DAYS DEPRIVED:1,150 ( Parental Alienation of a Singapore father. For my son Adriel Cheng)

[realexhousewifeoc]

Parental Alienation is the Ultimate HATE Crime a parent can do to the children while using the other parent as the target and the children as the weapons.

[22OOKIHC]

Hi , My situation was something like similar. i was denied visit til things took a change when I seeked legal help.. Sometimes , we need to be a little more agressive to make a stand. It is true that children will feel or even distance themselves with their parents when parent do not spend enough time with them. You need to be strong and find a solution soon. take care

[ykmsp]

@22OOKIHC Thanks for your kind words : )

[limskangeline]

Be strong I can understand how you feel...trust me he will definately remember you as his dearest dad  and will surely feel really fortunate to have such a loving dad who always keep a look out for him no matter where he is! Move on in life with plenty of hopes and it is definately achievable to meet again soon.

[ykmsp]

@limskangeline Thanks for your kind words and encouragement : )

[limskangeline]

Be strong I can understand how you feel...trust me he will definately remember you as his dearest dad and will surely feel really fortunate to have such a loving dad that always keep a look out for him no matter where he is! Move on in life with plenty of hopes and it is definately achievable to meet again soon.

[meiyun81]

你要加油喔.....我相信總有一天你們父子會在次見面的...­..加油.....偉大的父親.....你是最棒的.....

[ykmsp]

@meiyun81 Thank you, meiyun : )

[preachur99]

Hang in there. I wish there was something I can say to help.But I've been there and my daughter is now 18.I still have no contact! I hope and pray you get better results.Take care of yourself.

[ykmsp]

@preachur99 Thanks bro, you too : ) By the way, I know of many other parents all over the world in similar situations via Facebook, do join us at my group bro - "Against Child Violence & Abuse (PARENTAL ALIENATION is Child Abuse)"

[dellorto33]

As a fellow Singaporean male. My sincere regrets to hear this. But I hate to say it is not uncommon to hear of the Singaporean male to be screwed by bitchess. Marraige is by choice. It is a contract signed, and a contract with clauses that are not stated clearly but later upheld by women's charter. It is a risk men knowingly take. Please move on in life. I know of many SG men that lost much more than you because marriage screwed them up.

Take this advise positively. Good Luck.

[ykmsp]

@dellorto33 Thanks for your comments. As a parent, I will never stop fighting for my son's rights to have the love and presence of both parents in his life. I am moving on in life, it is different from giving up.

[pwreric]

@ykmsp Unfortunately, I understand all to well what you're going through. We are not alone. PAS is an international scourge on the worlds children and fathers.

[ykmsp]

@pwreric Thanks bro, do join me at my Facebook group, there are many other parents there who are also fighting against Parental Alienation.

[MrYIANNOS]

fathers 4 justice GREECE keep fighting

[ykmsp]

@MrYIANNOS Thanks man

[MrYIANNOS]

fathers 4 justice GREECE

[ykmsp]

@MrYIANNOS Thanks bro, do join me at my Facebook group, there are many other parents there who are also fighting against Parental Alienation.

[stephenawatkins]

ykmsp

I am too a father deprived of both my sons due to an International Child Abduction. ALWAYS KEEP HOPE! We will be reunited with our sons one day. Keep Searching, the day will come when our boys will come home!

From One father to another father, Never lose hope!

Sincerely ~ STEPHEN WATKINS

(Father of MISSING / ABDUCTED sons ALEXANDER & CHRISTOPHER WATKINS)

[ykmsp]

@stephenawatkins Thanks bro, its nice to know you. By the way, are you on Facebook too like Ken?

[stupidbiko]

I just saw your video bro. Its very touching and I kept asking as each photo flashes, what happened to all those years? How did those happy moments turned into this? What could you have done or rather what can I as a father and husband do now???

[ykmsp]

@stupidbiko Thanks for your comments bro, a divorce can happen for many reasons, what matters most is that we should have the best interest of the children and reduce the impact in their lives. One of the main things to do is to ensure them that both parents are still in their lives constantly regardless of the split.

[ykmsp]

@stupidbiko However, the problem is that our system is not doing enough to make this happen. In fact, any bitter parents with Care & Control of the children can almost do anything to their ex-spouses without any accountability required. So the temptation to use the children as the pawn to oppress the other parent (aka Parental Alienation) is very strong.

[ykmsp]

@stupidbiko I am glad to hear that you are also a father. Hope you can support and join my Facebook group that I have created for my son.

It does not really matter what I did, we target parents are alienated not because of our deeds, but because of what our ex-spouses wish to do to us (with the court as the platform)

As a father, I am fighting to be with my son, that is all I can do now.

[martineric1966]

keep on fighting,, check my video , my baby had no choice ..

[ykmsp]

@martineric1966 Thank for your encouragement. Which video of yours should I check?

[penzandpaul]

ykmsp ive found ya vid i am one of ya facebook friends we will all get justice oneday i know im not a dad but im a mother been alianated from my 2 youngest for the last 5 years keep fighting becouse i am and we must never stop xxxx hugzzzzz

[ykmsp]

@penzandpaul Thanks for your comments and nice to have a Facebook friend write to me here. Do keep iin touch and keep fighting : )

[penzandpaul]

@ykmsp i forgot to ask who sang the song that you are backing your vid with its a beautiful song perfect for your handsome little boy xxx

[ykmsp]

@penzandpaul I The song is "Sleep My Angel" by 80s singer Howard Jones. I actually emailed Mr Jones to ask him for permission to use the song and he was kind enough to agree to it. He also wished me all the best in my pursue to be with my son.

[penzandpaul]

@ykmsp thanx for replying its a beautiful song plz fell free to watch my vids of my children if you want xx

[ykmsp]

@penzandpaul OK sure, will check out your video soon, thanks and do keep in touch : )

[veedubz7]

HI Bro! I myself is a single father of two kids & it does hurt me too as I watched your video. I hope this injustice gets resolved soon & you keep marching on.

[ykmsp]

@veedubz7 Thank bro. Are you a Singaporean too? Would you like to meet up with me and other parents in similar situations?

[pemalik]

Hi there, touching song n music. Its a long road ahead but we are making progress on the same issue. Greedy lawyers should be stomped and not allowed to profiteer from children and alienated parent by this Hostile Agressive Parental Alienation tactics used by one sefish party.They are the biggest beneficiary in any such acronimous cases. Pemalik Malaysia

[ykmsp]

@pemalik Hi bro, thanks for your comments, its nice to hear from you again. : )

By the way, are you on Facebook? We can keep in touch there, lots of supportive friends I have made, most of them are alienated parents all over the world.

[doozytube]

Real Fathers For Justice in the UK campaign on these issues, and if you need publicity or support just get in touch. realfathersforjustice . org

Your story breaks hearts, and so common it is disgusting that fathers and their children can be treated in this way. Stay strong.

[ykmsp]

Thanks doozytube

[Italiangent1]

Ykmsp

I know how you feel. I am dealing with the same situation. My situation has been over one year.

I pray for you and hope you never ever give up.

These words have helped me fight this fight against darkness. Romans12-17-21

God be with you friend

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your prayers Italiangent1 : )

Lets put on God's armour and battle on for our children in 2010!

[Anizone159]

Wow! Whadda great video! I wish I had a boyfriend like him that cares about his family that much! ^_^ But I know somewhere out there...I will find him...or even maybe he will find me! Heh.

[ykmsp]

Thanks Anizone159, I pray that your wish would come true : )

Happy 2010!

[hughandrhonda]

I just wanted to tell you how my heart goes out to you. I have two toddlers and my heart just wrenched as I watched your video. I do pray this injustice gets resolved soon. I wish more Fathers had the same kind of love and appreciation you do for your son. In Christ, Hugh

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your kind words Hugh.

I do believe love is mightier than any obstacles in the way, and that God will see me through in the end : )

[daniaot]

Happy Birthday to you Adriel! Always remember that your daddy loves you very much and you mean the world to him.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your comments bro, it means a lot to me : )

[kliff215]

he doesn't have a youtube account but a facebook account. his name is Chris Rzepski

[ykmsp]

I see. Will write to him soon, thanks : )

[kliff215]

a co-worker, who goes through stuff with his ex wife and daughter posted your video on facebook and it really moved me to tears. Hang in there and sorry for the sadness.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your kind words

[ykmsp]

Who is this co-worker friend of yours by the way? Does he have a YouTube account as well?

[spiritualbattle]

Hi, i saw yr video few wks ago but something prompted me that i shld write to U. I can feel how U are going thru this, alienated, helpness, disillusion and questn "Why me going thru this?" do pops up once a while in yr mind.

I believe all things will work together for good if we trust the Lord. The trial U are going through, i believe is a precursor to a calling. Seek the Lord so to allow Him to move in power in yr life and be transformed so that U can impact others.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your words of encouragement.

[gssq]

Reminds me of false child abuse allegations that landed this guy in jail for 20 years (see: Clyde Spencer)

[ykmsp]

Oh yes, I just read about that.

Its truly sad what some fathers are being put through by their bitter ex-spouses who succedd in manipulating the court system to their advantage.

[pemaliktube]

Keep fighting we are with you on your struggles. God is watching all of this.

PEMALIK MALAYSIA

[ykmsp]

Thank you for your encouragement, its heart-warming to know I have your support all the way from Malaysia on this.

I will never ever give up.

[ykmsp]

Thank you David, I wish you all the best in your relationship with your children.

May God's blessing be upon you and your family.

[22OOKIHC]

Hi , Saw your video and almost cry . I am a father of 2 childen going thru divorce.. I do have fear that my children wll not be close to me as I only get to see them twice weekly, Your situation is worse but I wanted to tell you never to give up and continue fighting for your son. he knows that you love him .... be strong and I will pray for you ....

David

[ykmsp]

Hi David,

Do you have a contact number than I can contact you?

[xuxpst]

This isnt deception.

Well, all i can do is cheer you up. You can do it. And dont give up. I read about it, you're on the news. There will be the day that reveal the truth. May God bless you.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your encouragement.

God shall preserve me from all evil (Psalms 121:7-8 NKJV)

[fatalcow]

really feel for u. ur ex-wife's comments are realli biased and unreasonable by the way. will pray for u, i am sure ur son will understand what's going on one day. dun give up and god bless!~

[ykmsp]

Thank you for your prayers : )

God is good. All the time.

[92200443]

Hello, I'm only 18.

I'm not a parent, but I feel deeply for what you've been through.

I believe your son will be back to you someday, you gotta stay strong, take care of yourself, gotta remain positive you know. I love my dad and if i were in your son's position, I believe that I would be telling you that should I be able to.

Stay strong for your son, take care of yourself, your health, the law will take care of everything else for you.

(:

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your encouraging words : )

Yes, I also hope the law is able to take care of things for me.

But I definitely have faith that God will see me through this ordeal.

[xaviertbh123]

hi Andy

do not give up! i'm going through the same frautrating process! the truth will be with us one day. you will always have my support

bird

[ykmsp]

Thanks. Are you also a parent from Singapore?

[xaviertbh123]

yes andy i'm singapore parent, now i'm going through the same process, i had written to Hedy to share my story

[ykmsp]

Thanks, that's great. I hope more parents in similar positions will step forward and speak up. .

[Xephirox900]

Hey you're on the news and I read about it. Its sad that your son hates you. Hang on tight and belive that your son would love you back,

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your kind words.

My son is my own flesh and blood, and I know that he does not hate me. Its just that under the current dynamics, he is unable to express any affection towards me due to the mental & emotional imprisonment he is being put in. Parental Alienation can really harm children, and its a shame many people are making use of it to achieve their own selfish agenda.

[pemaliktube]

Happy Father's Day!

You patience and tlerance of the nonsense done on to you will be rewarded in time with or with the intervervention of the courts.. Laws of Nature are far stronger.. I read the newpaper and know the those replies were typical excuses without basis. We know what is being done to you... dsont give u be strong use the rigt channel.. God is watching too!

[ykmsp]

Thanks bro, I will hang on : )

God gave us love and it is definitely a million times more powerful than the dark forces of hatred.

[alanhoon72]

We will pray for you, I am a father of 2 also. I know how you feel.

[ykmsp]

Thank you bro.

God bless you and your family, and Happy Father's Day : )

[OneAvenue96]

oh yes and there is this sentence that your wife told the NP (New Paper)

"My son knows how he(father) treats me and knows how to react to him(father) whenever he comes to visit him(son)."

I do love my dad alot too. I hope and pray both of you do get back together again. Through the pictures they clearly show how close the both of you are. If what your wife said is true . Then why does he look so happy when he is with you in the photos ? Isn't she just lying?

[ykmsp]

Time will tell, & the truth wil b out

I love my son unconditionally, & as his father I can feel that he loves me too, but the intense on-going parental alienation made him think that any affection for his dad is considered betrayal to his mum. He experiences an enormous amt of fear & guilt for wantg to love his dad

I am not immune to his feelings, I had seen how happy he really is when he goes out with both his dad & mum, like any child would be

I miss my son badly but I hv to be strong

[hakkai82]

Stay strong, your son will know if he watch this clip.

[ykmsp]

Thanks, I will definitely hang on till the end.

[OneAvenue96]

good luck. hope your son goes back to you one day. today is fathers day.

and the newpaper today , 21 jun 09 features this news. what your ex-wife thinks about this video is that she thinks that its a deception , and this video is deceiving.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your encouragement.

Anyone will know that there is no way a parent can lie about the love for your own child.

And time will tell.

[nathanhtl]

Bro,

Read the article in The New Paper. It's pretty clear to everyone what your ex-wife has been doing to your son's mind.

Stay strong. The truth will be out one day.

[ykmsp]

Thanks bro, I sure will.

[joelkong]

I am not sure if you are a christian but seeing the verse that you had inut in the video, remember Philipians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me".

I believe that your son would go back to you one day, when he sees his dad's undying love for him - even when he acted negatively in front of him.

I really hope and pray that your son would be able to watch this video and see what his dad had done for him.

My prayers are with you bro =)

Stay Strong!

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers bro, I believe God will remove all the man-made barriers in this entire episode and make things right in the end.

[joelkong]

Hey bro,

I may not know you but what I saw from the photo video was the strong bond between father and son.

It is unthinkable that your son would act in this way but you have to be and stay strong throughout this ordeal. I believe that the effort that you had taken would eventually allow your son to see/understand what and who his father really is as humans grow up and they would learn to analyse things that were said to them.

[ykmsp]

Yes, my son and I have had such wonderful times together, and it is really painful to see how Parental Alienation can ruin our relationship in such a ruthless manner.

But I have learned to tranform all my pain & sorrows into all the strength & courage that I need to fight for my rights to be with my child,

And I am nowhere near to giving up.

[nalgen75]

I am sorry for your situation but I am glad you are taking positive action to get back what you deserve. No son should be separated from his loving father. Have faith in God. Do your upmost and leave the rest to his hands. I wish you strength and success!

[ykmsp]

Thank you so much for your encouragement, I will battle on for my son.

[105siglaproad]

I am sorry to hear of your plight. Although I can only imagine some of the pain you have and are currently going through, I only wish there was a way we could help you take some of the hurt away.

[ykmsp]

You just did with your kind words.

Thank you so much : )

The love for my son keeps me going, its a flame that never dies.

[rivacloud]

My heart is with you bro, i am a father also with a son of 2 and half years old. I loves my son very deeply and a father's love is in no way any lesser than that of a mum. Hope you get to clear this thing up with your son soon.

[ykmsp]

Thanks bro, I will never give up this fight to be with my son. Btw, are you also from Singapore?

[rivacloud]

yes i am :)

[ykmsp]

Nice to know you bro : )

[jiawei27]

God will make a way for you bro! Don't give up.

Pray for yr ex despite her being so unreasonable and irrational.

I kn this sounds almost impossible, but wz God's strength, u can. Ask God to soften her heart & pray that the mediation will enable u to reconcile the strained relation with yr son.

I agree wz bend6969 that u get a counselor to mediate & explain how & why u were alienated

Will be praying for you too. God Bless.

[ykmsp]

Thanks 4 yr kind words jiawei.

I agree with u its indeed difficult to pray 4 her especially after all that she had done to me & my son,but I never stop trying.

We had many, many months of mediation but my son did not dare to respond to me, & later my ex even claimed that my son does not want to attend the sessions. And unfortunately 4 me, the court couldn't do anything.

Nevertheless, I'll not give up the fight to be with my son. Thks 4 yr prayer & God bless u & yr loved ones too :)

[bend6969]

Nope. I am still single but I can empathise with you in this case. The bond between a father and a son is by fresh and blood. She should not and must not do such thing to brainwash your kid. I always believe when there is an action, there will be an reaction. If she can be so heartless towards you, the boomerang will turn around and hit her equally bad. You must hv faith and keep fighting. At the end, I am sure you will be re-united with yr kid. May all goodness bears fruition to all.

[ykmsp]

Thank you for your encourgement, I will battle on for my son.

[vickybst]

jiayou...

[ykmsp]

Thank you for your kind words, I will keep fighting : )

[bend6969]

Bro, hope you have managed to see your kid by now. If not, I would suggest that you see yr child at the Family Court/mediation centre together with the court counsellor to bond with yr child. Yr ex cannot refuse. If she refuse, you'll hv a case and court witnesses to fight for custody or get a court order to force yr ex to comply! Remember happiness is in yr own hand. Always do the best thing for your kid. May you be well and happy.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your advice bro.

So far I only see my son at my ex-in law's place when I look him up every week. But he would repeatedly ask me to go away for no reason and then close the door.

I had tried sessions at Family Centre, but it was another opportunity for my ex spouse to make use of my brainwashed child to act in a hostile way towards me so that the counsellor would begin to think that maybe I have a relational problem with my son.

[ykmsp]

That is what Parental Alienation is all about, getting the child to do all the acting and talking so as to influence the court into making grave and unfair decisions against (in most cases) the father.

It takes a really competent and reliable court system with wise judges to see that there is definitely more than meets the eye.

By the way, are you also a parent from Singapore?

[lifeisgood181]

Heard about your plight. Do not be dishearten. Hope that your true love shall preview ...

Also hope that you also find solace in Sam Hui's song. Free check up my channel regularly on Sam's song. That's what keeps me going ....

[ykmsp]

Thanks bro, I will never give up fighting for my son.

OK l will definitely check out the songs, most of his songs have very meaningful lyrics

[dimansdad]

Im sure your son knows that you love him dearly! he was obviously very happy with you. We feel for you

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your kind comments bro.

I will stay strong and battle on for my boy.

[pemaliktube]

Believe it or not I find the many a time the real culprits to the problem are the Lawyers themselves... Many divorce lawyers dislike to see families briging the gap... Starting from now, Think about it and think outside the box... even church pastors have taken the wrong side.. It is your your ex (spouse) and children can understand and fee the pain.. Nobody else in the world will or can..

[ykmsp]

Thanks bro. I doubt my ex-spouse can understand or feel any pain, else she will not be doing such a thing to my son. By depriving him of his rightful time with his father through any means, this is definitely child abuse. No doubt about that.

[daniaot]

How r things with u now bro?

R u able 2 take yr son out yet?

I really cannot imagine yr ex & her whole family would actually brainwash & deprive yr son of his father's love that he so much deserves. They hv absolutely no right 2 do that, who do they think they are?!

Are they still attending yr ex church? Elim right? Better ask the pastor to pray hard for these people, got problems in their heads!

Let me know if u visit yr son again, I will go with u bro.

[ykmsp]

Thks for your support bro, I am still unable to take my son out as he had been totally brainwashed by them to react in a hostile manner to me every time I look him up. They will then use this as an excuse to tell Family Court that its unhealthy for the child to be with me & so he should not be forced into anything against his "will". I know they will do whatever it takes to deprive me of my right to be with my son. Pray for me bro, I need God to give me strength & wisdom in such difficult times

[jeffkhoopt]

Hi Bro, Sad to know that you have not seen your son for so long.Just one thing needful you need to do. P.U.S. H. Its stands for Pray Until Something Happens. " Faith is the substance of things hoped for" If you have faith you have enough "substance" to create whatever you want.

[ykmsp]

Thanks for your kind words bro, I will definitely keep on praying.

I have faith that by God's love, He will remove all the man-made obstacles that had been robbing me of a healthy and loving father-child relationship with my son.

[daniaot]

Your ex-wife is HOPELESS already, even go through a million times counselling also useless.

She only wants the son to herself,so she brainwashed your son to go against you to fulfill her selfish wishes.

The Family Court is just wasting time by asking you all go for endless counselling(what on earth are the judges thinking??)

Its obvious that your ex-wife type of serious over-possessive case requires a more drastic & effective approach.

The Family Court should know better than that

[ykmsp]

The Family Court believe in employing the "soft approach", thats why they have so many counselors & family ctrs helping broken families. But obviously such approach only work for parties who want to be helped. They do not have any strategy to handle unco-operative parents. In fact I am shocked to learn that most counselors are not even aware of the existence of Parental Alienation, such a critcal global issue & an important topic in their area of work. They should be more well-informed than that

[mdcfcd]

Your son may say he does not want to see you anymore, but God knows, and he knows deep within that he still loves you.

He is just not permitted to reveal his true feelings as the alienators are putting him in a very difficult situation.

You keep fighting for your son bro, we are all behind you.

Let God take care of all the alienators for abusing your son mentally and emotionally. Vengence is His.

[ykmsp]

Yes, my son is suddenly rejecting me on all my outing requests for no valid reasons.

I have not been out with him for almost half a year now, and I really miss those fun times we had at Sentosa, at the beach building sandcastle and cycling, at Night Safari, taking car rides around town, at bookstores reading books to him, at the library playing board games etc.

God knows how much I love my son. As his father, I can feel that he loves me too, even if he keeps telling me that he doesn't.

[chiagerald]

I cried watching this... I believe Adriel will know of your love for him one day. Right now, he's young and being brainwashed. My prayers go out to you, Adriel and your family! :)

[ykmsp]

I can't thank you enough for your help with this awesome slideshow bro. It means a lot to me man..

[redthumbs]

Bro, what is the current status of your case now? Did the Family Court grant you a child access order?"

[ykmsp]

I have a Court Order granting me twice-a-week access to my son.

But this Order had been repeatedly violated by the other side. During my hour of access, they would either influence my son against going out with me, or they would take him out before I can see him.

The Court did not take any action but suggested counseling.

After many months of counseling, I am still deprived of access as they continue to brainwash and block my son from me.

And the court suggested more counselling...