i'd like to know what are the songs playing during Bastian's birth!!! i only seem to know the Evanescence one.. (Bring Me To Life).. sorry, i'm English!
@WhiteRain74 I love singing. It's actually really useful during labor. It requires both breathing and focus. If you can sing, focus on the words, it can make it much easier to get through a contraction.
@WhiteRain74 It's a breathing technique. Ina May calls it "horse lips", but essentially it reminds you to breathe and keep your jaw relaxed. Keeping your jaw relaxed it a great idea as tension will make it hurt more and cause you to tighten up everywhere. In labor, you need to open, so that little trick reminds you to relax and open.
@TheBeloved1one I have no idea your location or position, but there are options. If you're interested in homebirth, I'd check out MDC's "finding your tribe" for your geographic area and check out resources.
@isarma42 I have given birth to three babies, and I don't know that I would have had the strength to do it at home. I did have issues with the way things went at the hospital, so I probably would have had a better experience at home. It is wonderful to see the support of your friends and family. I know how much that helps. Congrats on your beautiful family.
@kenladuke If you decide to have another, remember that you do have options:) There are certified nurse midwives who work in hospitals and birthing centers. There are also wonderful homebirth midwives. Maybe shop around and bit and see what's the right fit for you:)
What is the name of the song that starts at the 4:20 point in the video? Also I think it is amazing that you can sing like that with no medication for the pain!!!
Good job! Thanks for sharing your birth experience. I had 2 homebirths after a traumatic hospital birth for my 1st daughter. What is "freebirthing"?? I've never heard of that, but I've been out of the birthing circles for the last 25 years!
@Marleyites You're so welcome! how wonderful that you had homebirths 25 years ago. Freebirthing, or unassisted birth, is birthing without a professional and taking full responsibility for your birth experience. Google "unassisted birth" and you'll find lots of websites and info:)
This is hardcore! I'm planning on becoming a midwife, so I find this really interesting! So the woman at 0:55 holding you was just one of your friends?
@roxanne1941 How exciting! I'm working towards becoming a midwife, too. What kind do you plan to be? I'm doing homebirth, of course. I just haven't decided if I'll become a CPM and remain a lay midwife. And yes, she's a good friend of mine. She's also a homebirther. Two of the moms are homebirthers and one had a natural, hospital birth.
well ont hing that came on my mind seeing this is " i've seen some reaction on havin birth but never really one like that" ur uniq i mean usualy woman scream or something but don't cry and sing :) that's cute tho ...i'm scared of that part when i'm gonna have my own kids well ...u must b a proud mommy :)
hey sarah remember me? i gave you comments some long time ago . how are ur kids? are u fine? i like when u sing here . u are good to begin a singer . xD [ hugs ] i think bastian was heard you from inside when u was singing . hehe . thats a good point
@PuFfaTOMic I don't remember your name, specifically, sorry. There are lots of comments!
We're doing great. The boys are 2 and 9, now. I think he heard me, too. In fact, one of the songs from the birth "Bubbly" is still his favorite lullabye:)
The pukey/nauseous waves are weird,lol. My hubby has a picture of me in labour on my knees, half hanging out of my fishy pool asleep with my head inside a stockpot. I never had less than 6 mins between contractions and I slept like a stone between them all. You seem so perky!
People if u think this is disturbing then just dont watch it. No one is forcing u to. Dont you think that there is something better to do than posting mean comments? If u dont like it then dont watch it it is that simple...
I bet you are a wonderful mother...when i watched the video i thought you were extremely pretty and brave...PS...great singing voice ya got there!!!:)
You have a lovely voice and are a lovely woman...thank you for sharing your experience! I delivered with a MidWife and am a Doula myself..."natural" delivery may not be safe for everyone but it is "natural" and should at least be given a chance. :o) I'm so glad you and your beautiful family had the kindness to share your experience with the world. All the best to you all~Lisa in Ohio
I did it! I had my baby at home! I had Jonathan on January 7th! It was everything I expected it to be...perfection! My niece was my doula, my hubby helped deliver him. Videos like this really inspired me. Thank you!
My sister in law has had her last two children at home. Jeremiah Lee on 11/21/07 and Esther Odelia on 6/27/09. The only people present were her and her husband.
wow u were so strong grl! im due next month and my soon 2 b husband is deployed n iraq right now hope he can come home for the birth!! i love and miss him soo much
do you happen to have a list of songs that were playing throughout your videos? i would really like to steal a few. thanks! i know you mentioned to someone else a webpage, but im not sure how to get there. thanks!
do you suggest giving birth at home? I am due in 2 months and am scared to death of all the pain. i dont really want a doctor to tell me to push when my body is against it. do you feel the same way?
It was important to me not to be told what to do. I loved the emotional support from my friends and family, but I never felt like I had to do anything. I only did what felt right to me. I definitely recommend homebirth. The vast majority of women are just as safe - even safer, at home.
How did you sterilize the pool before using it to give birth? I want to give birth in a pool at home but I know there are certain steps before that can take place. Thank you :-)
My other two births were both interventive hospital births with epidurals and I definitely preferred waterbirth at home. I wish I'd had them all this way!
Why was daddy naked?--Why did you make us see that? Why was your other son even there and why was his head so close to your boob? Why was his voice stressing you out? Don't you love him too?
-Because it's how he's most comfortable and we don't see casual nudity as a big deal.
-Because there's nothing wrong with having children at a birth and he was very excited to be there. As far as the boob comment, I don't see how proximity to a breast during childbirth is a big deal.
-It's common for women to ask for a caregiver for their child during births. The mothering impulse is strong and it can hard to focus on birthing and caring for your older child(ren) at the same time.
Wow--this is sooooo funny---poor little bastian is going to be scarred for life---the best part is the 12 year old breast feeding in the background---
He's 17 months old - not 12. Do a bit of research before you go saying that's too old to breastfeed and save us both some time.
To the rest of it, the tone of your comments is derisive and disrespectful. I'm happy to discuss or debate with people of opposing viewpoints, but if you continue to do so with that tone, I'll block you.
Hi Sarah! first of all, congratulations for your truly amazing achievement. I want to ask, what do contractions feel like? I've heard and read that some women liken them with very bad menstrual cramps, while others describe them as a very tight elastic band stretching, for you, how was the pain? What did make the pain more bearable for you?
Thanks:) I'm sorry, I've never been great at describing them. They do start off like cramps, but then magnify by an incredible factor! Mostly, I just kept repeating to myself that pain wouldn't kill me. The way out is through. I found the singing useful. I also really benefited from Ina May's advice about keeping your jaw relaxed and making horse lips. Having a focus object seemed to help, too.
So, you find it easier to deleiver on all fours? I so tried to give birth natural, but my body wouldn't let me. I would not dialate no more that 7 with my son, and I didn't dialate with my daughter. I was in labor, but couldn't pass em. So, a c- cection had to be done. Then, devolped cancer and had it all ripped out. I wanted more kids, but couldn't. Then, on March 11, 2002, my daughter passed. So, I have my 11 year old son, and I thank GOD everyday for him. Thank you for answering my questions.
I'm sorry you're had such a rough go of it:( Yes, all fours is easier. Lying on your back is working against gravity. Many hospital procedures aren't effective in aiding normal birth, unfortunately.
One more thing I wanted to ask, sorry for all the questions..lol..but what it easier to have the baby on all fours or laying on your back? I have been curious about it, but I always forgot to ask..
That's fine:) Lying on your back makes it more painful and is only useful for one person - the person catching. It actually closes the pelvis by about 30%. All fours is a good natural birthing position, as it allows full opening for the pelvis. Squatting is good, too. Anything that allows the body to open:)
How long were you actually in labor for? And you have a beautiful voice, by the way. Did you maybe have a nurse, midwife, and/or doctor like on standby? In case you may have needed one..?
totally amazing i know that home births are starting to gather alot more exceptance in the community at large. What better way to have your new child, with special freind's and family as apposed to a sterile and rushed hospital environment. Are there any implications that could arise whilst you are giving birth that might need medical assistance ? Im sure that there is alot of studying how to and what if. If you are going to attempt something like this. You all looked like you knew what to do
There are certainly things that can happen, but it's alot more rare than most people believe. I think a good place to start is a little book called, "Emergency Childbirth" by Dr. Gregory White. It's intended as a manual for EMTs and such, but really does a fantastic job of laying out how simple it can be:) Other than that, maybe check out Mothering's website, the UC forum and there are lots of links and books there.
Yeah, basically like horse lips. It helps to keep the jaw relaxed. Ina May Gaskin talks about it quite a bit. If your mouth is loose, it's hard for your cervix to be tightened down:) I believe she calls it the Sphincter Law.
Have no idea which sound you mean, but lots of women use sound when laboring. Yes, the music helps alot. It helps me to breathe deeply and gave me something to focus on.
Congrats, great job!! Did you like your birth pool (i think it's the ocean reef one, right?) I'm due in 8 weeks and need to buy one, any input would be great. Thanks!
damn, she's talented.
bunny67581 2 weeks ago
@bunny67581 Thanks :)
isarma42 1 week ago
just fascinated by u! how brave u are i mean..
i'd like to know what are the songs playing during Bastian's birth!!! i only seem to know the Evanescence one.. (Bring Me To Life).. sorry, i'm English!
love and health to you and yours!
stitchwitch13 1 month ago
@stitchwitch13
It won't let me post URLs, but the playlist is viewable online. Go to Blogspot, isarma42 and it's there :)
isarma42 1 month ago
@isarma42 thanks so much, i got it! :)
stitchwitch13 4 weeks ago
Also why are you singing?
WhiteRain74 2 months ago in playlist More videos from isarma42
@WhiteRain74 I love singing. It's actually really useful during labor. It requires both breathing and focus. If you can sing, focus on the words, it can make it much easier to get through a contraction.
isarma42 2 months ago
@isarma42 como se llama la cancion?
rodername 1 month ago
@rodername This one? "Bring Me to Life" by Evanescence
isarma42 1 month ago
Why are you doing that bllllrurururlrllururlrlurulrllurur thing with your tongue?
WhiteRain74 2 months ago in playlist More videos from isarma42
@WhiteRain74 It's a breathing technique. Ina May calls it "horse lips", but essentially it reminds you to breathe and keep your jaw relaxed. Keeping your jaw relaxed it a great idea as tension will make it hurt more and cause you to tighten up everywhere. In labor, you need to open, so that little trick reminds you to relax and open.
isarma42 2 months ago
lmao at the music hahaha
arsenal2death 2 months ago in playlist More videos from isarma42
@arsenal2death I was actually really pleased with this as the first song I was aware of.
isarma42 2 months ago
On a scale from 1-10, how much did this hurt?
MissClavelle 3 months ago in playlist More videos from isarma42
@MissClavelle Then? Not nearly as much as it did later :)
isarma42 2 months ago
i'm so glad i'm a boy :p
mattlaureys 3 months ago
@mattlaureys I'm really glad I'm a woman, too.
isarma42 3 months ago 3
that is my fav song
zoeygirl11 3 months ago in playlist More videos from isarma42
@zoeygirl11 It's definitely one of my favorite to sing :)
isarma42 3 months ago
good singer and i'm a singer too and ussally don't agree on singers(mostly because don't want them stealing my spotlight)LOL!
mjlover7531 8 months ago in playlist Bastians Birth ( Loud and Hilarious)
@mjlover7531 Ha! And thanks, I love to sing :)
isarma42 7 months ago
good song. very much a powerful woman song.
JessiexRazit 8 months ago in playlist Bastians Birth ( Loud and Hilarious)
@JessiexRazit It was a good way to start :) Singing really helped me in labor.
isarma42 7 months ago
Congratulations!! This is a wonderful video, and your singing skills aren't bad either
estherbooshie2008 9 months ago
@estherbooshie2008 Thanks :)
isarma42 9 months ago
i wish i could get a home birth
TheBeloved1one 10 months ago
@TheBeloved1one I have no idea your location or position, but there are options. If you're interested in homebirth, I'd check out MDC's "finding your tribe" for your geographic area and check out resources.
isarma42 9 months ago
congrulations, good job!
940powergirl 1 year ago
@940powergirl Thanks:)
isarma42 1 year ago
amazing singing
paisleyannette 1 year ago
@paisleyannette Thanks!
isarma42 1 year ago
the singing is amazing and congratz on the baby there all gawjuss x
paisleyannette 1 year ago
@paisleyannette Thank you two times:)
isarma42 1 year ago
Yes the singing is amazing.
kenladuke 1 year ago
@kenladuke Thank you! It really helped:)
isarma42 1 year ago
@isarma42 I have given birth to three babies, and I don't know that I would have had the strength to do it at home. I did have issues with the way things went at the hospital, so I probably would have had a better experience at home. It is wonderful to see the support of your friends and family. I know how much that helps. Congrats on your beautiful family.
kenladuke 1 year ago
@kenladuke If you decide to have another, remember that you do have options:) There are certified nurse midwives who work in hospitals and birthing centers. There are also wonderful homebirth midwives. Maybe shop around and bit and see what's the right fit for you:)
isarma42 1 year ago
who is the lady in the tub with u??
Hisgurl942 1 year ago
@Hisgurl942 There's not a woman in the tub with me, in this video. My friend, Rebecca, is right behind me rubbing my back.
isarma42 1 year ago
I love how you sang :)
meggyloo22 1 year ago
@meggyloo22 Thanks! I loved singing. It really helped.
isarma42 1 year ago
what is the pain like??
mrggbummer 1 year ago
@mrggbummer It's nearly impossible for me to describe. Sorry!
isarma42 1 year ago
@mrggbummer i asked my mom the same thing, a couple years ago, and she said it's like the pain during your period, but then 10 times wurse
rajsaa 1 year ago
thanks again for sharing. i have to say i love your playlist, im getting mine ready for my birth.
vhomesick 1 year ago
@vhomesick Thanks! The whole list is posted on isarma42 @ blogspot, if you're interested.
isarma42 1 year ago
your a good singer = )
DarkvoidTNC 1 year ago 10
@DarkvoidTNC Thanks!
isarma42 1 year ago
Wow! Thanks for sharing! Good luck and well done!
melikedogs100 1 year ago
@melikedogs100 You're so welcome:)
isarma42 1 year ago
you are soo weird
avanillap 1 year ago
@avanillap Um, thanks?:)
isarma42 1 year ago
What is the name of the song that starts at the 4:20 point in the video? Also I think it is amazing that you can sing like that with no medication for the pain!!!
angalfaro 1 year ago
@angalfaro "Did We Not Choose Each Other" by Sophie B. Hawkins. Thanks!
isarma42 1 year ago
Good job! Thanks for sharing your birth experience. I had 2 homebirths after a traumatic hospital birth for my 1st daughter. What is "freebirthing"?? I've never heard of that, but I've been out of the birthing circles for the last 25 years!
Marleyites 1 year ago
@Marleyites You're so welcome! how wonderful that you had homebirths 25 years ago. Freebirthing, or unassisted birth, is birthing without a professional and taking full responsibility for your birth experience. Google "unassisted birth" and you'll find lots of websites and info:)
isarma42 1 year ago
u sing really good
ellarox21 1 year ago
@ellarox21 Thanks! I love to sing:)
isarma42 1 year ago
@ellarox21 me too! I couldnt live without music!!
ellarox21 1 year ago
seems like november is a good month to have a baby , m y daughter was born 11 26 09
OhdudeWTF 1 year ago
@OhdudeWTF It's a great month:) Congrats to you, too!
isarma42 1 year ago
@OhdudeWTF congrats!
king01061998 1 year ago
My son's name is Bastion. This caught my eye while researching freebirthing for out 2nd child due in Nov 2010.
rikiamber 1 year ago
@rikiamber How cool:) My Bastian was born in November of 2007. Good luck on your upcoming birth!
isarma42 1 year ago
Am I the only one amused by the fact that they are in a pool inside the house? O-O? but congratz anyway! Children are beautiful!.
And you have a amazzing voice at singing!
AngelxInxLove16 1 year ago
@AngelxInxLove16 It's common to use pools like this for waterbirths. And thanks:)
isarma42 1 year ago
stronge mom you :)
VirginVucci 1 year ago
@VirginVucci Thanks:)
isarma42 1 year ago
This is hardcore! I'm planning on becoming a midwife, so I find this really interesting! So the woman at 0:55 holding you was just one of your friends?
roxanne1941 1 year ago
@roxanne1941 How exciting! I'm working towards becoming a midwife, too. What kind do you plan to be? I'm doing homebirth, of course. I just haven't decided if I'll become a CPM and remain a lay midwife. And yes, she's a good friend of mine. She's also a homebirther. Two of the moms are homebirthers and one had a natural, hospital birth.
isarma42 1 year ago
whats the song?! and you are amazing!
PhyscoSweety1 1 year ago
@PhyscoSweety1 Thanks! The first one? "Bring Me to Life" by Evanescence.
isarma42 1 year ago
thanx so much i love that song. and your welcome
PhyscoSweety1 1 year ago
@isarma42 YES THE BEST SONG EVER
Newyorkgurl20 1 year ago
@PhyscoSweety1 bring me to life by evencences
ItsCorrineSoScream 1 year ago
@ItsCorrineSoScream BEST BAND EVER...NOT PARAMORE EWW
Newyorkgurl20 1 year ago
and congratulations to you and your 3 births!!! i wish them the best and i wish you in the best ways possible in life!! great job
PurePkay 1 year ago 12
@PurePkay Thanks!
isarma42 1 year ago
i would have to agree.. i have always wanted to see the mirical or a babys birth (human) goos choice of music
PurePkay 1 year ago
@PurePkay Thanks:) I'm glad you got to see it!
isarma42 1 year ago
why were you crying?
mirandabear97 1 year ago
@mirandabear97 It hurt and I was scared. I think transition was ramping up, which exacerbated alot of it.
isarma42 1 year ago
you are a great singer!!!
gymnasticsluv123 2 years ago 3
@gymnasticsluv123 Thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
well ont hing that came on my mind seeing this is " i've seen some reaction on havin birth but never really one like that" ur uniq i mean usualy woman scream or something but don't cry and sing :) that's cute tho ...i'm scared of that part when i'm gonna have my own kids well ...u must b a proud mommy :)
magicmoonlight87 2 years ago
@magicmoonlight87 Oh, I screamed, too, but thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
hey sarah remember me? i gave you comments some long time ago . how are ur kids? are u fine? i like when u sing here . u are good to begin a singer . xD [ hugs ] i think bastian was heard you from inside when u was singing . hehe . thats a good point
PuFfaTOMic 2 years ago
@PuFfaTOMic I don't remember your name, specifically, sorry. There are lots of comments!
We're doing great. The boys are 2 and 9, now. I think he heard me, too. In fact, one of the songs from the birth "Bubbly" is still his favorite lullabye:)
isarma42 2 years ago
.lol, pa-rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
niekalee305 2 years ago
@niekalee305 ?
isarma42 2 years ago
I.D.k it was this funny noise I heard!
niekalee305 2 years ago
The pukey/nauseous waves are weird,lol. My hubby has a picture of me in labour on my knees, half hanging out of my fishy pool asleep with my head inside a stockpot. I never had less than 6 mins between contractions and I slept like a stone between them all. You seem so perky!
Whoozinga 2 years ago
@Whoozinga I'm perky in general:) I was way too excited to sleep! It was a quick labor, though.
isarma42 2 years ago
People if u think this is disturbing then just dont watch it. No one is forcing u to. Dont you think that there is something better to do than posting mean comments? If u dont like it then dont watch it it is that simple...
Snowbuni00luv 2 years ago
@Snowbuni00luv I don't quite get why they do, if it just upsets them. Regardless, the negative comments don't bother me a bit:)
isarma42 2 years ago
I bet you are a wonderful mother...when i watched the video i thought you were extremely pretty and brave...PS...great singing voice ya got there!!!:)
Theawesomegal1 2 years ago
@Theawesomegal1 Thanks so much:)
isarma42 2 years ago
This is disturbing.
kkinski2000 2 years ago
Then close the window.
isarma42 2 years ago
Why are you watching then?
stitchwitch13 2 years ago 3
Your page is disturbing. It's not visible. What are you hiding from?
klwewf 2 years ago
Stupid question but didn't the water feel cold?
Guess you didn't even notice huh? :)
stitchwitch13 2 years ago
Nah - they added hot water to it and we had a thermometer in the water. I'm sure I wouldn't have noticed by the end, though.
isarma42 2 years ago
Sweet - again you had the most wonderful people around you! And I love the music, too! :)
stitchwitch13 2 years ago
Thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
GO EVANESCENCE!
sulu6 2 years ago
Love that song:)
isarma42 2 years ago
Me too! OMG, if I ever get a baby I want that song playing!! :)
stitchwitch13 2 years ago
You have a lovely voice and are a lovely woman...thank you for sharing your experience! I delivered with a MidWife and am a Doula myself..."natural" delivery may not be safe for everyone but it is "natural" and should at least be given a chance. :o) I'm so glad you and your beautiful family had the kindness to share your experience with the world. All the best to you all~Lisa in Ohio
lisabellridenour 2 years ago 2
u sing awesome, and that is even during a contraction! lol
LoveyLovey0101 2 years ago 2
thank you! It really helped during contractions:)
isarma42 2 years ago
How did you empty that tub afterwards? Hahaha..
prettyonabudget 2 years ago
In the backyard:)
isarma42 2 years ago
by the way! was it scary?
kjnilsd 2 years ago
Definitely at points during transition it was for me, but I knew that was just part of it.
isarma42 2 years ago
i can imagine that must hurt :( but i still feel so happy for you! (you have a beautiful singing voice :)
kjnilsd 2 years ago
Oh, it did, but it was worth it! It was very happy:)
Thanks!
isarma42 2 years ago
I did it! I had my baby at home! I had Jonathan on January 7th! It was everything I expected it to be...perfection! My niece was my doula, my hubby helped deliver him. Videos like this really inspired me. Thank you!
alleybow1 2 years ago 12
That's so wonderful! I love comments like this:)
isarma42 2 years ago
One BRAVE Girl! And by the way, BEAUTIFUL Voice!!!
doodlegirl99 2 years ago
Well, I'm not sure about brave - lots of women have done this, but thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
My sister in law has had her last two children at home. Jeremiah Lee on 11/21/07 and Esther Odelia on 6/27/09. The only people present were her and her husband.
brunettebrewer 2 years ago
How wonderful!
isarma42 2 years ago
wow u were so strong grl! im due next month and my soon 2 b husband is deployed n iraq right now hope he can come home for the birth!! i love and miss him soo much
pvtarmygrl 2 years ago
I'm sure that's very hard:( I hope you get to see him soon.
isarma42 2 years ago
Thank u i actually just found out the army is lettin him come home for the birth!!
pvtarmygrl 2 years ago
Awesome!
isarma42 2 years ago
do you happen to have a list of songs that were playing throughout your videos? i would really like to steal a few. thanks! i know you mentioned to someone else a webpage, but im not sure how to get there. thanks!
meglovesluke1 2 years ago
I do:) It's on the blog - isarma42 @ blogspot. Sorry, I can't link in a comment.
isarma42 2 years ago
nice voice
lovelybre123 2 years ago
Thanks:)
isarma42 2 years ago
is all your children in the videos? i only see DEKLIN and the newborn(BASTIAN).
jack195873 2 years ago
Yep, just Declan and Bastian. My oldest, Elena, was adopted. You can read the birth stories at isarma42 on blogspot.
isarma42 2 years ago
do you suggest giving birth at home? I am due in 2 months and am scared to death of all the pain. i dont really want a doctor to tell me to push when my body is against it. do you feel the same way?
pearlbaby93 2 years ago
It was important to me not to be told what to do. I loved the emotional support from my friends and family, but I never felt like I had to do anything. I only did what felt right to me. I definitely recommend homebirth. The vast majority of women are just as safe - even safer, at home.
isarma42 2 years ago
How did you sterilize the pool before using it to give birth? I want to give birth in a pool at home but I know there are certain steps before that can take place. Thank you :-)
Chanelle9189 2 years ago
I didn't worry about sterilizing, but I'm sure you can find some basic instructions online with googling.
isarma42 2 years ago
what was it like did you have your other child the same way if not is it better to have a water birth
waslookat1me 2 years ago
My other two births were both interventive hospital births with epidurals and I definitely preferred waterbirth at home. I wish I'd had them all this way!
isarma42 2 years ago
You appear as if you are in deadly pain...this makes me scared!
GaryDomaz 2 years ago
Well, obviously it's not deadly:) The pain can be intense, but it has a purpose. It's normal to be scared, but it's absolutely doable.
isarma42 2 years ago
el agua calma el dolor?puedes poner subtitulos en español en los videos de tu parto please?
ksweetdreams 2 years ago
Yes, water can calm the pain. No, I won't be adding subtitles.
isarma42 2 years ago
Why was daddy naked?--Why did you make us see that? Why was your other son even there and why was his head so close to your boob? Why was his voice stressing you out? Don't you love him too?
shakeesteve 2 years ago
-Because it's how he's most comfortable and we don't see casual nudity as a big deal.
-Because there's nothing wrong with having children at a birth and he was very excited to be there. As far as the boob comment, I don't see how proximity to a breast during childbirth is a big deal.
-It's common for women to ask for a caregiver for their child during births. The mothering impulse is strong and it can hard to focus on birthing and caring for your older child(ren) at the same time.
isarma42 2 years ago
Wow--this is sooooo funny---poor little bastian is going to be scarred for life---the best part is the 12 year old breast feeding in the background---
shakeesteve 2 years ago
He's 17 months old - not 12. Do a bit of research before you go saying that's too old to breastfeed and save us both some time.
To the rest of it, the tone of your comments is derisive and disrespectful. I'm happy to discuss or debate with people of opposing viewpoints, but if you continue to do so with that tone, I'll block you.
isarma42 2 years ago
yay! going under! evanescence forever! beautiful! my darling! ur my insperation!!!
bisexybiskitz85 2 years ago
Haha:) Thanks!
isarma42 2 years ago
Hi Sarah! first of all, congratulations for your truly amazing achievement. I want to ask, what do contractions feel like? I've heard and read that some women liken them with very bad menstrual cramps, while others describe them as a very tight elastic band stretching, for you, how was the pain? What did make the pain more bearable for you?
mariarocio1202 2 years ago 2
Thanks:) I'm sorry, I've never been great at describing them. They do start off like cramps, but then magnify by an incredible factor! Mostly, I just kept repeating to myself that pain wouldn't kill me. The way out is through. I found the singing useful. I also really benefited from Ina May's advice about keeping your jaw relaxed and making horse lips. Having a focus object seemed to help, too.
isarma42 2 years ago
WE ARE WOMAN! HEAR US ROAR!
shockedandperplexed 2 years ago
Definitely:)
isarma42 2 years ago
Wow you're a pretty good singer too :)
xtina221 2 years ago
Thanks!
isarma42 2 years ago
So, you find it easier to deleiver on all fours? I so tried to give birth natural, but my body wouldn't let me. I would not dialate no more that 7 with my son, and I didn't dialate with my daughter. I was in labor, but couldn't pass em. So, a c- cection had to be done. Then, devolped cancer and had it all ripped out. I wanted more kids, but couldn't. Then, on March 11, 2002, my daughter passed. So, I have my 11 year old son, and I thank GOD everyday for him. Thank you for answering my questions.
dcleblan2009 2 years ago
I'm sorry you're had such a rough go of it:( Yes, all fours is easier. Lying on your back is working against gravity. Many hospital procedures aren't effective in aiding normal birth, unfortunately.
isarma42 2 years ago
One more thing I wanted to ask, sorry for all the questions..lol..but what it easier to have the baby on all fours or laying on your back? I have been curious about it, but I always forgot to ask..
dcleblan2009 2 years ago
That's fine:) Lying on your back makes it more painful and is only useful for one person - the person catching. It actually closes the pelvis by about 30%. All fours is a good natural birthing position, as it allows full opening for the pelvis. Squatting is good, too. Anything that allows the body to open:)
isarma42 2 years ago
How long were you actually in labor for? And you have a beautiful voice, by the way. Did you maybe have a nurse, midwife, and/or doctor like on standby? In case you may have needed one..?
dcleblan2009 2 years ago
I was probably in labor for about 12 hours, but wasn't sure until transition. Hard labor was only about 5 hours.
Nope. There was a nearby hospital, of course, so I would've transferred for an emergency.
isarma42 2 years ago
totally amazing i know that home births are starting to gather alot more exceptance in the community at large. What better way to have your new child, with special freind's and family as apposed to a sterile and rushed hospital environment. Are there any implications that could arise whilst you are giving birth that might need medical assistance ? Im sure that there is alot of studying how to and what if. If you are going to attempt something like this. You all looked like you knew what to do
golive77 2 years ago
There are certainly things that can happen, but it's alot more rare than most people believe. I think a good place to start is a little book called, "Emergency Childbirth" by Dr. Gregory White. It's intended as a manual for EMTs and such, but really does a fantastic job of laying out how simple it can be:) Other than that, maybe check out Mothering's website, the UC forum and there are lots of links and books there.
isarma42 2 years ago
why were you crying (I think i have the answer but tell me anyway please)
kjnilsd 2 years ago
I was entering transition and beginning to feel very afraid.
isarma42 2 years ago
why were you making like a thrrrr sound. like with your tounge?
allykatz12 2 years ago
Yeah, basically like horse lips. It helps to keep the jaw relaxed. Ina May Gaskin talks about it quite a bit. If your mouth is loose, it's hard for your cervix to be tightened down:) I believe she calls it the Sphincter Law.
isarma42 2 years ago
i am scared too
kjnilsd 2 years ago
It's normal to be scared in transition, but it passes:)
isarma42 2 years ago
who was the woman who did something with ur back who were all the people with u
danaxoxo333 2 years ago
A good friend. She was providing counter pressure. They're all close friends and family.
isarma42 2 years ago
why are you making that sound..? and is the music 2 make you calm..?
user197 2 years ago
Have no idea which sound you mean, but lots of women use sound when laboring. Yes, the music helps alot. It helps me to breathe deeply and gave me something to focus on.
isarma42 2 years ago
Congrats, great job!! Did you like your birth pool (i think it's the ocean reef one, right?) I'm due in 8 weeks and need to buy one, any input would be great. Thanks!
flowerkittyfun 2 years ago
Thanks! Honestly, if I had it to do again I'd buy a proper birth pool. It worked out, but I had a few complaints:
1) I would've liked firmer sides. There was a bit too much squish to bear down on.
2) It didn't have handles. I used my friend's hands, instead, but if I hadn't had enough hands, it would've been hard to bear down.
3) Heat. We ran out of hot water, so the water wasn't as high as I'd hoped.
Good luck!
isarma42 2 years ago
My baby was 11lbs 2oz January 31, 2008 I feel for you! lol.
How is he now? How has was his physical development?
killerdoger 2 years ago
Congrats on the big baby:) He's 16 months old and he's great. He's a very active toddler.
isarma42 2 years ago
omg
how old r u
u did pretty good
love the singing
xoxdana333 2 years ago
Thanks.
I'm 31.
isarma42 2 years ago
It's Bring Me To Life by Evanescence. Good luck with that:) Some women are calm birthers and some aren't - I think it's a personality thing.
isarma42 2 years ago
WOAH 11 lbs you are one strong woman!
repotergirl9 2 years ago