Narcissism, Friendship, Egoism: Self-Interest is not Self-Welfare

[Whitelight928]

this is possibly one of the most insightful videos for me and confirms an idea that struck me one day ago , with a bit of luck ill apply it to my life like me you can be sensitive and empathetic but if you get caught up with these n ppl ,which i have done and then you think you are hard done by, non productive, you gotta grow a pair and make your choices wisly,take responsibility for your own life, how can you possibly get on with ppl who who dont come from the same place as you. Thanks.

[avidalocan]

13:40 to the end is an extremely important point. If you miss this point, you miss the whole message he conveys about narcissists in general. It's a crucial point, and it links narcissists to women, Jews and the English (and to a lesser extent also, their cruder American offshoots). Self-maximisation when optimisation offers greater long-term benefits to them.



[Josephjr4444]

This is so interesting..thought provoking.... i loved it...

[Kathydrel]

To expand on my barnyard theory , and your not fully human theory , those "bottle baby lambs" I use to raise ,act just like narcissists ! They are supper friendly ,they run right up to you because they want something , and if they don't get it they will knock you down ! They never fit in with the rest of the herd ,and you can't control them because they have no fear. They make terrible mothers because they were never mothered . Safely the best thing to do with them is cull them from the flock.

[Kathydrel]

Sam , WOW! Your observations are amazingly complex and yet so basically human. I'm blown away again ,I have to catch my breath and I wasn't even talking! I'm so glad you brought up the dog analogy because I think narcissists are like the "bottle babies " of the barnyard. You know coddled , so never learn fear or respect. Supper friendly and then knock you on your ass. Lol

[JulixHartley]

So could Narcissist be friends with another one?

[krstcmjns]

So, Narcissists are mentally challenged?

[BlissfulMary]

@krstcmjns I believe they are mentally challenged but like an "idiot-savant".

[dutytocareforothers]

@krstcmjns In the culture that I live in the psychopaths and narcissists rise to the top with lies, slander, antagonism, and manipulation. Everyone's psychological defense mechanisms are running full force: people often identify with the abuser and utilize reaction formation in order to fit into the psychopathic culture. And very few people or groups confront the narcissism with logic and activism.

[Persephone535]

hmmmm very interesting Sam......so is the narcissist an "alien" or "reptile" as david Icke suggests?

Carlos Castaneda talks about "seeing" energy,................then you will know who to avoid!

and friendship..............well I guess its different to give to charity to assuage guilt, than give to a friend........................­.....and giving a gift is not the same as emotional support and understanding. Money and gifts are detatched.

Great thought provoking stuff Sam!

[Pippisongbird]

Some people do give out of guilt and they resent the people they are helping. Some give to look good to others. Some give to feel powerful and superior. Some people are givers and ignore their own needs and think the only way they can feel valuable is to give. Some people help animals and volunteer because they care. I agree that N's are impulsive. They  compete with and dig at their friend to feel good only later to wonder why their ex- friend is avoiding them.

[Dreamcaseal2]

This shit is extremely interesting and takes a long time to grasp and understand how drastically different other people's minds operate. Sadly, I think most girls that I've dated are narcissistic but after one extreme case because her actions were so radically different and crazy yet easily explained by this shit I find this extremely interesting and VALUABLE information even though it can seem out of this world if you don't study the crap out of it. It's easy to just say the bitch is crazy, lol

[pyrrho314]

you've got to love a bookshelf where the space above the books is filled with books on their side.

[Wivanunu]

@pyrrho314 I'm just happy I don't see the Twilight series on his bookshelf! :-)

[bluestmarble]

This is one of your best, Sam. "A person cannot be friends with a tree." LOL

[LONGHANGINGCAPIZ]

Sometimes an asshole is just an asshole. Leave them alone.

at some point we have to stop trying to understand hate and learn some common sense.

[kozychik]

@LONGHANGINGCAPIZ Good advice for us all!