Hope After Parental Alienation

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Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.

Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.

Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.

[vintri100]

people who do this, be it the father or the mother do not love their children ignorance plays a big part here too because they don't even understand that they are abusing their own child they are taking away their God given rights to have both a father and a mother SHAME on anyone who abuses a child in any way including PAS because we must realize that this is also a form of child abuse Thanks for these videos hope my daughter's mother sees them one day

[Ladyscroipo]

Im crying right now, Its only a min into ='( omg

[realexhousewifeoc]

How can any parent hate their child so much? Parental Alienation is the ULTIMATE HATE CRIME and CHILD ABUSE. They Destroy their child's self esteem, trust values, dreams, hopes, and critically impair them for future healthy decision making skills. They view them only as a possession/torpedo weapon against the ex. Ultimately these people truly Hate themselves and hide behind innocent children while victimizing them further destroying the stronger bond with the other parent. Jealousy is Key here

[vintri100]

@realexhousewifeoc very well put I couldn't have expressed it better

[sosadinal]

My son and his wife divorced in Dec of last year. His ex has always been controlling but she is determined to turn his two sons against him. She has a lot of help from her side of the family too. It is a sad situation.....even for us, their Grandparents:( I hope your situation gets better. I am a product of divorce and I know kids need BOTH parents to grow up whole and healthy. Losing a parent is like losing a piece of themselves.

[FORMETOKNOWONLY]

after 13 years of alienation, my 17 year old daughter mustered enough courage to sneak away and call me...The next day her mother had her cell phone disabled.

All those b-day and Christmas cards I sent to my kids intercepted...no phone contact...Jeez, even prisoners are allowed phone and mail privies...I can tell you it has not only destroyed my life...but major emotional distress for my two daughters.

BTW: I love you Ashlee and Taylor!

[TheKristie111]

It has been almost 2 years since I have seen my son. Yesterday I saw him for 30 secs because of a situation that caused us to cross paths. I have been crying non-stop since.

[SacredSocietyAP]

I know how you feel man...I have been going through this for years now. Someone please help me if you could. I haven't seen my daughter in over a year.

[shadowmare97]

Keep up the fight, you're clearly a dedicated father who doesn't deserve the kind of punishment you've been getting. I don't know what happened nor is it any of my business, but no loving father deserves to be taken away from his children. Never.

Stand strong :)

[rnischalke]

I'm not sure what is going on but I haven't been able to respond to any comments for the last week or so. If you look in the forum there are many subscribers having the same problem.

So I am trying this method - a post instead of a response.

[stephenmcallister]

I have watched this video over and over today. It is a very powerful dedication of your love. Could you tell me the artist of the song.? I would like to create a collection of memories for my children as well.

They are 11 and 15 and have been manipulated to hate me.

I am at a crossroads and not sure what to do.

My son stopped all contact with me 3 1/2 years ago.

My daughter, one month ago.

I applaud your strength and willingness to share your pain.

I hope that it will help many families.

[anthonygreenit]

Rnischalke, I'm in the same position, strangely with just one of my two children. If I can make a couple of suggestions, based on my own experience 1) make your life today something that your sons will want to be part of tomorrow (not easy!) 2) understand what it is in you that caused this to happen but WITHOUT ever blaming yourself (ouch, a tough one!) 3) desire your ex-wife's happiness (even tougher!): presumably she's doing it out of weakness, the cause of all war. Thinking of you & your sons

[rnischalke]

anthonygreenit,

Thanks for the kind words and good advice. If you watch some of the other videos I have posted, you will have a more complete understanding of our situation.

[elmejoractordemexico]

My God this is so sad!

How can a mother do that to her own children?

[rnischalke]

elmejoractordemexico,

Yes, and It is much sadder than any video can ever hope to show.

And I still cannot fathom how any parent could turn against their own child in this way.

It is totally unnecessary and destructive but the alienating parent uses "rational - lies" to assure themselves that they are doing the "right" thing.

Thank you for your comment and concern

[Italiangent1]

rnischalke,

Thank you for sharing your story. I pray for you and all experiencing this evil syndrome. They will seek truth and once they discover truth- they will want to be with you. Your X will have to deal with our Lord on Judgement Day for these extreme acts against your children and you their father. Be Strong Friend

[rnischalke]

Italiangent1,

Thank you my friend. Especially for your prayers for my children.

[Italiangent1]

rnischalke, all of your videos with your two boys are beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story. Rest assure my friend your boys will seek truth and when they discover truth they will be very upset with your x and want to be with you. Your xwife will have to face Judgement Day for these extreme acts of abuse. I agree with your analysis below on "attachment disorder". This is the root of the issue with these individuals. God Bless you

[rnischalke]

Italiangent1,

Thank you for your kind comment and encouragement. Unfortunately I agree with you that my sons will resent what their mother has done when they find out the truth. And that makes me incredibily sad.

They've already lost one parent that they loved and trusted because of lies and deception, now those same lies will harm their relationship with the one who perpetrated them to begin with.

That may be "just" but once again my sons will pay the price for their mothers sin...

[MrMarkCombs]

Im Mark. Ive both experienced this thing with my father and my own child. Been fighting for bout 5 years and now have liberal visitation with my child. Thank you for allowing me to see your video. I havent figured it all out .....

[preachur99]

We are dealing with some sick people here..In my situation it was my ex's childhood that was the problem...So she takes it out on me and ruins our daughter in the process! Again,these people are sick and need help!! Don't forget we reap what we sow,I wouldn't what to be there for there "reaping".

[rnischalke]

preachur99,

In almost every case of Parental Alienation I have ever encountered, the alienator comes from a dysfunctional background.

Do some research on "Damaged Object Relationships" or "Attachment Disorder". It will explain an awful lot about these type of broken, sick people.

And I agree completely, I would not trade places with anyone that would abuse their own child like this on judgment day.

[RamblinManBlues]

God bless you for this. That's all I can say right now.

Joe

Father of Dale and Emily

[rnischalke]

Joe,

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement.

I could never have made it without God's blessing. Even then, it is still one day at a time...

[twinsx2plusone]

I will never understand how someone can do this to their children. I fear I may never have a relationship with my children again and my heart breaks each and every day.

[rnischalke]

twinsx2plusone,

I am really sorry for the heartbreak and pain you and your children are going through. You are not alone...

As far as understanding how someone can do this to their children? In the 10 years that I have been separated from my sons, with all of the research, data and conversations with others about this, it still boggles my mind.

I still can't imagine someone so self centered and emotionally crippled that they would destroy their own children just to hurt their ex...

[buildsbest]

Don't try to understand...it's beyond reason of normal people.

I too have had my son mentally warped by my ex's lies and manipulations. I watch as he spews out more lies about me and repeats venomous comments about women. Sadly too his father doesn't love my son but uses him. Human Rights Where ?

[rnischalke]

buildsbest,

Thanks for your comment. So sorry for your pain.

The only "rights" alienators ever care about are their own...

[JC6007]

Very moved by this, I am going through the same and have been for over two years now. Never give up hope, never stop fighting and one day your two beautiful boys will know the truth about what a great dad they have. I hope that your kids, your ex, and all of her family get to see this clip, it is wonderfully put together. Good luck to you, you have a friend and a kindred spirit here in the UK.

[rnischalke]

JC6007,

Thank you my friend. My prayers are with you and your children.

I am sorry that you and your children have been exposed to such a dark side of life and humanity. It is unspeakable depravity and sickness that would motivate anyone to separate a loving & capable parent from children that love and need them.

Please keep healing and growing. One day the truth will be known and your love and care for them will be revealed to them.

[jonilbgood]

Hello. I'm feeling all the pain and grief that you discuss below. I love my children dearly. I have a court date coming up on April 15. My son is 15 and now says he wants to live with his father full time. My x is using him as a pawn because he is so bitter towards me and wants to punish me. I am beside myself with the grief. I keep plugging away at this computer for hope to find some answers. My attorney doesn't believe in PAS and says we are fighting a loosing battle. The hurt is so deep.

[rnischalke]

jonilbgood,

I am very sorry to hear about your pain. There are so many of us around the world that can relate. We hope & pray for the children and the parents that are being abused.

It is beyond comprehension how anyone could be cold-hearted and arrogant enough to "use" their own children to attack their ex spouse. Espescially when the effects of PA are so well documented and known.

It is sick and it is wrong.

If you are looking for resources google: Keeping Families Connected . org

[jpsmpsn]

Great choice of music.

I'm in the same situation, in Japan.  Im thinkig of writing a book called "Youre voodoo dolls are my wingless angels". Mine are daughters. I have great sympathy and empathy for you. Children should not be innocent victims of spite. I wish you all the luck in the world. Love and Peace.

[rnischalke]

jpsmpsn,

Thank you my friend.

I am very sorry to hear about your precious daughters. It is an incredible loss for them to lose a father that loves them.

[JJZeune]

The thing is this people, parental alienation is very real and very sad. My son is a invitro baby. It took us 3 years to create him and close to $50,000.00. He was a twin, the twin died when i was 20 weeks pregnant. My son is the love of my life and I would die for him today!!! And now he hates me because his dad tells him to hate me. I dont have the money to fight his dad in court. Anyone who says parental alienation isnt real needs to kiss thier children and thank god its not YOU.

[Stephs1videos]

You are a brave man; and even though justice was not served in the Courts,the day will indeed come when your children will know the truth. I am living this intense pain now w/my brother, and it is ever so painful. ( court date yesterday; judge meeting with children today)- been going on for years- Your video is a beautiful expression of your love for your boys. I cried while I watched it. My heart is with you. Blessings, SSM Texas

[rnischalke]

Stephs1videos,

Thanks for your comment and support. You cried when you watched it, I cried when I made it...

And no, justice was nowhere to be found in that court-room.

I am so sorry to hear about you brother and his children. It is a sadness that he lives with every waking moment, and even in his sleep. The dreams never end, nether does the nightmare.

But you are correct, some day the truth will be known. No lies, manipulation or pay-offs can change that...

[Stephs1videos]

More tears from your reply. You said exactly what he tells me as he cries about it, that this is all he thinks about..day & night. I know what I am going through, so I can only imagine his heart; and yours as well! What can I do, as a sister to help him? I am afraid of what happens after this. His Ex has taken everything from him, & now he just wants to flee the Country.She slowly pryed away the little fingers clutched onto my brother.I know his pain will never go away. How can I help him?

[rnischalke]

Stephs1videos,

Please go to Google or Yahoo and type in Keeping Families Connected. We have a ton of resources to help both you and your brother.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for having such compassion and love for your brother. And just as importantly for wanting to DO something to help him instead of just standing by to watch his destruction.

He is blessed to have you for a sister. If either fo you want to contact me my information is there...

[wogbunny]

I'm so sorry to hear that a mother could do this to her own children. I believe Parental Alienation is far worse than anybody would of ever thought. I am a Grandmother that has been alienated from my 3 Grandson's for no reason other than spite. Grandparent's have no rights when it comes to their own grandchild. It interfers with a parents right to raise their own child. Right or wrong. I went to court and I was denied rights to visit my Grandson's. How can this happen?

[rnischalke]

wogbunny,

I am sorry for your entire family. Mostly for those beautiful boys.

Parental alienation is wrong, it is a crime that should be punished at the highest level, because it is one of the most selfish and abusive things you could ever do to a child.

[Haycorn]

Sincere good wishes from someone who knows all too well what you go through every minute of every day.

[rnischalke]

Haycorn,

Thank you my friend. I can feel your pain in the words you have written. I am sorry...

I will pray for your healing and for your children as well.

Unless a person has experienced this type of grief, pain and yes even torture, no explanation can even come close to describing the utter emptiness and desolation that PA brings into our lives.

For those of us living the nightmare, no explanation is necessary...

[ttromley]

I will always remember your wonderful demeanor,a smile that lite up a room. I am so sad that you have been going through this. I can only add to your prayers and know deep in my heart that one day soon those boys are going to come knocking with the same wonderful smiles and bright eyes that they inherited from their father. I think what you are doing is not only helping you, but one day will show Josh & Nick what a wonderful father they have.

Anything I can do, I here.

I love You

Tish

[rnischalke]

Thanks for the love, prayers & support. It is appreciated...

[tmf223]

My prayers and wishes are with you!

[rnischalke]

Thank you my friend...