master the art of the English language, on paper. To speak it, it can feel like a foreign language.
Im 42 and have stammered all my life. I'm in a job that I'm to good for! I fight it every day and I'm determined to win, in the end!!!
Probably not more intelligent, unfortunately, partner99, but we certainly have better vocabularies! Keep up the fight. As you're in the UK and, if you're on Facebook, you might search for Speaking Out Team, which is s group of stammerers who are fighting back by speaking about stammering publicly. Good to hear from you.
I've got a stammer myself It used to be bad when I was much younger but it has reduced with time. I am 31 one but I always feel a sense of frustration when I can;t adequately express myself the way I want. I live in Scotland(not Scottish though) and my work requires me to talk to people. I have gotten on with the job, but now I want to move to the next level by changing careers.
Problem is that the interviews will require a great deal of presentations and it worries me that I will be found out!
Good to hear from you, MrFarfarfaraway. I like your Christmas tape. My children have grown up now but one of them is a singer, still hoping for the big break. It's a tough world for him even though he doesn't stammer. If you're doing presentations, you must be getting on fairly well in your job. I wouldn't worry about being found out - people have obviously accepted you anyway and hiding it only puts a little extra pressure on you. Good luck with everything.
@speakingout2 Lol@Christmas mixtape. I'm a part time DJ!
I am encouraged that I'm not alone and I'm grateful to you for the vid. My colleagues have accepted my stammer,but I'm still working hard to reduce it.I might become a project mgr soon hence the anxiety :(
MrFarfarfaraway, I've been managing director of various things and, although I'm sure that some people refer to me as the bloke with the stammer, they've always ended up judging me on my abilities, not me speech - even though I'm a marketing and communications consultant! Keep positive and good luck.
I'm 15. I stammer. Your now my idol! I'm already very open with my stammer and everyone accepts it and I am pretty confident that when I go for interviews there is the disability act to back me up if problems occur. That 5 minutes was really inspirational and hopefully has set some of the people straight who think it is funny because it certainly isn't.
Good for you, DawseyHD - uploading in HD and learning to speak in HD! I know what you mean: sometimes people say that I'm not like 'other stammerers' because I am confident. But what they are probably saying is that I don't fit the misconception they have about all stammerers being shy and retiring - as if stammering was caused by shyness or nervousness, not the other way around. Good luck to you. You've got a long way to go in life and, if you keep up your attitude, you should be fine.
ItsSalim509, have you heard about the National Stuttering Association in the States? If not, why don't you check them out? They have local chapters in most places, full of normal people just like you, and they can help, because they understand. Good luck.
Me, MsDestinydiva? Poor man? Not really. Thanks for your concern, but I've managed to get on with life and enjoy myself despite my stammer. It is a real pain, I grant you, and whenever I open a new relationship there are often mountains of misconceptions to be overcome. But I'm not seeking sympathy, but understanding - and the desire in society to do more for the 65 million people in the world who stammer, many of whom have far more difficulty with their speech than I do.
I'm sorry that people have been cruel to you because you stammer. I actually think you sound quite good in this video! With this video, you have brought awareness to thousands of people, some of whom (like me) do not have any personal experience with stammer. So thank you for sharing.
Thanks very much, firelunamoon, for stopping by and saying such kind things. My Big Aim is to try to help people who don't know anything about stammering to understand. Yes, my speech is not too bad, although it's not always like this and I need to think about it 24/7 in order to talk at least reasonably fluently. Millions of people, though, are far worse off than me, because they are much less fluent or have had terrible experiences which have robbed them of their desire to communicate.
You've got a great voice ;) And it's gonna sound stupid, but I envy your speech haha. Mine is like 2x worse, blocking on every (other) sentence is "normal" for me, and you seem to sound pretty fluent (at least you're getting out what you want pretty fast) :) We'll never gonna be 100% cured so congrats.
Thanks, xalesd2. I find that, once I get going, I can usually put enough rhythm into my speech to kind of give me a nice road on which my voice can ride! But I still have trouble when starting to speak and, quite often, I get surprised by a sudden block. However, whatever happens, I think it's better to talk and stammer than not to talk at all. And with all the massive misconceptions, ignorance and prejudice about stammering, we need to try to put things right.
You will turn out great.. Like King George I beilve I can't remember which one.. I had a stammer when I was young but I took a really good course.. It worked..I hope you work this out. And good luck
Thanks, callos1232, but I doubt whether I will ever control my speech completely - very few adult stammerers do. King George VI was never 'cured' but, much like me, he probably came to terms with it.
I have a Cousin in the UK who has a Stammer, he went right for the very job that would be the most speaking and convincing of them all, a Lawyer! he also gets parts in movies and commercials, I have to say, that man has rocked it after all the hardship he had to go through, I admire him and you for sharing your experiences with us. Cheers :-)
Thanks for letting us know about your cousin, brooklynlulu. It would be good to meet him and ask whether he would help us overcome the many misconceptions about stammering. I'm not a lawyer, but I am in marketing. I've never met anyone else in that industry who stammers, but I have met a lot of people who are rampantly over-fluent!
@speakingout2 Hi, I haven't spoken to Chris for some months, embarrassed to say, a little family matter has caused a few of us to stop talking. It's a shame because he probably would jump right in and try to get involved anyway he could for this cause. Maybe I can speak with a Cousin of ours and see if he can contact him, I'm sorry, I know this sounds silly but you know, FAMILY lol.
Family, yep, know what you mean, brooklynlulu. My name is Leys Geddes, if he wants to contact me via the British Stammering Association at all the Ws stammering dot organisation.
My three year old son is beautiful, intelligent, funny and kind to others, he is a wonderful little boy... he also has a stammer.
His stammer is a tiny part of his fabulous personality and I wonder whether in real life Darkdestroyer and all the other disgusting commenters on here would feel comfortable laughing in his face. Totally despicable. Lets hope they never face a problem that effects their life so much. I feel sorry for you all.
You sound like a great Mum, caryssenga, and thank you for your support. Is your little man being helped? And did you know that there is a page on Facebook called Parents of Children Who Stammer? You might drop in there sometime. There are a lot more great Mums there, sharing the ups and downs, large and small.
Not very original, XDarkDestroyaX , but at least you looked at the video, and you have also helped to make my point about stammering still being treated as a joke.
It's a pity, MultiMAGICDAN, that you, as a professional who is interested in art and music, want to say these things. Most people who visit or post here - and some of them are quite young - seem to want to learn more about stammering or discuss the serious effect it can have on their lives. So if you want to slag off @XDarkDestroyaX, can't you please do it somewhere else - and delete your comments here?
Not at all, asdfqwerty2000. Yes, everyone who stammers/stutters can sing fluently because singing is controlled by a different part of the brain than speaking. So why don't we all go around singing?! Well, I must say that some times I sing myself out of a problem when I get stuck - but people definitely think this is very strange behaviour...
Great name, NiggerMcCunts, and I think I get the general drift of your channel. But you're right: A Fish Called Wanda gave us all a lorra laffs but it didn't do much to help people understand stammering.
@speakingout2 quote - "Great name, NiggerMcCunts etc" ....Great name?!!.... Are you serious??....Ooook so you co-sign racist trolls but yet want people to feel empathy for your s-s-s-tuttering, explain your logic to me!
I have the stammering problem too, its not very bad though, but i stammer in the worst of situations, Telling someone my name is a nightmare. A lot of times I have been judged by my speech. I always used to get a low score in English speaking, Missed on very good jobs, even though I would have been the best candidate but Stammer which is a joke for others has changed my life since I developed it, Now I tend to speak slowly which does helps and not use words which I know I cant speak
Bad luck, naughtyboy99999, but most stammerers know exactly how you feel. If we want to stop all these misconceptions and prejudices, we will need to help people understand why we stammer and how it can affect our lives.
My friend has a speech impedement, I'm wondering if it's due to the emotional abuse he's endured? It only started in his teen years recently. After a recent arrival of even MORE shyte on top of his shyte.
The root cause of stammering is now known to be 'faulty wiring' in the brain. There is no evidence that it can be caused by emotional abuse or shyte - but it's quite possible that his speech would have been made worse by abuse or shyte. If you look up the 'Monster Study' on Wikipedia, you'll read about a dreadful experiment in which researchers were cruel to a group of orphaned children in order to see if it would make them stammer. None did, but several developed psychological problems.
my stammer is weird i can say every word fine when im by myself but when people ask my name i struggle and also answering the phone is a nightmare. I seem to be able to put sentannce together quite easy its just getting the first word out thats a struggle.
Starting is difficult for many of us, 12inchwang, but then our speech will usually become more fluent as we get into a rhythm - until we get stuck in the next block!
i stutter really bad and im made fun of at school and i cant see how i would make it in life with my really bad stuttering my parents tried therapy but it was costing to much :(
Bad luck, DarKSoNTHeLegEnd, but you're certainly not alone - so is there any group you can join, in the real world or online, so that you don't have to deal with this alone and can learn more about it?
DarKSoNTHeLegEnd - why not search for the National Stuttering Association and the Stuttering Foundation of America and email them to ask if they can help? They will know what's going on in and around Mesa. Good luck.
Good man, well done. Am 38 myself and am a stammerer, trick is don't let it hold you back, I myself went along to be an IT Consultant, my brother stammers and is a pilot for a commercial airline, my son Stammers and my mother stammers... just keep doing what you do, accept it and it will get easier, some months are good, some bad, I just happen to be in a good month thus my optimistic response.
But well done! Though without an audience... how did you manage to stammer?
I agree with you 100%, JohnnyBellew, although this condition is unpredictably variable, the secret is to just get on with life. I've got a cousin who stammers and various other relatives who are Aspergery! But a lot of people who stammer do have a very bad time and, as I'm sure you know, there is a lot of prejudice, based largely on ignorance, which needs to be overcome - so I feel this is a fight worth fighting. I stammer when I'm on my own or talking to dogs, babies, lovers and so on...
Good luck, JustObey89. Few adults overcome their stammering completely but, with a bit of help, most of us can reduce our worries and increase our fluency.
Why does the common cold affect people in different ways? CAN YOU ANSWER THAT? ANSWER THAT! Some stutterers have blocks with some letters/sound combinations while others can speak them fine. Stuttering is unique to each individual. Words are unique. They precede and are followed by different words each time they are spoken. Never the same! Besides personal observation and an obvious impressive intellect, what EXACTLY makes you such an expert of stuttering? What research have you done?
I never said i'm an expert of stuttering, you suggest that. I noticed that someone almost doesn't or not stammers if he talks too a child or an animal and stutters allot more when he talks too a crowd. And why can't i think the reason of stuttering through de experiences of my friends that stutters? They can tell me exactly what theire experience are. Stuttering has become a lifestyle, that's why i think it's not curable by some pill or anything in the terms of neurological cause
Stuttering is unique to each individual, i agree. Never the same? So you never say a sentence twice? That means you can never say some sentences fluently? Why do you say a sentence fluent this time and stutters it the other time, neurological argued.
I am myself a stammerer as well. It's very severe and I have difficulty holding day-to-day conversations, performing public speeches, etc. but I've learned to cope with it and I'm trying to make the best out of it. Thank you so much for posting such an inspirational video because I can relate to everything you said! ;) I don't have a job yet so it'll be interesting how people react to stammering in job-environment... I'm just starting college next year... Thanks again!
Good luck, DilinoGadzo1. It will probably be a bit of a struggle, but it sounds as if you have the right attitude. If you can manage to be open about your stammer and tell people, yes, I stammer sometimes - and tell them why if you get the chance - and try to stay positive and happy, then you will make things a lot easier for yourself. No doubt you will be 'the guy who stammers' to begin with but, in time, they will see more of the real you and almost forget about your stammer. Good luck.
wiinick90, many people grow up believing that their stammer was caused by some traumatic event. And because they don't talk to other stammerers, their thinking stays that way. Some buy into treatment programmes which address the effects of stammering but they don't always explain that it's no one's FAULT. So when it was discovered, 3 years ago, that the root cause of stammering is neurological, I was quite relieved! Until then, I'd never understood why a confident person like me stammered.
Guys I've created page called Stutter Club in Facebook. I feel Youtube isn't big enough to share our thoughts so lets discuss it somewhere we can communicate with each other on how to make our lives better. I believe our lives can be improved if we share our problems and methods to overcome this 1 problem we have.
@wojtek0000 I'm assuming it was an attempt at humor and I'm sorry if I missed something, but mocking stutterers is probably the most offensive thing someone could do. The h-h-hang and st-st-stuttering phrases are offensive and looks poorly on your character. I'm sure you're a nice person, but you should know how hurtful it is. Do you limp when you see someone who is handicap? Friends and family are always shocked to see how often people mock me by acting like they stutter. Please don't do it.
@PatriotTK421 When you think about it, there's nothing like making a special point of bringing attention to what is wrong with someone to make them feel even worse about themselves. Stammerers don't need reminded. Some of my close friends will say something light hearted and jokes about stuttering probably depend on each individual stutterer as to if they're offensive or not. But think of it like this.....AT VERY BEST, mocking something that someone struggles with is in poor taste.
@ChaseRUFC I wish I had some good advice or answers for you. I'm a 37 year old male and have gone through and still go through everything you listed. I don't allow anyone to make fun of me, but you can't fight or argue with everyone who laughs or says something bad. I will often be very direct and tell people that I will not allow anyone to make fun of me and I don't appreciate their comments and find them hurtful. I ask them if they make fun of handicap children too. Direct works for me.
As someone who has stuttered their entire life, it's frustrating for me to hear people who do not stutter tell me WHY I stutter. Fear of speaking or fear of a word does NOT cause stuttering. Stuttering is always there. Like the concrete foundation under a house, it doesn't move or change. The fear of a word/ situation can cause a bigger blockage. But people need to understand it's not due to fear, poor self-esteem or whatever. Those things exist BECAUSE of the stammering & only grow with time.
@speakingout2 I'm not really sure. I think you're doing a great thing and I agree with you that stammering has a small window of opportunity with the making of The King's Speech. I fear that the spot light will soon fade.
Yes, Matt - PatriotTK421 - The King's Speech effect is over and, whilst it has done a great deal for stammering awareness, it's done very little for understanding.
Why can someone who doesn't stutter doesn't know why someone stutters? I know some close friends that stutters and i learned allot about stammering/stuttering through their personally expierence.
Can you or speakingou2 please explain too me why it's neurological? Why do you stammer a word at this time and not stammer that same word another time? That's not logic at all why is should be neurological.
And why does someone stutters more than another person?
@Fraanskes Let me get this straight. You are telling me you know why people stutter because you have several close friends who stutter and you've watched them closley? That's ridiculous. Come on man, seriously. That's like saying you know what it's like having black skin because you have an African friend. No one knows WHY people stutter. They suspect it is neurological because of actual tests they have done to study the brain of stutterers WHEN they speak.
@Fraanskes Why does someone with cancer live longer than another person with the same type of cancer? Why does someone with MLS lose control of their arms, legs or swallowing before another with the same MLS? Even the common cold affects each human differently. Even though we're all human, we're all very different when you look deep inside. (DNA)
Cancer and MSL is a whole different thing than stammering, it's not comparable. And it doesn't explain why you stammer a word one time and the other time not.
@Fraanskes Cancer and MLS are different than stammering? Really? Thanks doctor, I had no idea. What an incredible observation you make. How can anyone ever explain anything to you? This might seem harsh, but I'm doing you a favor. YOU'RE WRONG. Stop being an idiot, please. Can people control cancer or MLS? Or even the common cold? The answer, docotor, is NO, they cannot CONTROL them. They just HAVE them. They deal with them and each one affects each person differently.
Unfortunately you can't respond normally too a normal question..
You give some not comparable and illogical examples without based knowledge so why do you call me an idiot? I'm trying to respond and discus normal with you, why you can't?
The solution of stammering is not that easy, a pil or anything can't just change your way of speak. You need too overwin your fear of speak, go no conversations out the way, why should you? Does a not stammering person goes a conversation out the way because the way he speak? The thaught must be: yes i stammer, so what, have confidence. Don't focus your speaking on how you gonna say something but what you gonna say, erase the taught of stammering, it takes practise.
But, Fraanskes, I really love talking to people. I don't fear conversation. I am confident. For example I am the Managing Director of my own marketing consultancy and I have worked - and stammered - all over the world. You assume, like many people, that we stammer because we are nervous, afraid or screwed up! But we are not mice, we simply have faulty wiring in our brains! Imagine how frustrating it would be to be confident, to know exactly what you want to say - but then find you can't.
Hi, I am a stammerer. Are you a stammerer too? Have you done a speech therapy in the past but you could not overcome your speech problem? Have you every wondered why? One of the most important reason is lack of practise.
So i decided to practise it with other stammerers. i am looking for people with whom i can practise and ofcourse they can practise their technique with me. If you are interested then we can do it over skype or sth. other. Practise makes man perfect. pls contact me.
The case is, you stammer because you don't want to stammer! You're thinking how you gonna say something instead of what you gonna say. That's the cause. A not stammering person doesn't think how he gonna say the words but what he's gonna say. Why do you stammer now on this video? That's because you know it's gonna be on Youtube, if there was no camera and you are all alone i bet you don't stammer. It's all mental. The will not to stammer, makes you stammer.
Hi, Fraanskes: the fact is that I stammer when I'm on my own. And it's not all mental because the root cause is neurological; the wiring for speech in our brains is faulty, and that makes it difficult to talk fluently all the time.
Thanks for your reaction, interesting discussion! I think it's not neurological at all, but a mather of fear too speak. Speaking is a autonomous function of the human beeing, everyone can speak fluent. But the fact that people who stammer pays attention on his speaking, makes him stammer. Why do you stammer more if you need too talk in public? Because the fear too speak, you think about your stammer(fear), and than you stammer. It's all mental, the fear too speak, thats the cause
It's good to discuss this but no, Fraanskes, the root cause is neurological. 'Stuttering is a neurodevelopmental disorder involving many different brain systems active for speech - including language, motor, and emotional networks. Each infant is born with a genetic makeup that contributes to his or her probability of stuttering'. What happens next will depend on the severity of the disorder, the child and its environment. It can become a syndrome, and children can grow to fear speaking.
@Fraanskes You don't stammer because of fear... fear comes from stammering and fear makes you stammer more... I have gotten my stammering under some control in the last 10 years... but when I get nervous or tired I stammer more... it is neurological.... This is all physical in our brains... there is a device that can trick the brain into not stuttering by making it think you are talking in sync with some one else... Check a video here on youtube called "worst stutter ever" and you see.
Mhh, i'm not quit convinced at your point. Why do you say some lines fluent and some lines not? I think it's because you know the stammering is comming, you think about the word , what makes you a little onconfident. I think there is aways some tension while your stammering, conscious or unconscious.
The same when you whisper i bet you stammer a lot less because you pay the attention on the whispering, same ase you sing. I reccomend too visit the site Hausdorfer
No, Fraanskes, believe me, I don't stammer because I know the stammer is coming! And you should know that we sing fluently because singing uses a different part of the brain than speaking. I've looked at the Hausdorfer site and they are treating stammering as a nervous condition, not as a speech disorder. The assumption that stuttering is not the result of a physical disability will mislead people, particularly parents, into believing that they are to blame for their child's stammer.
Interesting, then i think there are different types of how and why a person stammers. I know some people who stammered in the past and now are 'stammer' free. I really don't believe it's all a neurologic, that makes no sense because the one time you say the word fluent and the other time not. That's not logical. I think we don't agree on our points, but your interpetation is interesting as well.
No, Fraanskes, there is Developmental Stammering, which is what I have described, which is what most stammerers have. And since three genes were discovered last year, there is now an almost indisputable case for a genetic influence in that. There is also Acquired Stammering, which is rare and occurs after, for example, a head injury. You can disagree with me, if you want - but you will still be wrong! And yes, I also know a few people who have learned to control their stammering.
No offense, but that's not true. Theire is no 'controling' of stammering, you stammer or you don't stammer. Unfortunately you only use a tunnelvision on your perspective. Stammering is a life style, it can not be cured by a pil or something. I believe the will not too stammer ( unconscious or not, makes you stammer)
Fraanskes, I am Chairman of the British Stammering Association. So I work with expert researchers and clinicians. If you don't believe what I say, you might like to check out the BSA website at stammering org or, if you need independent verification, you could search for stammering on Wikipedia. If you want to listen or talk to stammerers, take a look at the BSA page on Facebook.
@Fraanskes How can you say that there is not controlling of stammering?
With all due respect you don't know what the f**k you are talking about... Have you tried to control your stammering? NO? Why? Yeah right YOU DON'T STAMMER... I have been a stammerer all my life and that makes me and Speakingout2 very qualified to talk about it... I have gained some control over my stammering in about 10 years... but at times I loose that fine control due to emotional stress or other triggers like fear.
We stammer differently every time. Every stammerer is different. Fear is not the cause of stammer it is the byproduct and most times is a trigger to stuttering.
We might stutter at one word today but not tomorrow because we are always thinking differently... the brain is the most complicated machine in the world and is not working 100% the same way every day... today I might be upset because of something and stammer more than yesterday.
Bad luck, dagreedo98. The best advice I can give you is to try to be open about your stuttering. If you hide it, people will tease you more. Try to tell them how it is for you, so they can imagine how it would be for them.
I've had a stammer/stutter since 3 yrs of age..i'm 28 now and have struggled in all aspects of my life..i have good days and bad days..listening to an older person who has gone through what i have gone through is in a strange way quite reassuring as i find just talking about this really helps..i would love to one day be a motivational speaker for younger people, or any age, who struggle with a stutter..Thank you for posting this video
(part 2)... Those who battle this everyday but can help everyone with some part of their lives. I know that i am all the better for finding this. Thank you.
Hey there. I am 17 years old and I do not have a stammer but I found your video and as I sit here and read the conversations between you and some of the commenters I couldn't help but write this. I find your words of advice and encouragement incredible. I am so moved by the amount of strength and perseverance you show, not only through these videos but through your continuous involvement with your writers. Keep talking and raising awareness because you words not only apply those who battle this
stevensilver1203, those are some of the most rewarding comments anyone has ever written. Thank you. There is such a lot we need to do to change things for stammerers. Sometimes it feels like pushing water uphill. The solution is, firstly, for us stammerers to feel more comfortable when speaking in public and, secondly, for more non-stammerers to understand why we stammer and why it makes life difficult. Your comments show that you understand and that has given me my warm feeling for today!
First of all, I would like to thank you for standing up for us by making this video. It is really frustrating to see people making fun of you without taking into account how stuttering or stammering has affected our lives. It is really embarrassing for me when I introduce myself and I stutter ! What's more, My name is Ahmad and "A" and "H" are the most two letters I find trouble pronouncing it, so you can see how that's embarrassing. Yet, people still think it's funny.
Thanks, Ahmad. I have talked and stammered all my life, in private and in public! Yes, it has caused difficulties and I am getting increasingly angry about way we are treated by many people, and especially by the media. We really do need to stand up and speak our minds, difficult though that may be.
I found that the easiest way to avoid stuttering/stammering is to relax, take a deep breath and talk slowly and quietly. Also, try to let the words naturally flow out of your mouth instead of anticipating the next words that are about to come out of your mouth.
I have had a stuttering problem about 5 years ago and then it disappeared, but then it came back unfortunately and it sucks it's really hard to talk and I am embarrased especially when I stutter intensely. I think I overcame it by just not thinking of it
Strange, TheLiveInfinity, that it came back after so long. Bad luck. But I agree with you, one of the best therapies is to try to forget about it. Otherwise it sits there, in the middle of your life, infecting everything and destroying your momentum.
I have a friend who stammers. He has trouble with some more words than others. Anything that starts with "St" gives him trouble. I know he can use techniques where an "untrained ear" can't tell. Like saying "Taking Spock" over "Taking Stock" or something like that. I agree with you. More research needs to be done, and funded.
swangardian, give your friend my regards. We all have strange things like that. One day I'm not good on hard consonants, but then, the next day, it's open vowels! Some times I glide through the trees, missing them all; some times, it's very bumpy...
Hillshirefarms1, that's not too clever - and I see that all four of your various comments on YouTube today have been insults. You prove my point about the prejudice that stammerers face.
Yes - I see that. I suppose it's an easy opportunity for a cheap joke in the same way as racism or sexism was and no less despicable. Nothing surprises me about the Sun. There is something deeply unpleasant about anyone making fun of someone with a handicap of any sort.
Surely no one thinks it's a joke? Anyone who does not have the mosst profound empathy with a stammerer must have something much more seriously wrong with their neural circuits? JB
Surely no one thinks it's a joke? Anyone who does not have the mosst profound empathy with a stammerer must have something much more seriously wrong with their neural circuits?
Yes, BirchBlick , unfortunately many people still think it's a joke! It's improved a lot on YouTube since I put up this video but you might try searching for 'stutter prank' on YT now, and see what you get. There have been plenty of bad stammering jokes in the media, made by journalists, relating to The King's Speech: the headline 'Oscar n-n-n-nominations', for example, in the Sun. As a stammerer, if I get stuck when giving my address, people will say 'Forgotten where you live, have you?!'
I'm glad to hear that, ExTreem0000. You may never completely overcome it, but if you can be open about it, and get some better control over the fluency of your speech, you will have achieved two important things. Good luck.
@speakingout2 Thank you for posting this extremely informative video. I'm currently training to become a Speech and Language Therapist and found your insight into the life of a person who stammers very interesting. I hope what I've learned from you will help me to become a more in-tune and empathetic therapist in the future.
Great news, rvs1987, there are far too few SLTs and very few who specialise in stammering. So the very best of luck to you. There are quite a lot of stammering videos on YT now, but if you want to see more of mine, there are six others which you will find on the speakingout2 channel, the latest of which offers a stammerer's view on The King's Speech.
I've had a stammer since I was elementary age. I'm now 32 and still cannot say my name on demand. It gets better with time and practice, but the demon still remains.
Hey I stutter.............Thats Whhy I have Anger issues...........Thats why I have Pubic speaking problems in class.....I want to say alot of things but afraid to....Got A problem...Dont care......I STILL LIVE MY LIFE I PLAY BASEBALL....HAVE LOTS OF FRNDS......DONT CARE WAT U THINK
i always have time for anyone who stutters. i used to stutter heavily when i was 8 and still stutter in my speech today (i'm 25). some days it's more noticeable than others, and it is an inconvenience i've got used to.
i always have time for anyone who stutters. i used to stutter heavily when i was 8 and still stutter in my speech today (i'm 25). some days it's more noticeable than others, and it is an inconvenience i've got used to.
Hi, PVumbe. We stutter because the neural circuits for speech in our brains have not wired normally, so it is difficult to control the fluency of our speech. When we sing or rap, we use a different part of our brains. So your theory about stuttering being caused by thinking too much is not right. Go to a site such as Wikipedia, search for stuttering or stammering, and check it out for yourself.
What a great video well done my friend :)
louisscd 4 days ago in playlist Stammering or Stuttering. 65 million people do, me too!
Thanks, @louisscd. Are you one of us?!
speakingout2 4 days ago
i've pretty much managed to overcome my stammer i had throughout my teenage years however i find it annoying how it seems to creep up on me when in important or embarrassing situations it shatters my confidence everytime..
punani62 1 week ago 2
Yes, @punani62, I know what you mean. But confidence in yourself and confidence in your speech are not quite the same thing...
speakingout2 1 week ago
@punani62 Ye me too. I have a stammer and i went on a course called the starfish project and it helped me out allot!
topgunslayer 1 week ago
Yes, @topgunslayer, I know about Starfish, run by Annie Blight, who used to be with McGuire. It's good - try everything, but be careful because there are a lot of sharks about!
speakingout2 1 week ago
I actually find programes with problems related to yours rather interesting.
kmcdonald25 1 week ago
I'm really glad about that, @kmcdonald25. It takes a lot of explaining, but it has to be worth it. Thank you.
speakingout2 1 week ago
wow i should make a video too, we all should make try to explain what works and what not. any idea?
saadabdulaziz 1 week ago
Please do, @saadabdulaziz. If we don't tell them, they won't understand. Good luck!
speakingout2 1 week ago
I stammer a lot and am very embarrassed... it keeps my away from socializing with people and I don't really know how to fix it no matter how much I tried.
MKhuuNancy 2 weeks ago
@MKhuuNancy Try looking into a thing called The starfish project its a course in a place called Eastbourne and was very helpful to me!
topgunslayer 1 week ago
@speakingout12 hey 1st of all sry 4r d late response...it is really nice that some stranger like u care about my stammering n ask questions!!! n about stammering i just started taking lessons by a speech therapist. hope things got better n at last keep going... u r doing a gud job...
yashist 3 weeks ago
Great, @yashist, good luck and keep at it!
speakingout2 3 weeks ago
I have a stammering problem, I've had ever since I was small. I believe I got it from my dad because he also has a stammer. I'm 19 and I get really nervous and stammer when I talk to new people, go out with friends to eat like stammering when asking for the food I want, etc. Whenever I'm alone, I talk out loud and I'm stammer free, nothing even a single stammer, it just happens when I talk to people, I get really nervous and freak out thinking to myself I'm gonna stammer. Any advice?
Acasas956 3 weeks ago
Yes, @Acasas956, find a NHS speech therapist locally. If you have trouble, contact British Stammering Association Helpline on 0845 603 2001 or email info at stammering org. On Facebook, go to British Stammering Association. Stammering is not 'infectious', but there is a strong hereditary element in the genes. Unfortunately, we have a neurological weakness in the speech planning and execution part of our brains, so we find it hard to speak fluently, especially if the demands are too great.
speakingout2 3 weeks ago
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nope its a choice a be like that stop makin a fool out of yourself just sayin
lampplantcandle11 3 weeks ago
i shutter and its FUCKING my life!!!!!!!! day by day....
yashist 1 month ago
I understand how you feel, @yashist, but what are you going to do about it? Where are you and is there any speech therapy locally?
speakingout2 1 month ago
@yashist come bro try to learn stuff that make you more confident , like guitar or sports.
and thank God we can still speak or listen or see. you know we are better then many, look at a bright side. you are more compassionate more understanding you know.
check out my songs.
saadabdulaziz 1 week ago
I stutter too
MegaPinky102 1 month ago
Bad luck, @MegaPinky102: you are one of 70 million in the world. How are you getting on?
speakingout2 1 month ago
I don't have a stammer but i have a friend that does, and i accept him and listen to what he has to say...I find your videos every inspirational for those that do have this, and I'm a fan. Great Job and keep making Videos!!
JimmyFallonRox898 1 month ago
Thanks @JimmyFallonRox898. Great that you, as a non-stammerer, are watching. Please give my best to your friend.
speakingout2 1 month ago
@speakingout2
Thanks and I will, Rock On!
JimmyFallonRox898 1 month ago
I'm 14 and i'm from Denmark, I stutter too, i hate it. How can i make it go away? :(
AzDer1000 2 months ago
Good to hear from you, @AzDer1000. It is possible to make a stammer go away, but it does not often happen. There is still no cure for stammering. Speech therapy is still the best way to learn how to become more fluent and, often, more accepting of a stammer - which helps reduce the fear of speaking. Have you contacted DAVS in Copenhagen? Their site is davs dot dk. Good luck and please get back to me, via my channel, if you want to talk about anything.
speakingout2 2 months ago
I have people who laughs at me when im stammering.
nigelnyamazana 2 months ago
You are not alone, @nigelnyamazana! Most of us - in fact probably all of us - have been laughed at at some some time, just because we stammer. The question is, what can we do about it? For example, if people were laughing at someone who had another neurologically-based condition, such as cerebral palsy, what would you say to them?
speakingout2 2 months ago
TheZadzzz - have you thought about joining the British Stammering Association; it'll help you get over that feeling of being alone. They've got a page on Facebook you could take a look at. Good luck.
speakingout2 3 months ago
There is a bright side to having a stammer. You will find that we are all more intelligent!!! As from an early age you learn to change a sentence that you want to say, but cant, into something you can say, all in your head in the blink of an eye. You can master the art of the English language, on paper. To speak it, it can feel like a foreign language.
Im 42 and have stammered all my life. I'm in a job that I'm to good for! I fight it every day and I'm determined to win, in the end!!!
partner99 3 months ago
Probably not more intelligent, unfortunately, partner99, but we certainly have better vocabularies! Keep up the fight. As you're in the UK and, if you're on Facebook, you might search for Speaking Out Team, which is s group of stammerers who are fighting back by speaking about stammering publicly. Good to hear from you.
speakingout2 3 months ago
I've got a stammer myself It used to be bad when I was much younger but it has reduced with time. I am 31 one but I always feel a sense of frustration when I can;t adequately express myself the way I want. I live in Scotland(not Scottish though) and my work requires me to talk to people. I have gotten on with the job, but now I want to move to the next level by changing careers.
Problem is that the interviews will require a great deal of presentations and it worries me that I will be found out!
MrFarfarfaraway 3 months ago
Good to hear from you, MrFarfarfaraway. I like your Christmas tape. My children have grown up now but one of them is a singer, still hoping for the big break. It's a tough world for him even though he doesn't stammer. If you're doing presentations, you must be getting on fairly well in your job. I wouldn't worry about being found out - people have obviously accepted you anyway and hiding it only puts a little extra pressure on you. Good luck with everything.
speakingout2 3 months ago
@speakingout2 Lol@Christmas mixtape. I'm a part time DJ!
I am encouraged that I'm not alone and I'm grateful to you for the vid. My colleagues have accepted my stammer,but I'm still working hard to reduce it.I might become a project mgr soon hence the anxiety :(
MrFarfarfaraway 3 months ago
MrFarfarfaraway, I've been managing director of various things and, although I'm sure that some people refer to me as the bloke with the stammer, they've always ended up judging me on my abilities, not me speech - even though I'm a marketing and communications consultant! Keep positive and good luck.
speakingout2 3 months ago
I'm 15. I stammer. Your now my idol! I'm already very open with my stammer and everyone accepts it and I am pretty confident that when I go for interviews there is the disability act to back me up if problems occur. That 5 minutes was really inspirational and hopefully has set some of the people straight who think it is funny because it certainly isn't.
DawseyHD 3 months ago
Good for you, DawseyHD - uploading in HD and learning to speak in HD! I know what you mean: sometimes people say that I'm not like 'other stammerers' because I am confident. But what they are probably saying is that I don't fit the misconception they have about all stammerers being shy and retiring - as if stammering was caused by shyness or nervousness, not the other way around. Good luck to you. You've got a long way to go in life and, if you keep up your attitude, you should be fine.
speakingout2 3 months ago
stuttering and stammering messes up life. My only way around it is to get lucky or make up new words to get around it
ItsSalim509 3 months ago
ItsSalim509, have you heard about the National Stuttering Association in the States? If not, why don't you check them out? They have local chapters in most places, full of normal people just like you, and they can help, because they understand. Good luck.
speakingout2 3 months ago
poor man
MsDestinydiva 5 months ago
Me, MsDestinydiva? Poor man? Not really. Thanks for your concern, but I've managed to get on with life and enjoy myself despite my stammer. It is a real pain, I grant you, and whenever I open a new relationship there are often mountains of misconceptions to be overcome. But I'm not seeking sympathy, but understanding - and the desire in society to do more for the 65 million people in the world who stammer, many of whom have far more difficulty with their speech than I do.
speakingout2 5 months ago
@speakingout2 Wanted to share the information:
Speech therapist should have following qualification to work in India:
B.Sc. (Hons) Speech Bachelor in Audiology and speech language Pathology (BASLP)
M.Sc. Speech language pathology/ MASLP
Certified by (RCI)
sanjay1774 4 months ago
I'm sorry that people have been cruel to you because you stammer. I actually think you sound quite good in this video! With this video, you have brought awareness to thousands of people, some of whom (like me) do not have any personal experience with stammer. So thank you for sharing.
firelunamoon 5 months ago
Thanks very much, firelunamoon, for stopping by and saying such kind things. My Big Aim is to try to help people who don't know anything about stammering to understand. Yes, my speech is not too bad, although it's not always like this and I need to think about it 24/7 in order to talk at least reasonably fluently. Millions of people, though, are far worse off than me, because they are much less fluent or have had terrible experiences which have robbed them of their desire to communicate.
speakingout2 5 months ago
I didnt post the previous comment, my account was hacked.
Mr007jamster 5 months ago
You've got a great voice ;) And it's gonna sound stupid, but I envy your speech haha. Mine is like 2x worse, blocking on every (other) sentence is "normal" for me, and you seem to sound pretty fluent (at least you're getting out what you want pretty fast) :) We'll never gonna be 100% cured so congrats.
xalesd2 6 months ago
Thanks, xalesd2. I find that, once I get going, I can usually put enough rhythm into my speech to kind of give me a nice road on which my voice can ride! But I still have trouble when starting to speak and, quite often, I get surprised by a sudden block. However, whatever happens, I think it's better to talk and stammer than not to talk at all. And with all the massive misconceptions, ignorance and prejudice about stammering, we need to try to put things right.
speakingout2 6 months ago
You will turn out great.. Like King George I beilve I can't remember which one.. I had a stammer when I was young but I took a really good course.. It worked..I hope you work this out. And good luck
callos1232 7 months ago
Thanks, callos1232, but I doubt whether I will ever control my speech completely - very few adult stammerers do. King George VI was never 'cured' but, much like me, he probably came to terms with it.
speakingout2 7 months ago
god bless u ir.......
SuperNaveen81 7 months ago
stuttering fucking ruin lifes..
SnakkeBikkje 7 months ago
I have a Cousin in the UK who has a Stammer, he went right for the very job that would be the most speaking and convincing of them all, a Lawyer! he also gets parts in movies and commercials, I have to say, that man has rocked it after all the hardship he had to go through, I admire him and you for sharing your experiences with us. Cheers :-)
brooklynlulu 7 months ago
Thanks for letting us know about your cousin, brooklynlulu. It would be good to meet him and ask whether he would help us overcome the many misconceptions about stammering. I'm not a lawyer, but I am in marketing. I've never met anyone else in that industry who stammers, but I have met a lot of people who are rampantly over-fluent!
speakingout2 7 months ago
@speakingout2 Hi, I haven't spoken to Chris for some months, embarrassed to say, a little family matter has caused a few of us to stop talking. It's a shame because he probably would jump right in and try to get involved anyway he could for this cause. Maybe I can speak with a Cousin of ours and see if he can contact him, I'm sorry, I know this sounds silly but you know, FAMILY lol.
brooklynlulu 7 months ago
Family, yep, know what you mean, brooklynlulu. My name is Leys Geddes, if he wants to contact me via the British Stammering Association at all the Ws stammering dot organisation.
speakingout2 7 months ago
@speakingout2 Hey, sorry for the slow response, been a wild few days, will try to pass it on through a cuz in London :-) hope all is well.
brooklynlulu 7 months ago
My three year old son is beautiful, intelligent, funny and kind to others, he is a wonderful little boy... he also has a stammer.
His stammer is a tiny part of his fabulous personality and I wonder whether in real life Darkdestroyer and all the other disgusting commenters on here would feel comfortable laughing in his face. Totally despicable. Lets hope they never face a problem that effects their life so much. I feel sorry for you all.
caryssenga 7 months ago
You sound like a great Mum, caryssenga, and thank you for your support. Is your little man being helped? And did you know that there is a page on Facebook called Parents of Children Who Stammer? You might drop in there sometime. There are a lot more great Mums there, sharing the ups and downs, large and small.
speakingout2 7 months ago
The way you speak makes me la a a a a u g g h h
XDarkDestroyaX 7 months ago
Not very original, XDarkDestroyaX , but at least you looked at the video, and you have also helped to make my point about stammering still being treated as a joke.
speakingout2 7 months ago
@speakingout2 That's because people like you are a joke ;-) Later
XDarkDestroyaX 7 months ago
Now you really are proving my point, XDarkDestroyaX .
speakingout2 7 months ago
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MultiMAGICDAN 6 months ago
@MultiMAGICDAN - W w w w w hatever you s s s s ay mate!
XDarkDestroyaX 6 months ago
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MultiMAGICDAN 6 months ago
It's a pity, MultiMAGICDAN, that you, as a professional who is interested in art and music, want to say these things. Most people who visit or post here - and some of them are quite young - seem to want to learn more about stammering or discuss the serious effect it can have on their lives. So if you want to slag off @XDarkDestroyaX, can't you please do it somewhere else - and delete your comments here?
speakingout2 5 months ago
I apologize if you've already answered this before, but I was wondering: can you sing any more easily than you can speak?
asdfqwerty2000 8 months ago
Not at all, asdfqwerty2000. Yes, everyone who stammers/stutters can sing fluently because singing is controlled by a different part of the brain than speaking. So why don't we all go around singing?! Well, I must say that some times I sing myself out of a problem when I get stuck - but people definitely think this is very strange behaviour...
speakingout2 8 months ago
Great name, NiggerMcCunts, and I think I get the general drift of your channel. But you're right: A Fish Called Wanda gave us all a lorra laffs but it didn't do much to help people understand stammering.
speakingout2 8 months ago
@speakingout2 quote - "Great name, NiggerMcCunts etc" ....Great name?!!.... Are you serious??....Ooook so you co-sign racist trolls but yet want people to feel empathy for your s-s-s-tuttering, explain your logic to me!
KiddDynamite270 7 months ago
I have the stammering problem too, its not very bad though, but i stammer in the worst of situations, Telling someone my name is a nightmare. A lot of times I have been judged by my speech. I always used to get a low score in English speaking, Missed on very good jobs, even though I would have been the best candidate but Stammer which is a joke for others has changed my life since I developed it, Now I tend to speak slowly which does helps and not use words which I know I cant speak
naughtyboy99999 8 months ago
Bad luck, naughtyboy99999, but most stammerers know exactly how you feel. If we want to stop all these misconceptions and prejudices, we will need to help people understand why we stammer and how it can affect our lives.
speakingout2 8 months ago
My friend has a speech impedement, I'm wondering if it's due to the emotional abuse he's endured? It only started in his teen years recently. After a recent arrival of even MORE shyte on top of his shyte.
inrSTRENGTH 8 months ago
The root cause of stammering is now known to be 'faulty wiring' in the brain. There is no evidence that it can be caused by emotional abuse or shyte - but it's quite possible that his speech would have been made worse by abuse or shyte. If you look up the 'Monster Study' on Wikipedia, you'll read about a dreadful experiment in which researchers were cruel to a group of orphaned children in order to see if it would make them stammer. None did, but several developed psychological problems.
speakingout2 8 months ago
@speakingout2 Ok, well thankyou.
inrSTRENGTH 8 months ago
my stammer is weird i can say every word fine when im by myself but when people ask my name i struggle and also answering the phone is a nightmare. I seem to be able to put sentannce together quite easy its just getting the first word out thats a struggle.
12inchwang 8 months ago
Starting is difficult for many of us, 12inchwang, but then our speech will usually become more fluent as we get into a rhythm - until we get stuck in the next block!
speakingout2 8 months ago
i stutter really bad and im made fun of at school and i cant see how i would make it in life with my really bad stuttering my parents tried therapy but it was costing to much :(
DarKSoNTHeLegEnd 9 months ago in playlist A Stuttering problem.
Bad luck, DarKSoNTHeLegEnd, but you're certainly not alone - so is there any group you can join, in the real world or online, so that you don't have to deal with this alone and can learn more about it?
speakingout2 9 months ago
@speakingout2 not that i know of i live in Mesa Arizona and i dont think there s 1 here
DarKSoNTHeLegEnd 9 months ago
DarKSoNTHeLegEnd - why not search for the National Stuttering Association and the Stuttering Foundation of America and email them to ask if they can help? They will know what's going on in and around Mesa. Good luck.
speakingout2 9 months ago
@speakingout2 thanks
DarKSoNTHeLegEnd 9 months ago
Good man, well done. Am 38 myself and am a stammerer, trick is don't let it hold you back, I myself went along to be an IT Consultant, my brother stammers and is a pilot for a commercial airline, my son Stammers and my mother stammers... just keep doing what you do, accept it and it will get easier, some months are good, some bad, I just happen to be in a good month thus my optimistic response.
But well done! Though without an audience... how did you manage to stammer?
JohnnyBellew 9 months ago
I agree with you 100%, JohnnyBellew, although this condition is unpredictably variable, the secret is to just get on with life. I've got a cousin who stammers and various other relatives who are Aspergery! But a lot of people who stammer do have a very bad time and, as I'm sure you know, there is a lot of prejudice, based largely on ignorance, which needs to be overcome - so I feel this is a fight worth fighting. I stammer when I'm on my own or talking to dogs, babies, lovers and so on...
speakingout2 9 months ago
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JohnnyBellew 9 months ago
Check Out: Overcoming Stuttering/Stammering
JustObey89 10 months ago
Good luck, JustObey89. Few adults overcome their stammering completely but, with a bit of help, most of us can reduce our worries and increase our fluency.
speakingout2 10 months ago
Why does the common cold affect people in different ways? CAN YOU ANSWER THAT? ANSWER THAT! Some stutterers have blocks with some letters/sound combinations while others can speak them fine. Stuttering is unique to each individual. Words are unique. They precede and are followed by different words each time they are spoken. Never the same! Besides personal observation and an obvious impressive intellect, what EXACTLY makes you such an expert of stuttering? What research have you done?
PatriotTK421 10 months ago
@PatriotTK421
I never said i'm an expert of stuttering, you suggest that. I noticed that someone almost doesn't or not stammers if he talks too a child or an animal and stutters allot more when he talks too a crowd. And why can't i think the reason of stuttering through de experiences of my friends that stutters? They can tell me exactly what theire experience are. Stuttering has become a lifestyle, that's why i think it's not curable by some pill or anything in the terms of neurological cause
Fraanskes 10 months ago
@PatriotTK421
Stuttering is unique to each individual, i agree. Never the same? So you never say a sentence twice? That means you can never say some sentences fluently? Why do you say a sentence fluent this time and stutters it the other time, neurological argued.
Fraanskes 10 months ago
Hello Speakingout2,
I am myself a stammerer as well. It's very severe and I have difficulty holding day-to-day conversations, performing public speeches, etc. but I've learned to cope with it and I'm trying to make the best out of it. Thank you so much for posting such an inspirational video because I can relate to everything you said! ;) I don't have a job yet so it'll be interesting how people react to stammering in job-environment... I'm just starting college next year... Thanks again!
DilinoGadzo1 10 months ago
Good luck, DilinoGadzo1. It will probably be a bit of a struggle, but it sounds as if you have the right attitude. If you can manage to be open about your stammer and tell people, yes, I stammer sometimes - and tell them why if you get the chance - and try to stay positive and happy, then you will make things a lot easier for yourself. No doubt you will be 'the guy who stammers' to begin with but, in time, they will see more of the real you and almost forget about your stammer. Good luck.
speakingout2 10 months ago
@speakingout2 Thanks for the kind reply! I will definitely take your words of advice! Many thanks!
DilinoGadzo1 10 months ago
This video is inspirational in it's own way, sayin it the way it is, now fraanskes doesn't get it, some people are stubborn that way.
wiinick90 10 months ago
wiinick90, many people grow up believing that their stammer was caused by some traumatic event. And because they don't talk to other stammerers, their thinking stays that way. Some buy into treatment programmes which address the effects of stammering but they don't always explain that it's no one's FAULT. So when it was discovered, 3 years ago, that the root cause of stammering is neurological, I was quite relieved! Until then, I'd never understood why a confident person like me stammered.
speakingout2 10 months ago
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Guys I've created page called Stutter Club in Facebook. I feel Youtube isn't big enough to share our thoughts so lets discuss it somewhere we can communicate with each other on how to make our lives better. I believe our lives can be improved if we share our problems and methods to overcome this 1 problem we have.
giriisindahouse 10 months ago
@wojtek0000 I'm assuming it was an attempt at humor and I'm sorry if I missed something, but mocking stutterers is probably the most offensive thing someone could do. The h-h-hang and st-st-stuttering phrases are offensive and looks poorly on your character. I'm sure you're a nice person, but you should know how hurtful it is. Do you limp when you see someone who is handicap? Friends and family are always shocked to see how often people mock me by acting like they stutter. Please don't do it.
PatriotTK421 11 months ago
@PatriotTK421 When you think about it, there's nothing like making a special point of bringing attention to what is wrong with someone to make them feel even worse about themselves. Stammerers don't need reminded. Some of my close friends will say something light hearted and jokes about stuttering probably depend on each individual stutterer as to if they're offensive or not. But think of it like this.....AT VERY BEST, mocking something that someone struggles with is in poor taste.
PatriotTK421 11 months ago
@ChaseRUFC I wish I had some good advice or answers for you. I'm a 37 year old male and have gone through and still go through everything you listed. I don't allow anyone to make fun of me, but you can't fight or argue with everyone who laughs or says something bad. I will often be very direct and tell people that I will not allow anyone to make fun of me and I don't appreciate their comments and find them hurtful. I ask them if they make fun of handicap children too. Direct works for me.
PatriotTK421 11 months ago
As someone who has stuttered their entire life, it's frustrating for me to hear people who do not stutter tell me WHY I stutter. Fear of speaking or fear of a word does NOT cause stuttering. Stuttering is always there. Like the concrete foundation under a house, it doesn't move or change. The fear of a word/ situation can cause a bigger blockage. But people need to understand it's not due to fear, poor self-esteem or whatever. Those things exist BECAUSE of the stammering & only grow with time.
PatriotTK421 11 months ago
Hello, PatriotTK421. Yep, I agree with everything you say. What else can we do to make people understand?
speakingout2 11 months ago
@speakingout2 I'm not really sure. I think you're doing a great thing and I agree with you that stammering has a small window of opportunity with the making of The King's Speech. I fear that the spot light will soon fade.
PatriotTK421 11 months ago
Yes, Matt - PatriotTK421 - The King's Speech effect is over and, whilst it has done a great deal for stammering awareness, it's done very little for understanding.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@PatriotTK421
Why can someone who doesn't stutter doesn't know why someone stutters? I know some close friends that stutters and i learned allot about stammering/stuttering through their personally expierence.
Can you or speakingou2 please explain too me why it's neurological? Why do you stammer a word at this time and not stammer that same word another time? That's not logic at all why is should be neurological.
And why does someone stutters more than another person?
Fraanskes 10 months ago
@Fraanskes Let me get this straight. You are telling me you know why people stutter because you have several close friends who stutter and you've watched them closley? That's ridiculous. Come on man, seriously. That's like saying you know what it's like having black skin because you have an African friend. No one knows WHY people stutter. They suspect it is neurological because of actual tests they have done to study the brain of stutterers WHEN they speak.
PatriotTK421 10 months ago
@Fraanskes Why does someone with cancer live longer than another person with the same type of cancer? Why does someone with MLS lose control of their arms, legs or swallowing before another with the same MLS? Even the common cold affects each human differently. Even though we're all human, we're all very different when you look deep inside. (DNA)
PatriotTK421 10 months ago
@PatriotTK421
Cancer and MSL is a whole different thing than stammering, it's not comparable. And it doesn't explain why you stammer a word one time and the other time not.
Fraanskes 10 months ago
@Fraanskes Cancer and MLS are different than stammering? Really? Thanks doctor, I had no idea. What an incredible observation you make. How can anyone ever explain anything to you? This might seem harsh, but I'm doing you a favor. YOU'RE WRONG. Stop being an idiot, please. Can people control cancer or MLS? Or even the common cold? The answer, docotor, is NO, they cannot CONTROL them. They just HAVE them. They deal with them and each one affects each person differently.
PatriotTK421 10 months ago
@PatriotTK421
Unfortunately you can't respond normally too a normal question..
You give some not comparable and illogical examples without based knowledge so why do you call me an idiot? I'm trying to respond and discus normal with you, why you can't?
Fraanskes 10 months ago
The solution of stammering is not that easy, a pil or anything can't just change your way of speak. You need too overwin your fear of speak, go no conversations out the way, why should you? Does a not stammering person goes a conversation out the way because the way he speak? The thaught must be: yes i stammer, so what, have confidence. Don't focus your speaking on how you gonna say something but what you gonna say, erase the taught of stammering, it takes practise.
Fraanskes 11 months ago
But, Fraanskes, I really love talking to people. I don't fear conversation. I am confident. For example I am the Managing Director of my own marketing consultancy and I have worked - and stammered - all over the world. You assume, like many people, that we stammer because we are nervous, afraid or screwed up! But we are not mice, we simply have faulty wiring in our brains! Imagine how frustrating it would be to be confident, to know exactly what you want to say - but then find you can't.
speakingout2 11 months ago
Hi, I am a stammerer. Are you a stammerer too? Have you done a speech therapy in the past but you could not overcome your speech problem? Have you every wondered why? One of the most important reason is lack of practise.
So i decided to practise it with other stammerers. i am looking for people with whom i can practise and ofcourse they can practise their technique with me. If you are interested then we can do it over skype or sth. other. Practise makes man perfect. pls contact me.
110ajayk 11 months ago
The case is, you stammer because you don't want to stammer! You're thinking how you gonna say something instead of what you gonna say. That's the cause. A not stammering person doesn't think how he gonna say the words but what he's gonna say. Why do you stammer now on this video? That's because you know it's gonna be on Youtube, if there was no camera and you are all alone i bet you don't stammer. It's all mental. The will not to stammer, makes you stammer.
Fraanskes 11 months ago
Hi, Fraanskes: the fact is that I stammer when I'm on my own. And it's not all mental because the root cause is neurological; the wiring for speech in our brains is faulty, and that makes it difficult to talk fluently all the time.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@speakingout2
Thanks for your reaction, interesting discussion! I think it's not neurological at all, but a mather of fear too speak. Speaking is a autonomous function of the human beeing, everyone can speak fluent. But the fact that people who stammer pays attention on his speaking, makes him stammer. Why do you stammer more if you need too talk in public? Because the fear too speak, you think about your stammer(fear), and than you stammer. It's all mental, the fear too speak, thats the cause
Fraanskes 11 months ago
It's good to discuss this but no, Fraanskes, the root cause is neurological. 'Stuttering is a neurodevelopmental disorder involving many different brain systems active for speech - including language, motor, and emotional networks. Each infant is born with a genetic makeup that contributes to his or her probability of stuttering'. What happens next will depend on the severity of the disorder, the child and its environment. It can become a syndrome, and children can grow to fear speaking.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@Fraanskes You don't stammer because of fear... fear comes from stammering and fear makes you stammer more... I have gotten my stammering under some control in the last 10 years... but when I get nervous or tired I stammer more... it is neurological.... This is all physical in our brains... there is a device that can trick the brain into not stuttering by making it think you are talking in sync with some one else... Check a video here on youtube called "worst stutter ever" and you see.
Sillygoi 9 months ago
@speakingout2
Mhh, i'm not quit convinced at your point. Why do you say some lines fluent and some lines not? I think it's because you know the stammering is comming, you think about the word , what makes you a little onconfident. I think there is aways some tension while your stammering, conscious or unconscious.
The same when you whisper i bet you stammer a lot less because you pay the attention on the whispering, same ase you sing. I reccomend too visit the site Hausdorfer
Fraanskes 11 months ago
No, Fraanskes, believe me, I don't stammer because I know the stammer is coming! And you should know that we sing fluently because singing uses a different part of the brain than speaking. I've looked at the Hausdorfer site and they are treating stammering as a nervous condition, not as a speech disorder. The assumption that stuttering is not the result of a physical disability will mislead people, particularly parents, into believing that they are to blame for their child's stammer.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@speakingout2
Interesting, then i think there are different types of how and why a person stammers. I know some people who stammered in the past and now are 'stammer' free. I really don't believe it's all a neurologic, that makes no sense because the one time you say the word fluent and the other time not. That's not logical. I think we don't agree on our points, but your interpetation is interesting as well.
Fraanskes 11 months ago
No, Fraanskes, there is Developmental Stammering, which is what I have described, which is what most stammerers have. And since three genes were discovered last year, there is now an almost indisputable case for a genetic influence in that. There is also Acquired Stammering, which is rare and occurs after, for example, a head injury. You can disagree with me, if you want - but you will still be wrong! And yes, I also know a few people who have learned to control their stammering.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@speakingout2
No offense, but that's not true. Theire is no 'controling' of stammering, you stammer or you don't stammer. Unfortunately you only use a tunnelvision on your perspective. Stammering is a life style, it can not be cured by a pil or something. I believe the will not too stammer ( unconscious or not, makes you stammer)
Fraanskes 11 months ago
Fraanskes, I am Chairman of the British Stammering Association. So I work with expert researchers and clinicians. If you don't believe what I say, you might like to check out the BSA website at stammering org or, if you need independent verification, you could search for stammering on Wikipedia. If you want to listen or talk to stammerers, take a look at the BSA page on Facebook.
speakingout2 11 months ago
@Fraanskes How can you say that there is not controlling of stammering?
With all due respect you don't know what the f**k you are talking about... Have you tried to control your stammering? NO? Why? Yeah right YOU DON'T STAMMER... I have been a stammerer all my life and that makes me and Speakingout2 very qualified to talk about it... I have gained some control over my stammering in about 10 years... but at times I loose that fine control due to emotional stress or other triggers like fear.
Sillygoi 9 months ago
@Fraanskes We don't normaly stammer when we sing.
We stammer differently every time. Every stammerer is different. Fear is not the cause of stammer it is the byproduct and most times is a trigger to stuttering.
We might stutter at one word today but not tomorrow because we are always thinking differently... the brain is the most complicated machine in the world and is not working 100% the same way every day... today I might be upset because of something and stammer more than yesterday.
Sillygoi 9 months ago
i have a stutering problem and i get laughed at when i try to do report in school any advice on that, have u been in the same situation
dagreedo98 11 months ago
Bad luck, dagreedo98. The best advice I can give you is to try to be open about your stuttering. If you hide it, people will tease you more. Try to tell them how it is for you, so they can imagine how it would be for them.
speakingout2 11 months ago
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dagreedo98 11 months ago
I've had a stammer/stutter since 3 yrs of age..i'm 28 now and have struggled in all aspects of my life..i have good days and bad days..listening to an older person who has gone through what i have gone through is in a strange way quite reassuring as i find just talking about this really helps..i would love to one day be a motivational speaker for younger people, or any age, who struggle with a stutter..Thank you for posting this video
CAVALLIN0 11 months ago
Hello! I am a stammerer too! Anyway, you have my respect.
ExCoOps 11 months ago
(part 2)... Those who battle this everyday but can help everyone with some part of their lives. I know that i am all the better for finding this. Thank you.
stevensilver1203 11 months ago
Hey there. I am 17 years old and I do not have a stammer but I found your video and as I sit here and read the conversations between you and some of the commenters I couldn't help but write this. I find your words of advice and encouragement incredible. I am so moved by the amount of strength and perseverance you show, not only through these videos but through your continuous involvement with your writers. Keep talking and raising awareness because you words not only apply those who battle this
stevensilver1203 11 months ago
stevensilver1203, those are some of the most rewarding comments anyone has ever written. Thank you. There is such a lot we need to do to change things for stammerers. Sometimes it feels like pushing water uphill. The solution is, firstly, for us stammerers to feel more comfortable when speaking in public and, secondly, for more non-stammerers to understand why we stammer and why it makes life difficult. Your comments show that you understand and that has given me my warm feeling for today!
speakingout2 11 months ago
First of all, I would like to thank you for standing up for us by making this video. It is really frustrating to see people making fun of you without taking into account how stuttering or stammering has affected our lives. It is really embarrassing for me when I introduce myself and I stutter ! What's more, My name is Ahmad and "A" and "H" are the most two letters I find trouble pronouncing it, so you can see how that's embarrassing. Yet, people still think it's funny.
peterparkerisme 1 year ago
Thanks, Ahmad. I have talked and stammered all my life, in private and in public! Yes, it has caused difficulties and I am getting increasingly angry about way we are treated by many people, and especially by the media. We really do need to stand up and speak our minds, difficult though that may be.
speakingout2 1 year ago
I found that the easiest way to avoid stuttering/stammering is to relax, take a deep breath and talk slowly and quietly. Also, try to let the words naturally flow out of your mouth instead of anticipating the next words that are about to come out of your mouth.
TheLiveInfinity 1 year ago
I have had a stuttering problem about 5 years ago and then it disappeared, but then it came back unfortunately and it sucks it's really hard to talk and I am embarrased especially when I stutter intensely. I think I overcame it by just not thinking of it
TheLiveInfinity 1 year ago
Strange, TheLiveInfinity, that it came back after so long. Bad luck. But I agree with you, one of the best therapies is to try to forget about it. Otherwise it sits there, in the middle of your life, infecting everything and destroying your momentum.
speakingout2 1 year ago
I have a friend who stammers. He has trouble with some more words than others. Anything that starts with "St" gives him trouble. I know he can use techniques where an "untrained ear" can't tell. Like saying "Taking Spock" over "Taking Stock" or something like that. I agree with you. More research needs to be done, and funded.
swangardian 1 year ago
swangardian, give your friend my regards. We all have strange things like that. One day I'm not good on hard consonants, but then, the next day, it's open vowels! Some times I glide through the trees, missing them all; some times, it's very bumpy...
speakingout2 1 year ago
t-t-t-t-t-todaiiiii junior
hillshirefarms1 1 year ago
Hillshirefarms1, that's not too clever - and I see that all four of your various comments on YouTube today have been insults. You prove my point about the prejudice that stammerers face.
speakingout2 1 year ago 7
@hillshirefarms1 GO DO YOUR HOMEWORK AND STOP TROLLING BEFORE MOMMY BEATS ON YOU, SONNY BOY!
acorrales1380 1 year ago
Yes - I see that. I suppose it's an easy opportunity for a cheap joke in the same way as racism or sexism was and no less despicable. Nothing surprises me about the Sun. There is something deeply unpleasant about anyone making fun of someone with a handicap of any sort.
Good luck with your campaign.
BirchBlick 1 year ago
Surely no one thinks it's a joke? Anyone who does not have the mosst profound empathy with a stammerer must have something much more seriously wrong with their neural circuits? JB
BirchBlick 1 year ago
Surely no one thinks it's a joke? Anyone who does not have the mosst profound empathy with a stammerer must have something much more seriously wrong with their neural circuits?
BirchBlick 1 year ago
Yes, BirchBlick , unfortunately many people still think it's a joke! It's improved a lot on YouTube since I put up this video but you might try searching for 'stutter prank' on YT now, and see what you get. There have been plenty of bad stammering jokes in the media, made by journalists, relating to The King's Speech: the headline 'Oscar n-n-n-nominations', for example, in the Sun. As a stammerer, if I get stuck when giving my address, people will say 'Forgotten where you live, have you?!'
speakingout2 1 year ago 6
good post
Railtonleejohnson 1 year ago
I'm glad to hear that, ExTreem0000. You may never completely overcome it, but if you can be open about it, and get some better control over the fluency of your speech, you will have achieved two important things. Good luck.
speakingout2 1 year ago
@speakingout2 Thank you for posting this extremely informative video. I'm currently training to become a Speech and Language Therapist and found your insight into the life of a person who stammers very interesting. I hope what I've learned from you will help me to become a more in-tune and empathetic therapist in the future.
rvs1987 1 year ago
Great news, rvs1987, there are far too few SLTs and very few who specialise in stammering. So the very best of luck to you. There are quite a lot of stammering videos on YT now, but if you want to see more of mine, there are six others which you will find on the speakingout2 channel, the latest of which offers a stammerer's view on The King's Speech.
speakingout2 1 year ago
do you have skype
id really like to skype with you,im a stutterer too
aoderz 1 year ago
Thanks for this.
I've had a stammer since I was elementary age. I'm now 32 and still cannot say my name on demand. It gets better with time and practice, but the demon still remains.
azzasel 1 year ago
Hey I stutter.............Thats Whhy I have Anger issues...........Thats why I have Pubic speaking problems in class.....I want to say alot of things but afraid to....Got A problem...Dont care......I STILL LIVE MY LIFE I PLAY BASEBALL....HAVE LOTS OF FRNDS......DONT CARE WAT U THINK
underarmourob 1 year ago
Hi, underarmourob. Have you thought about seeing a Speech & Language Pathologist? Won't improve your baseball but may help the anger and your speech.
speakingout2 1 year ago
@speakingout2 IM GOing to start
underarmourob 1 year ago
@underarmourob PUBIC lol... just having a laugh m8.
spyked1 1 year ago
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i always have time for anyone who stutters. i used to stutter heavily when i was 8 and still stutter in my speech today (i'm 25). some days it's more noticeable than others, and it is an inconvenience i've got used to.
beatlegreg07 1 year ago
i always have time for anyone who stutters. i used to stutter heavily when i was 8 and still stutter in my speech today (i'm 25). some days it's more noticeable than others, and it is an inconvenience i've got used to.
beatlegreg07 1 year ago
thumbs up if you have a stammer but you can still live life!!
NJProductions111 1 year ago
Quite right, NJP. We can always hope that our speech will improve but, in the meantime, we need to get on with life.
speakingout2 1 year ago
do you guys know why you stutter?
we stutter because...
you guys think too much
don't understand?
let's say you can't say the word "dedicated"
now say that word without thinking about you stuttering that word
if you sing, rap, etc., notice how you don't stutter severly?
that's because, you're not thinking about yourself stuttering.
hope this helps
PVumbe 1 year ago
Hi, PVumbe. We stutter because the neural circuits for speech in our brains have not wired normally, so it is difficult to control the fluency of our speech. When we sing or rap, we use a different part of our brains. So your theory about stuttering being caused by thinking too much is not right. Go to a site such as Wikipedia, search for stuttering or stammering, and check it out for yourself.
speakingout2 1 year ago