My biggest problem was FEAR , I only imagined the worst happening until someone said it's just as easy to immagion a good outcome . The bible tells us over a hundred times to fear not, so once you identify what you are afraid of ask God to take that fear away. Then you can set boundaries without worrying about the outcome .
Fernsprite, I'm sorry to hear of your pain : ( that being said , he can no longer have control of your emotions. He can not "Make" you sad , he can not "make" you happy. It is hard to get control of your feelings ,but in my case I have asked God to help me do what I can not do, and the strength to do what I can. The bible has renewed my mind ( I was part of the problem) and slowly with the help of Sam's book and video's things have turned around. Thank God!
This explains my husbands crazy all over the place behaviors Perfectly! I can tell when he comes home from work, if he’s in a bad mood he’s going to fester some drama up to feed off of, that means he didn’t feed at work! And children are Not Exempt to this Horrific Sick Twisted drama of a feeding frenzy. I have Never understood Why he's treated our 4 daughters & I this way, now I do. What is the Purpose of these ppl, to Torcher & Destroy others for their own sick twisted pleasure?? I feel sick
@fernsprite Let me add that I’ve been married to this man for 23 yrs, he will lie & not blink an eye over the most silly & hurtful things, he picks at all of us to get a rise & reaction, yet if you met him you’d think he was a great guy. His mother & 2 siblings are Just The Same! His treatment of us is a Horrific Embarrassment, therefore No One would Ever Believe me if I started to talk because I was to Ashamed to even tell anyone about it, & That is what he Thrives & Counts On!
At 84, in a wheelchair and paralyzed by Parkinsons disease, my narcisistic mother, has weaved her web around a man who is in his 80's and a new resident of her assisted living home. She has done me a great favor by pouring her attention to getting his attention and left me alone, at last. She constantly needed my attention until now. Her demands on me have lessened. She was busy destroying my reputation at her facility and my relaitonship with my brother, aunt and cousins is destroyed.
I must say Sam, I'm getting tiered ... My N is like a blow up doll with a hole in it. If you don't keep pumping him up he deflates... Then even if he is home all weekend I may as well be alone. Thanks for the company Sam.
Utmax85, you may be like me an inverted narcissist ,read Sam's book it has helped me not only to understand my abuser but helped explain me! I use to describe my husband like an old water tap set that you could only hot or cold water out of, you know two separate taps , but now I have the right word NARCISSIST !!! Much more polite than ass hole ,lol : )
Hmm So i've got an interesting situation, I share alot of these traits, I will go between being crazy hyperactive,enthusiastic and creative, to being dead and zombie-like. But I am also empathetic and never have really bullied people. It confuses me because I don't know how messed up I really am. Any one got any wisdom on what my be going on in my case ?
I've had similar cycles just like you described in the beginning of the vid. Basically, ever since I've known this last one (18 yrs) nothing's gone right, and I was always confused at ppls reactions to me when I had done nothing wrong, so I've been chronically depressed. What worries me is that I often think that maybe I'm the narc and in denial. I still don't totally get the projective identification part and I think that's it... but is this common for a victim to feel this way?
@organysntracey1 ...to be more clear: "I've been with my NARC for 18 years," and "the confusion at ppls reactions around me" were about my sadistic narcissist spreading lies, rumors, and the last straw (he slipped and admitted during one of his last rages) that he had gotten me fired from my last job (he didn't, but I did need to leave because of his interference). After I found that out, I suspect he had done it with a job before that - I noticed the same patterns, etc.
2 yrs ago I was caught with one typical one.totally oblivious to his motives. he was always talking about his past victims eg ex girlfriends.. I wonderd how they became their prey but now it all made sense when you go through this down to a T. He was plotting and planning, from one manic phase to another, highs and lows...and planning for the next new narcissitic phase. It is all one big drama and a grand theatre production of falsified life.. It is hell being a narcissist. Living dead..
Like the Sherlock Holmes character who was very languid and flat and almost depressed until he found an interesting case that challenged his intellect, where he could prove himself and astound Watson while humiliating the coppers.
I suffered from ADHD when I was a teenager, It was interesting for me to observe hyperactivity in my narcissistic friend. I saw that we have something in common.
Damn, the human mind is sickly complex, isn't it? This helps me avoid being caught in that enchanting "web" again, to understand what's going on, thank you.
i was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and cyclothymic disorder (a form of bipolar). everything you say about NPD sounds pretty accurate, do you know anything about cyclothymic disorder?
My biggest problem was FEAR , I only imagined the worst happening until someone said it's just as easy to immagion a good outcome . The bible tells us over a hundred times to fear not, so once you identify what you are afraid of ask God to take that fear away. Then you can set boundaries without worrying about the outcome .
Kathydrel 4 weeks ago 3
Fernsprite, I'm sorry to hear of your pain : ( that being said , he can no longer have control of your emotions. He can not "Make" you sad , he can not "make" you happy. It is hard to get control of your feelings ,but in my case I have asked God to help me do what I can not do, and the strength to do what I can. The bible has renewed my mind ( I was part of the problem) and slowly with the help of Sam's book and video's things have turned around. Thank God!
Kathydrel 4 weeks ago
How does psylocybin affect narcism?
HoGraz 4 weeks ago
Artists are somewhat N's?
tinyctlo 1 month ago
This explains my husbands crazy all over the place behaviors Perfectly! I can tell when he comes home from work, if he’s in a bad mood he’s going to fester some drama up to feed off of, that means he didn’t feed at work! And children are Not Exempt to this Horrific Sick Twisted drama of a feeding frenzy. I have Never understood Why he's treated our 4 daughters & I this way, now I do. What is the Purpose of these ppl, to Torcher & Destroy others for their own sick twisted pleasure?? I feel sick
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@fernsprite Let me add that I’ve been married to this man for 23 yrs, he will lie & not blink an eye over the most silly & hurtful things, he picks at all of us to get a rise & reaction, yet if you met him you’d think he was a great guy. His mother & 2 siblings are Just The Same! His treatment of us is a Horrific Embarrassment, therefore No One would Ever Believe me if I started to talk because I was to Ashamed to even tell anyone about it, & That is what he Thrives & Counts On!
fernsprite 1 month ago in playlist More videos from samvaknin
At 84, in a wheelchair and paralyzed by Parkinsons disease, my narcisistic mother, has weaved her web around a man who is in his 80's and a new resident of her assisted living home. She has done me a great favor by pouring her attention to getting his attention and left me alone, at last. She constantly needed my attention until now. Her demands on me have lessened. She was busy destroying my reputation at her facility and my relaitonship with my brother, aunt and cousins is destroyed.
kellycat2552 1 month ago
I must say Sam, I'm getting tiered ... My N is like a blow up doll with a hole in it. If you don't keep pumping him up he deflates... Then even if he is home all weekend I may as well be alone. Thanks for the company Sam.
Kathydrel 1 month ago
Utmax85, you may be like me an inverted narcissist ,read Sam's book it has helped me not only to understand my abuser but helped explain me! I use to describe my husband like an old water tap set that you could only hot or cold water out of, you know two separate taps , but now I have the right word NARCISSIST !!! Much more polite than ass hole ,lol : )
Kathydrel 1 month ago 3
Hmm So i've got an interesting situation, I share alot of these traits, I will go between being crazy hyperactive,enthusiastic and creative, to being dead and zombie-like. But I am also empathetic and never have really bullied people. It confuses me because I don't know how messed up I really am. Any one got any wisdom on what my be going on in my case ?
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I've had similar cycles just like you described in the beginning of the vid. Basically, ever since I've known this last one (18 yrs) nothing's gone right, and I was always confused at ppls reactions to me when I had done nothing wrong, so I've been chronically depressed. What worries me is that I often think that maybe I'm the narc and in denial. I still don't totally get the projective identification part and I think that's it... but is this common for a victim to feel this way?
organysntracey1 1 month ago 2
@organysntracey1 ...to be more clear: "I've been with my NARC for 18 years," and "the confusion at ppls reactions around me" were about my sadistic narcissist spreading lies, rumors, and the last straw (he slipped and admitted during one of his last rages) that he had gotten me fired from my last job (he didn't, but I did need to leave because of his interference). After I found that out, I suspect he had done it with a job before that - I noticed the same patterns, etc.
organysntracey1 1 month ago
Well said Ruby!
organysntracey1 1 month ago 2
2 yrs ago I was caught with one typical one.totally oblivious to his motives. he was always talking about his past victims eg ex girlfriends.. I wonderd how they became their prey but now it all made sense when you go through this down to a T. He was plotting and planning, from one manic phase to another, highs and lows...and planning for the next new narcissitic phase. It is all one big drama and a grand theatre production of falsified life.. It is hell being a narcissist. Living dead..
ruby2411 1 month ago 2
Like the Sherlock Holmes character who was very languid and flat and almost depressed until he found an interesting case that challenged his intellect, where he could prove himself and astound Watson while humiliating the coppers.
Pippisongbird 1 month ago
Vaknin = Unique. Genius. Helpful beyond words. A gift to planet earth.
galacticious 1 month ago
shit-you just described my bf, scary!!
toxicpimpsmack 1 month ago
I thought my boyfriend is a narcissist, but after listening to you in this video, maybe it's ME ;)
silversecret82 1 month ago
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I suffered from ADHD when I was a teenager, It was interesting for me to observe hyperactivity in my narcissistic friend. I saw that we have something in common.
Psychotomimesis 1 month ago
Damn, the human mind is sickly complex, isn't it? This helps me avoid being caught in that enchanting "web" again, to understand what's going on, thank you.
quicksilver3x3 1 month ago 9
i was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and cyclothymic disorder (a form of bipolar). everything you say about NPD sounds pretty accurate, do you know anything about cyclothymic disorder?
RivetingRadiance 1 month ago
I like your videos.
thejihadresistance 1 month ago 12