I need to vent...I am so sick and tired of living with a psychopath...He walks into the house and immediately starts bitching at me...then he gets on the phone with someone else and starts laughing like everything is just peachy. Urgh!!!! The constant non-stop talking...draining me...The excessively high negative energy level. You can't set boundaries with these people...it thows them into an instant attack.
Thanks for the videos that you made available for free in 2011.
In 2012 I would like to hear your response to a book by CS Lewis called the Great Divorce. I'd especially like to hear you comment on chapter XII - XIII. Where - I believe we come upon an example of a narcissist (his false self and true self ) still demanding narcissistic supply from a former co-dependent Sarah Smith. Id also welcome comments on any of the other characters and their disorders that you may find in the book.
Dear Sam, thank you for sharing your gift of insight with the suffering souls of this world! You have brought peace and understanding to our crazy world. This is a priceless gift that I can only hope to reciprocate with my heartfelt prayers for you and your loved ones , and by taking the advice you so generously offer. I thank God for you ; ) may you be blessed Sam, as you have blessed others. Happy Hollidays
I say and work on these things you mentioned nearly every day. The hardest one is, "no second chances". That's always been my biggest downfall.... I let things go, and give chance after chance. For sure, this one is one of my challenges. Thank you for this vid... and I look forward to many more.
These are all wise & effective, every day not just for the new year. I did this with a rude narcissist who tried to disrespect me by glomming on and getting all intimate way too soon, was enraged that I was repelled by his demeanor and let loose with a stream of verbal abuse when I cut off contact; it was awful, but I'm so glad I was strong enough to disconnect thoroughly, where in the past, before I really loved and respected myself, I would have tried to make it work.
Thank you -- God bless. I hope you have a Happy New Year Sam!!! Thank you for all your tips and help to those of us who have been abused and mistreated. May God bless you this coming year!!
This is absolutely insightful and amazingly useful advice. "ZERO TOLERANCE...and no second chance (for the abusers) will be my maxims of self preservation...you OWE these things to yourself..." GOLD!!!
Good luck with this. Because regardless of what anyone promises to one's self, no one else is likely to honor or respect such wishes. Try to stand up for yourself in a situation where you REALLY are powerless, and may the Forces of the Universe have mercy on your soul!
Another great gift. It is a miracle that your videos appear in my life just as I have become aware of the lies, and deception my mother has done behind my back all my life. You have enabled me to more clearly see the kind of destruction she had wrought in my life. I prefer to see the truth, no matter how ugly. However, your videos have validated my feelings about her and toward her. I cannot completely leave her at 84 (in assisted living), but my boundaries can no longer be invaded by her.
thank you so much. Could you talk about the feeling of the person that lived with someone like this. And how to fix yourself after the relationship or if you are in a realtionship now. What to do with all the bad feeling and side effect to the mind of the partner that live's with or did live with the sick person. How to put the pain out of your mind when you have a tregger of deep bad emotions, and how to fix yourself fast.
From the books I have read on narcissism and watching your videos I am confident that I will NEVER have a negative experience with someone I have to answer to in a work situation like that again.
Later I had found out , through the newspapers, that she had destroyed many of the workers who had worked under her. This is a brief overview of the experience I had with this narcissist. My one painful regret is that I hadn't had this understanding of what I had been dealing with. If I had, I would not have been affected by this person's conduct and I would still be employed in the organisation.
@Pippisongbird I see that Fetish was being sarcastic because she put the word selfish in quotes. I do think it is important to define things differently and not to use the abusive person's definitions. That means they have power. Why not just say, "the bill of rights".
I've really enjoyed your videos and they have helped me understand the nature of the person I had been dealing with in a work situation, This women was an administrator who basically had emasculated me and I had left the job (at great financial cost).
I need to vent...I am so sick and tired of living with a psychopath...He walks into the house and immediately starts bitching at me...then he gets on the phone with someone else and starts laughing like everything is just peachy. Urgh!!!! The constant non-stop talking...draining me...The excessively high negative energy level. You can't set boundaries with these people...it thows them into an instant attack.
evpointfinder 1 month ago
Sam:
Thanks for the videos that you made available for free in 2011.
In 2012 I would like to hear your response to a book by CS Lewis called the Great Divorce. I'd especially like to hear you comment on chapter XII - XIII. Where - I believe we come upon an example of a narcissist (his false self and true self ) still demanding narcissistic supply from a former co-dependent Sarah Smith. Id also welcome comments on any of the other characters and their disorders that you may find in the book.
Stigggs 2 months ago
Dear Sam, thank you for sharing your gift of insight with the suffering souls of this world! You have brought peace and understanding to our crazy world. This is a priceless gift that I can only hope to reciprocate with my heartfelt prayers for you and your loved ones , and by taking the advice you so generously offer. I thank God for you ; ) may you be blessed Sam, as you have blessed others. Happy Hollidays
Kathydrel 2 months ago
I say and work on these things you mentioned nearly every day. The hardest one is, "no second chances". That's always been my biggest downfall.... I let things go, and give chance after chance. For sure, this one is one of my challenges. Thank you for this vid... and I look forward to many more.
organysntracey1 2 months ago 5
@organysntracey1 it will get easier as you go along
when someone is trying to get a second chance you need to remind yourself of their behavior and what they did yo you
i was always forgiving and because of that i got trampled on constantly
after i set my boundries and stuck to them my life got much better very quickly
first few times is hard after that it gets easy because you are noticing a lot of positive change in your life
THEOZZYFUL 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@THEOZZYFUL Thanks you!
organysntracey1 1 month ago
Thank-you and happy holidays.
deepmind50 2 months ago 7
Thank you, Sam. I needed to hear this.
Spatoochna 2 months ago 9
That was amazing Mr. Vaknin! I am anxiously looking forward to listening to all of your videos next year!
069220 2 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 8
Thank you so much for this video....Wonderful advice for a beautiful beginning to a new year! :-)
SeishinGirl 2 months ago 15
Brilliant Sam................................Thank you so much for your unwavering support. I wish you the Happiest New Year!
Persephone535 2 months ago 14
Oh Boy I'll make a list
ItsJustTimeTo 2 months ago 4
No second chance... really? How am I supposed to keep that one up? People make mistakes... how bout a 3 strikes rule? ;-)
JulixHartley 2 months ago
I love you Sam. You've been a big help to me. Merry Christmas and I'm looking forward to sharing my new year with you. God bless you.
armydray13 2 months ago 16
These are all wise & effective, every day not just for the new year. I did this with a rude narcissist who tried to disrespect me by glomming on and getting all intimate way too soon, was enraged that I was repelled by his demeanor and let loose with a stream of verbal abuse when I cut off contact; it was awful, but I'm so glad I was strong enough to disconnect thoroughly, where in the past, before I really loved and respected myself, I would have tried to make it work.
1221solstice2012 2 months ago 11
Good for you Sam, Good advice
59Disciple 2 months ago 6
Thank you -- God bless. I hope you have a Happy New Year Sam!!! Thank you for all your tips and help to those of us who have been abused and mistreated. May God bless you this coming year!!
forgivenbythecross 2 months ago 13
This is absolutely insightful and amazingly useful advice. "ZERO TOLERANCE...and no second chance (for the abusers) will be my maxims of self preservation...you OWE these things to yourself..." GOLD!!!
reliableandrew 2 months ago 23
Good luck with this. Because regardless of what anyone promises to one's self, no one else is likely to honor or respect such wishes. Try to stand up for yourself in a situation where you REALLY are powerless, and may the Forces of the Universe have mercy on your soul!
44prot 2 months ago 5
Everyone deserves to be treated well.
TruTV 2 months ago 9
Another great gift. It is a miracle that your videos appear in my life just as I have become aware of the lies, and deception my mother has done behind my back all my life. You have enabled me to more clearly see the kind of destruction she had wrought in my life. I prefer to see the truth, no matter how ugly. However, your videos have validated my feelings about her and toward her. I cannot completely leave her at 84 (in assisted living), but my boundaries can no longer be invaded by her.
kellycat2552 2 months ago 6
thank you so much. Could you talk about the feeling of the person that lived with someone like this. And how to fix yourself after the relationship or if you are in a realtionship now. What to do with all the bad feeling and side effect to the mind of the partner that live's with or did live with the sick person. How to put the pain out of your mind when you have a tregger of deep bad emotions, and how to fix yourself fast.
bullfight1234 2 months ago 14
From the books I have read on narcissism and watching your videos I am confident that I will NEVER have a negative experience with someone I have to answer to in a work situation like that again.
Thank you and have a Happy New Year! :-)
DEREKinNYC 2 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 14
Thank you :-)
embracingmyfreedom 2 months ago 12
Later I had found out , through the newspapers, that she had destroyed many of the workers who had worked under her. This is a brief overview of the experience I had with this narcissist. My one painful regret is that I hadn't had this understanding of what I had been dealing with. If I had, I would not have been affected by this person's conduct and I would still be employed in the organisation.
DEREKinNYC 2 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 4
Hear , hear...I'll drink to that ! lol...I like the 'selfish' bill of rights!
fetishisticrose 2 months ago 15
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@fetishisticrose It is not selfish to not eat crap.
Pippisongbird 2 months ago
@Pippisongbird I see that Fetish was being sarcastic because she put the word selfish in quotes. I do think it is important to define things differently and not to use the abusive person's definitions. That means they have power. Why not just say, "the bill of rights".
Pippisongbird 2 months ago
I've really enjoyed your videos and they have helped me understand the nature of the person I had been dealing with in a work situation, This women was an administrator who basically had emasculated me and I had left the job (at great financial cost).
DEREKinNYC 2 months ago in playlist Abuse in Relationships with Narcissists and Psychopaths 11
I will print this out and frame it! Thank you Sam!
rhapsodyblue100 2 months ago 40
Thank you Sam :) Happy new year to you too!
dylandebbiesteph 2 months ago 59