Can a Virgin be into BDSM?

[121314151617181943]

My advice to this couple....... DONT HAVE KIDS!!!

[EmilyAtTheDisco]

I'm a 22 year old virgin and i'm very interested in BDSM (as a submissive) and have been for many years. I've never acted upon it but I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. As long as everything is safe and healthy at the end of the day. :)

[TheMackiable]

...I've had bondage thoughts since I was 10, lost my virginity when I was 13, and still loving the bondage. Dan & Jenn...Bondage is WAY MORE normal (acceptable) in Europe. Trust me.

[scottieln0923]

I'm a 24 year old virgin and not by choice.I'm just a shy guy that has only had 2 gf's in my hole life and i just dont know how to talk to girls i'm so shy (HELP).

[gumibaer23]

The couple is probably like 13/14 year old scene kids trying to get attention

[Iawyn]

However, on a side note, at least be safe about it. Safe words are recommended. And if you like to get into the extremes of things, it is also suggested that the dom knows the basics of first aid in case things accidently get out of hand.

[Iawyn]

Screw that. I don't agree.

Pain sensors are also connected with pleasure sensors. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a little of the masochistic and sadistic tendencies. What about hot wax? Or getting slapped a bit? Those hurt, but they also feel incredbily good. Anyone who is into BDSM would know this.

[Kinkspace]

Of course you can be into BDSM and be a virgin, I was.

BDSM is a wonderful, intimate, often intence way to explore yourself and partner.

[littleniamh12]

im 14...nd im a virgin...bt fnkin bwt changin dat soon wit mi boyfriend....bt i do tend 2 gt extremly turnd on wen been taking control of realy bt im scared im 2 strange 2 tell ny1

[FinalFantasyXFan9]

I'm 14 & a virgin too, and I know a lot of people that are my age and into all sorts of stuff like that.

You're not strange - you're awesome!

[EllaKathryn]

to finalfantasyxfan9:

You are only 14 and you know people (children) your age that are "into all sorts of stuff like that"?

geez... kids these days...

[FinalFantasyXFan9]

To EllaKathryn

Yup, almost 15 yet some in our generation know/do more x-rated stuff than adults could even imagine. The world is pretty screwed up thanks to the media. Don't blame teens (yes, we're teenagers, not kids) for our upbringing.

[EllaKathryn]

To finalfantasy...

The media is not your mommy and daddy. You can't blame it for all the problems with society. You are a child until you are 18. There is nothing wrong with learning about sex. There is something wrong with children engaging in sexual activity especially when they are ignorant of the consequences. Children, by nature, have a hard time seeing possible outcomes for what they do. They also have a feeling of invincibility and think nothing bad can happen to them.

[FinalFantasyXFan9]

To EllaKathryn

Yes, I'm fully aware of that, but I am also fully aware that parents cannot control what the world we live in advertises and I know that the media can turn almost anything into something that is obviously intended to be sexually appealing. I am a teenager until I am 20, children are 12 years or younger, and by the way you are ranting about us 'kids', it sounds like you should be old enough to know that.

[FinalFantasyXFan9]

To EllaKathryn

Just because we're under your age, and not adults yet, doesnt mean we should be classified as children and be told we need to be protected by parents every minute of the day. We need freedom to mature, and the media is very responsible for introducing us into adulthood.

[EllaKathryn]

to littleniamh12:

I don't really know what you wrote, but I think at your age you are not ready for sex at all. But I don't think it is necessarily unhealthy to enjoyed being controlled. I am 21 and a virgin and I too like the idea of being controlled. Just make sure he does not take it too far. Share your thoughts on this with someone you love and trust.

[Toubuki]

I'm a 15-year-old virgin and I know I'm a submissive and a masochist.

[PrincessKLS]

I'm a virgin and i want to try BDSM :D I want to be a dominatrix :D

[SweetEnvy010]

i think das a lie bcuz das how i felt too when i was a virgin but it would only b wit som1 i really like or connect with

omg u can do bdsm ater 3/4 sexual experiences?! o hell ya! its on! lol

[ncfwhitetigress]

I was a little like this too when I was a virgin, but not to that extreme! I've never wanted to cause any actual injuries.

[ncfwhitetigress]

Is it possible to just listen in on a conversation anonymously without having to participate?

[crnogorka15]

wtf is bdsm?

[nuke4444]

Bondage/Sado-Masochism

[sinchume]

its actually three pairs of kink

-bondage/discipline

-dominate/submission

-sadism/masochism

[ncfwhitetigress]

Bondage/Discipline & Sado-/Masochism.

[WC9456]

why the fuck not...

[jdfox1]

This lifestyle can be very intense...and very sexy if the guy is good. It's fun to explore different things...and this lifestyle is usually not what many people think. It's very intense...and quite exciting!  If the guy is qualified, and both partners are into it...then it's often very sexy! Good video.

[DJSnipa]

"Im sorry... burning?" XDDD

[Zalipso]

I disagree with you Dan and Jenn I believe that you can be into BDSM and be a virgin. It dont matter aslong as both partners consent to the situation.

[Incesim666]

I dont understand this. If the couple are mature enough and have the same fetishes, then not go through with it? I love being hurt and I love whips, chains, burnings, and tieing. Although I would never force it upon someone if they flat out do not share the same fetishs. Lol, I dont think anyone would. This question is ridiculous.

[starfleet2scoutship]

It looks like they're trying so hard not to laugh ...

[wwBdsmSinglesClubCom]

love the nice video

-bdsm clubs

[Tommiddlecoat]

fail advice is fail

[ginginnyme]

So cptnhwdy are you saying no sex is added anywhere after cutting her? Then what is the point in making her feel the pain and you get turned on by the giving her pain right?

[cptnhwdy]

not saying NO sex saying that we dont have sex everytime after me cutting her. somtimes i like to deny her. she gets so hot from the cutting. i like to use it as a tease, kind of a cock block type of thing give her the "blue balls"

[BdsmSinglesClubCom]

great i love bdsm

so fun

-jill

[gothicgirlyxxx]

its not just the pain factor though,theirs so much more that goes into it

[kristofferramos87]

Next time you feel like giving advice Dan and Jennifer - dont laugh at the questions! Pretty vital if you're trying to help not hurt.

[d6a6r6kness]

i wish i had girlfriend like that

[LadyDiscordAphrodite]

Yikes. Chunks of skin? Yipes.

Psh.

Lots of fetish type of things are in the minds as Dan and Jenn said, so it doesn't matter how sexually experienced you are. You can get turned on by any fetish-fantasy, even if you are a virgin. No worries.

Just be consentual and take it slow. And don't go seriously hurting yourself...or others.

[kaznass]

Heh, I love BDSM... Cant say much more...

[cptnhwdy]

SOME INTO BDSM LIKE TO DO HARM AND CAUSE DAMGE, WITH MY GIRL I USE A KNIFE ON HER BACK AND BODY. SOMTIMES IT IS ABOUT THE DAMAGE SOME LIKE THAT, AND IM SICK OF PEOPLE SAYING, ITS OK TO DO IT AS ALONG AS YOU DONT HURT EACH OTHER, WE LIKE THE PAIN, SHE LIKES TO FEEL IT, I LIKE TO GIVE IT. YOU TWO IDOTS ARE CLEARLY VINNLLA, AT MOST YOU ARE THE FUZZY CUFF PEOPLE AND TO ME THAT IS WORSE, IF YOU CAN UNDO YOUR ON BONDS WHAT IS THE EFFING POINT. sorry for the caps but i had to show i was screaming mad

[an97an]

Agreed.

[xInjectedVirusx]

its not bondage or BDSM without the pain ;P

[cptnhwdy]

bondage is just the act of restraining no pain needed

[alphamale300k]

agreed. btw anyone else think this guy is a sub and this woman is the dom one?

[cptnhwdy]

if you think that go to my myspace and look at some of the pics or read the blogs

[CorbeauBlanc]

why do these vannillas talk about bdsm anyway?

[HELLAZBABY]

wow. :( this vid makes me so sad. some1 msg me!! xD m

[DavidSaintOnge2007]

theres nothing wrong with me =/

i'm a virgin and still very into bdsm 0_o

[01misheel]

@DavidSaintOnge2007 me too i think i am a sadist

[Gameboygenius]

Stop being such pussies for religious people. Otherwise good response to the question.

[Sv3rdArcher]

SPANK ME!!

[ZETSU107]

Thats what i herd in my moms and dads room. Him beating the shit out of her...I hate my dad....

[swtb3b3lynn]

I know someone who IS A VIRGIN and is into bdsm. How would she know? She tells me its the only thing that turns her on. And just because she's a virgin, doesn't mean she hasn't had any sexual experience.

[shalom1973]

Go find a virgin and see if she will let you give her a spanking...if she does then please give her my number, thanks.

[Rykarduu]

naaaaaaaaaa...ur perfectly normal! :)

[mre2u2]

Yes, there is something wrong with you.. you want to cause real damage. (Spoken as a Dom)

[Rohdes0]

BDSM is cool as long as you are both into it and you dont go too far to the point of a hospital visit lol

[officergaylord]

what does BDSM stand for?

[Bobzeaux]

A virgin can be into ANYTHING. Why shouldn't he/she?

[pvmarrero]

I think you two need to do a little more research on BDSM, its a lot more than just sex, and it has nothing to do with weather or not your a virgin. I think your intentions were good but you need to do more resaerch

[goddamiloveme]

i love your videos they're so informative! thanks, you're the only guys that i've found that can answer questions with no long words that only doctors know!

cheers GDILM xx

[nickkynarcotic]

its whips and shit.

[Tepesdude]

What does BDSM mean?

[goddamiloveme]

The term "BDSM" is an abbreviation derived from the terms bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism

i guess you thought i knew that. i didnt i copied and pasted... i took time out of my life to do that for you!! dont ask. lol.

[TATACIBABE]

hey thanks i wanted to know what bdsm ment too.

[hoodmilk]

Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism

[Centrist01]

Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submission (D&S), Sadism and Masochism (S&M)

BDSM

[UltimateLifeformRB]

Why someone would be into that is sick.

[kingsman565]

Nothing wrong with BDSM if you want to be hurt tortured and abused by a loved one and nothing eleas give's you that thrill then go right ahead you can't beat it.;)

[hoodmilk]

What a great way to encourage people to explore their sexuality. I'm sure that statement won't make people put up walls.

(please add sarcasm while reading)

[MatthewBain]

I would suggest consulting the Kink Aware Professionals website (easily located through web search) if counseling is needed. Also, there are good YouTube resources for safety and lifestyle insights like Alyssium, Masterhook, 2KnottyBoys and faete31. For a BDSM mental health professional on YouTube, I strongly recommend DrGabriele. She is very helpful and will respond to e-mails.

[DanAndJenn]

Thanks for the great resources!

[shortbusnormal]

Your Answers were completely on target (no pun intended~spank*Jen!)...

...I like that you are reassuring, and it's done with humor.

Great video. I love your website,btw.

(If you've read my blog, you know I'm into

...ummm,shall we say,spanking)

Cheers, YouTwo!

[DanAndJenn]

You are too kind ;-). Thanks for linking our video!

[Phlintlock]

this is fucking brutally win

[marikabel]

lolzzzzzz cool ;)

[boringcomedy]

At 2:35 it looked like Dan was sleeping rofl.

[DanAndJenn]

No... He's just looking at my breasts. ;-) --j

[DanAndJenn]

It helps me think! --D

[Trogbob]

LOL sure it does dan....

[boringcomedy]

First ROFL