I felt your pain as you opened your heart to us. It is like looking in a mirror. I don't know the answer...I may never know. I am waiting for my surgery date. Please know you are not alone.
Thank you so much for this video....wow....some of this video felt as if you read it from my own mind...I can relate so very much to all of this. Especially since I also display my journey on youtube, sometimes I feel like a lie, because I still struggle with my old habits on a daily basis. I keep affirming to myself that I can change, that I cant make lasting change in my lifestyle but it is still a struggle...
you r a very insightful person. my best to you. the questions u posed to yourself can help many, many people if they will answer them honestly. My sincere thanks to you! :-)
WOW, MJ! Thank you so much for this very honest video....I just came across your videos today, so I am watching your journey from the beginning. Thank you for being so honest, it brough tears to my eyes :)
Seeing a therapist is a great start. Take it one day at a time! Don't beat yourself up. Life itself is a journey. You are a beautiful person inside and outside. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
This was such a thoughtful and intelligent post. I share many of the same issues. I think the best thing we can do for ourselves is to addresse the emotional/psychological reasons behind our binge eating. I've read about transfer addictions too. I have tried to replace the eating with physical activities. Most days it works. :0) I'm looking forward to watching your journey.
more than a weightloss journey this is a learning process... to love ourselves..
when i joined you tube was when i discoverd/ or finally put a "label" on my unhealthy habits... i never thought i was bulimic til i started watching girls here on you tube.. purgin/bingeing/ and i think that the 1st step to start "healing" from our unhealthy habits its to recognize (label) what needs to be changed... you are strong and we can do this....! much love
you rock MJ, just being so aware of what's going on is, in my little opinion, the biggest part of it. food will always be an issue for me, i'll always fear it and fear hurting myself since i had surgery. but, since there's no 'trying it on' to see if it will work, its so much scarier. i'm right there with ya girl.
Hi GG, Thanks for commenting on the weight loss. I had to stop and remind myself that I've come a long way already. Right now dealing with the emotions is as hard if not harder than dealing with the weight, but I'm staying strong. Thanks for your words and the hug.
Like others have said, and i do know that its easier said than done. But do try keep your head up....weight loss, is one hard journey! Its psyhically and emotionally draining. Like you said going under the knife is not the quick fix as you will still have to deal with the emotional issues, and still work hard at what you eat. Also keep focused on what you have acheived, you have lost 33lbs!!! Which is a great loss. I just wanted to send you a(((((((hugg)))))) stay strong xxx
This is my first time viewing your videos and this is real depressing. Keep your chin up, you seem to be on the right road with your weight loss. You need to do this for your health. I can tell you from my own experience.
Thanks for the comment. I felt really depressed when I made it, I'm doing better now. I'm staying on track and trying to learn from my own and everyone else's experiences. I would love to hear about your experiences. Keep watching, most of my videos aren't so depressing.
You are not alone on this journey. Many of us look nice on the outside, but are in serious need of emotional repair. If you really get down to the nitty gritty, the bare bones, the skeleton you can help someone else. Everything you go through is to help someone else, that may be struggling
also.
Stay in the race. Everyday is a new day, another chance to start again.
Thank you so much for the comment. One of the reasons I posted the video was because I was hoping it could help someone or at least let them know they aren't the only one experiencing this. I'm staying in the race and each day is better than the last. How are you doing? When's your next update?
So much of what you said makes me think of me.. I never thought of it as a disorder either, although I knew what I did was never "normal". Binge eating was how I coped with any stress in my life. I also have serious confidence issues. Congratulations on the weekly loss and I look forward to seeing more of your videos!
It was scary to finally label it. I also always knew it wasn't normal, which is why I always hid it. I really don't know any other way to cope, but I know I have to learn. Thanks for the comment and I'm looking forward to seeing more of your videos too!
This is a journey..and it is breaking habits that have been in place for a long time. You will be victorious! Hang in there...Every day is a new day! :)Amyxo
You are right. Today is a different day and I'm feeling better. I'm looking forward to the day when I can look back and say wow, wasn't that crazy. Thank you.
((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) I used to binge eat sometimes....it was very unconsious too.....before I knew it was I was eating massive amounts of food and I was definately medicating myself....I understand everything you are saying....you can get past this and you will b/c you are a stong woman! Keep on keeping on girl! It will get better~
We really have to look at what got us to this point. I think you are doing an awesome job asking yourself the tough questions. And really looking at how and why you are using food to cope. I wish you the best working things out with a therapist. You are really laying the ground work for success in keeping the weight off. Great job and very brave to put all these emotions out here.
Thank you. This is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought about deleting this video but I figured someone else must be experiencing this. I don't know if I feel brave, but thank you for saying that and thank you for your support.
MJ I just want to give you a hug. I can hear the sadness in your voice. Honey we've all been there. Please don't be so down on yourself. You will get thru this. I PROMISE. ~ Nicol
Thanks Nicol. I'm trying to have patience with myself. I've spent years doing this and it might take just as long to figure out why and to put new behaviors in place. I'm going to hold you to your promise.
This is a journey and there will forever b ups & downs. I still think though, that u will find urself empowered after surgery & u will feel in control of food instead of it controlling u! Right now you can't even wrap your brain around not feeling hungry. This surgery makes it possible to regain control...and we are all here to help you.
Facing your problems is the first step!
You can do this! Make exercise or volunteer work or a hobby your new addiction. U CAN DO THIS!!
Thanks for the hugs and the suggestions on other things to do. I've been meaning to volunteer but I never followed through with it. Thanks for the support, we can do this!
you are soo strong, and soo brave and soo inspiring! You are doing all the right things, and dealing w/these emotions is not going to be easy!! But i know u can do it!!
Thank you! This is one of the hardest things I've done. It really does help to know I'm not the only one who has been or is going through this. Losing weight before was never this emotional.
Yep, its a journey, with hills and valleys, curves and cliffs...but, you are a strong woman...you can make your life whatever you want it to be and I know that you will overcome and be a victor!!
I don't know much about binge eating, but I do know that you cannot do it after surgery your body will not allow it! But it sounds to me like you are on the right track, 1st you've acknowledged your problem & second you are seeing a therapist so you will figure it out. Be patient with yourself, it is a journey & does take some time. Good luck, Fab
Patience is something I have for other people, but I need to learn to have it for myself. I'm hoping if I start dealing with my issues now, I won't have such a tough time with them post op. Thank you for your comment. Good luck on your journey as well.
((((((((((((( Hugs )))))))))) I give you alot of credit for exploring the true realities of Binge Eating and how to deal with things post op. Nothing worthwhile is easy. I truly believe that if you continue to self explore things will get easier and your path will become more clear. I have no doubts you will be extremely successful! I am here for you anytime :)
I think your a beautiful black woman. and you are bright. and your going to beat this battle. The things you mention. letting people take atvantage of you. Iv been there. and in a way at 52 years old people are still doing that. your going to make it i know
Thank you so much for the comment. I know I will get there and be healthy, its just a harder road than I could have imagined. We can both do this, I know it!
I felt your pain as you opened your heart to us. It is like looking in a mirror. I don't know the answer...I may never know. I am waiting for my surgery date. Please know you are not alone.
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Thank you so much for this video....wow....some of this video felt as if you read it from my own mind...I can relate so very much to all of this. Especially since I also display my journey on youtube, sometimes I feel like a lie, because I still struggle with my old habits on a daily basis. I keep affirming to myself that I can change, that I cant make lasting change in my lifestyle but it is still a struggle...
ColeeLocks 1 year ago
you r a very insightful person. my best to you. the questions u posed to yourself can help many, many people if they will answer them honestly. My sincere thanks to you! :-)
imlivingandlearning 2 years ago
WOW, MJ! Thank you so much for this very honest video....I just came across your videos today, so I am watching your journey from the beginning. Thank you for being so honest, it brough tears to my eyes :)
dawnmarie416 2 years ago
Seeing a therapist is a great start. Take it one day at a time! Don't beat yourself up. Life itself is a journey. You are a beautiful person inside and outside. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
soon2belessofme 3 years ago
This video rings so true. Thank you for speaking what so many women seem to live. Wow very powerful. Good luck with your journey.
kristenrumford 3 years ago
Thank you and good luck with your journey as well. It isn't always easy.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
This was such a thoughtful and intelligent post. I share many of the same issues. I think the best thing we can do for ourselves is to addresse the emotional/psychological reasons behind our binge eating. I've read about transfer addictions too. I have tried to replace the eating with physical activities. Most days it works. :0) I'm looking forward to watching your journey.
angie8088 3 years ago
more than a weightloss journey this is a learning process... to love ourselves..
when i joined you tube was when i discoverd/ or finally put a "label" on my unhealthy habits... i never thought i was bulimic til i started watching girls here on you tube.. purgin/bingeing/ and i think that the 1st step to start "healing" from our unhealthy habits its to recognize (label) what needs to be changed... you are strong and we can do this....! much love
DeLicioUsRedApple 3 years ago
We can do this, you are so right. And I'm learning everyday from myself and from everyone on here.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
you rock MJ, just being so aware of what's going on is, in my little opinion, the biggest part of it. food will always be an issue for me, i'll always fear it and fear hurting myself since i had surgery. but, since there's no 'trying it on' to see if it will work, its so much scarier. i'm right there with ya girl.
(((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))
retta2587 3 years ago
Hey Retta, Thanks for the hug. How are you feeling? I'm doing so much better. Your comment made me smile. I do rock :) and so do you.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
doin better every day! a bit tired but i'm rockin on! lol :-D
retta2587 3 years ago
Hi GG, Thanks for commenting on the weight loss. I had to stop and remind myself that I've come a long way already. Right now dealing with the emotions is as hard if not harder than dealing with the weight, but I'm staying strong. Thanks for your words and the hug.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
hey hun!
Like others have said, and i do know that its easier said than done. But do try keep your head up....weight loss, is one hard journey! Its psyhically and emotionally draining. Like you said going under the knife is not the quick fix as you will still have to deal with the emotional issues, and still work hard at what you eat. Also keep focused on what you have acheived, you have lost 33lbs!!! Which is a great loss. I just wanted to send you a(((((((hugg)))))) stay strong xxx
gg2007BandSTAR 3 years ago
This is my first time viewing your videos and this is real depressing. Keep your chin up, you seem to be on the right road with your weight loss. You need to do this for your health. I can tell you from my own experience.
travellady48 3 years ago
Thanks for the comment. I felt really depressed when I made it, I'm doing better now. I'm staying on track and trying to learn from my own and everyone else's experiences. I would love to hear about your experiences. Keep watching, most of my videos aren't so depressing.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
You are not alone on this journey. Many of us look nice on the outside, but are in serious need of emotional repair. If you really get down to the nitty gritty, the bare bones, the skeleton you can help someone else. Everything you go through is to help someone else, that may be struggling
also.
Stay in the race. Everyday is a new day, another chance to start again.
Seedcovers 3 years ago
Thank you so much for the comment. One of the reasons I posted the video was because I was hoping it could help someone or at least let them know they aren't the only one experiencing this. I'm staying in the race and each day is better than the last. How are you doing? When's your next update?
ladyblue3 3 years ago
I will be doing another update this weekend. I am doing fine, I had to crank up the exercise, I was at a standstill.
Seedcovers 3 years ago
So much of what you said makes me think of me.. I never thought of it as a disorder either, although I knew what I did was never "normal". Binge eating was how I coped with any stress in my life. I also have serious confidence issues. Congratulations on the weekly loss and I look forward to seeing more of your videos!
KimberlyShane77 3 years ago
It was scary to finally label it. I also always knew it wasn't normal, which is why I always hid it. I really don't know any other way to cope, but I know I have to learn. Thanks for the comment and I'm looking forward to seeing more of your videos too!
ladyblue3 3 years ago
This is a journey..and it is breaking habits that have been in place for a long time. You will be victorious! Hang in there...Every day is a new day! :)Amyxo
Opendoors08 3 years ago
You are right. Today is a different day and I'm feeling better. I'm looking forward to the day when I can look back and say wow, wasn't that crazy. Thank you.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) I used to binge eat sometimes....it was very unconsious too.....before I knew it was I was eating massive amounts of food and I was definately medicating myself....I understand everything you are saying....you can get past this and you will b/c you are a stong woman! Keep on keeping on girl! It will get better~
KarlaKayM 3 years ago
I'm keeping on and I'm committed to really trying to get this under control. Any other option really isn't an option. Thanks for the hugs.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
We really have to look at what got us to this point. I think you are doing an awesome job asking yourself the tough questions. And really looking at how and why you are using food to cope. I wish you the best working things out with a therapist. You are really laying the ground work for success in keeping the weight off. Great job and very brave to put all these emotions out here.
Congratulations on the loss!
queenq24 3 years ago
Thank you. This is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought about deleting this video but I figured someone else must be experiencing this. I don't know if I feel brave, but thank you for saying that and thank you for your support.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
I am going to send you a private message. :D
ShrinkinPhotographer 3 years ago
MJ I just want to give you a hug. I can hear the sadness in your voice. Honey we've all been there. Please don't be so down on yourself. You will get thru this. I PROMISE. ~ Nicol
ShrinkinPhotographer 3 years ago
Thanks Nicol. I'm trying to have patience with myself. I've spent years doing this and it might take just as long to figure out why and to put new behaviors in place. I'm going to hold you to your promise.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
This is a journey and there will forever b ups & downs. I still think though, that u will find urself empowered after surgery & u will feel in control of food instead of it controlling u! Right now you can't even wrap your brain around not feeling hungry. This surgery makes it possible to regain control...and we are all here to help you.
Facing your problems is the first step!
You can do this! Make exercise or volunteer work or a hobby your new addiction. U CAN DO THIS!!
(((HUGS)))
Donna:)
Journey2betrhealth 3 years ago
Thanks for the hugs and the suggestions on other things to do. I've been meaning to volunteer but I never followed through with it. Thanks for the support, we can do this!
ladyblue3 3 years ago
you are soo strong, and soo brave and soo inspiring! You are doing all the right things, and dealing w/these emotions is not going to be easy!! But i know u can do it!!
nightshade1973 3 years ago
Thank you! This is one of the hardest things I've done. It really does help to know I'm not the only one who has been or is going through this. Losing weight before was never this emotional.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
Yep, its a journey, with hills and valleys, curves and cliffs...but, you are a strong woman...you can make your life whatever you want it to be and I know that you will overcome and be a victor!!
MissJanieHere 3 years ago
Thank you. I'm trying to visualize what I really want to get out of this journey. Hopefully that will keep me focused.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
That's a fabulous thing to do! Like Sally (elligante2008) says: If you believe it, you can be it!
MissJanieHere 3 years ago
Just sent you a pm
IWILLMETAMORPHISOON 3 years ago
I don't know much about binge eating, but I do know that you cannot do it after surgery your body will not allow it! But it sounds to me like you are on the right track, 1st you've acknowledged your problem & second you are seeing a therapist so you will figure it out. Be patient with yourself, it is a journey & does take some time. Good luck, Fab
Fabydee 3 years ago
Patience is something I have for other people, but I need to learn to have it for myself. I'm hoping if I start dealing with my issues now, I won't have such a tough time with them post op. Thank you for your comment. Good luck on your journey as well.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
girl i am here for you if you ever need to talk. We will get through all of this stuff
ScissorHappy1982 3 years ago
Thank you, I know we can do it. I just realized I forgot about your contest, I'm going to make sure I get an entry in by friday.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
((((((((((((( Hugs )))))))))) I give you alot of credit for exploring the true realities of Binge Eating and how to deal with things post op. Nothing worthwhile is easy. I truly believe that if you continue to self explore things will get easier and your path will become more clear. I have no doubts you will be extremely successful! I am here for you anytime :)
avalongirl72 3 years ago
Thank you, Jodi. Things sometimes get harder before they get better I'm going to stick to this no matter how hard or ugly it gets.
ladyblue3 3 years ago
I think your a beautiful black woman. and you are bright. and your going to beat this battle. The things you mention. letting people take atvantage of you. Iv been there. and in a way at 52 years old people are still doing that. your going to make it i know
iloverichardlewis 3 years ago
Thank you so much for the comment. I know I will get there and be healthy, its just a harder road than I could have imagined. We can both do this, I know it!
ladyblue3 3 years ago