Above all, a woman that shares the same spiritual & religious beliefs I have. The other intangibles: intelligence, compassion, and passion for something as well -- I find a woman who can express her emotions to be attractive; not in some manipulative manner, but genuine human emotions. Turnoffs: tattoos of any type or size, smoking, atheists and feminists. Physical appeal: it varies. Most women have atleast one asset that makes them appealing in some way.
I'll tell you what men want. We want a relationship where women respect us as human beings instead of being objectified as sources of money, entertainment, and status. We want women that don't nag us and hate us all the time. We want equality instead of women attempting to dominate us. We want to be seen as people and not objects to be used and then thrown away the minute we cease to be entertaining and funny.
humanity is in the process of being divided and conquered on a fundamental level. forces have been arrayed to minimize the ability of people to sustain interpersonal relationships, between family, their children, and the opposite sex. femnism has supposedly freed women, and governments now collect taxes on twice as many people. children spend more time with tv and in school than with parents. fatherhood is merely a support check. you must ask the right question, and that is, qui bono?
I want companionship, someone to share feelings and exchange ideas with... someone to hang out with... oh, and having sex is good too. Gee, like isn't that what everyone wants?
They want masturbation accessories who wear corsets and heels that warp their feet and constrict their breathing, to keep us as sexy "pretend slaves" while we cook, clean, and stay pregnant out of fear of their brutal bullying. Meanwhile, they go to prostitutes and watch porn, occupations which grind women and children up like meat because trafficking and slavery are the backbones of those industries.
I know this is such a belated response, but I was thinking about this the other day. What am I looking for in a partner? Somebody whom I can be ambitious, adventurous, supportive, world-changing, intimate and erotic with. I admire the people who challenge me intellectually the most. This is highly romanticized, but it's what I want!
I want a smart , confident woman with a sense of humour who doesn't think she needs to take herself too seriously. She's not the centre of the universe so she should be self aware enough to realise that. This might sound mean, but I'm starting to think I'd settle for any woman who isn't vapid, shallow and stupid. That's far harder to find than you think.
It might be less of what they desire, and more of how they interpret what they desire... The men I've talked to want much of the same things women want, or they are good at reciting it...however, in practice it becomes an issue for guys..like you said the male ego is surprisingly fragile and criticism tends to put them off..can't grow if you can't eat some shit now and then.
An intellectual equal who is as much a friend as a lover who shares my outlook on the world and wants to see it better rather than worse. Someone who cares about their opinion more than how they look, but who is open to learning new things.
Not found her yet, just emotionally manipulative narcissists with all the depth of a worm's grave and the loyalty of a preying mantis.
don't know what men want. i am male, and i've heard the gripes of many a brother re the female equation, but no, never worked it out. nor despite having loved and having been in love did i figure out what females want, the job descriptions tend to change with the girl, and in the longer relationships changed given time. i find it best now just to avoid it. i wish you well however with your pondering.
@MisterAvailable On closer analysis I think it's negligible to label her as a feminist when she didn't believe ideologically in collective political action, despite some political allegiance briefly in the twenties. It's because our understanding of human experience is so undeveloped that we attempt to label her anything.
Hrm, I guess I want meaningful companionship; a linking on a very personal level, reliability, trustworthyness, mutual understanding (as best as can be done) and probably a few other things. I might be a silly headcase for choosing these thing as my priorities, maybe.
I'm not so sure if what they want out of a relationship is all that different. I can only speak for myself, but I believe I want someone I can have a conversation with, someone I can laugh with, and someone I can be intimate with. I want a partner, a comrade, a fellow adventurer. Someone who can help me take on the world with our backs to the wall and no one to save us but ourselves. We all need support, we all need love, and we all need understanding. I feel lucky to be with a girl like that.
@MisterAvailable Currently, Virginia Woolf, 'Jacob's Room'. Middle-aged white suits baulk at the sight of it. Her 'radical feminist' reputation (largely inflammatory) precedes her.
the same as what women want really ,but without the twisted bullshit , if they are like i love you all the time and expect me to remind them that i instantly love them from day 1 then it just wont work ,to kids yes but im an adult so needs to be felt not said , when you can clearly see someone whos happy do they need to confirm it by saying they are happy all the time so yeah drop the bullshit
@BoundlessEyes i know which is ashame,sometimes i really love picking my nose. if thats what they want to be compared with everyday, then its a lost cause anyway and will never know me.
tbh i have tryed but find it to be just words that mess with your head, reality is not television and i no longer fall for it , i want a relationship not something from eastenders , jeremy kyle etc
@BoundlessEyes well felt i had to add that , to seperate me from those who are butt hurt , as i can come across as bit of a ebenezer scrooge , but im not just looking for something diffrent to what is seen as sociably acceptable, women can throw love around like theres no tomorrow with ease, where as men it needs to have a base or backbone to it or for me anyway ,yes no worrys its just my other me judging myself :)-~~
I want affection and someone backing me emotionally and someone to support me through the tough times. Also someone who carries their weight around the house. Somone who gives advice when they see me going in a bad direction. Somone who prioritize the relationship over selfish needs. And someone who will share the good times as well and enjoy them. Somone who breaks the tension in the relationship or with other people. Also, If the relationship continues, a good mother.
Trust is the factor that's been missing, or misplaced - and what i look for in a relationship. Also, dont read women's magazines, they're toxic, and designed to make you feel inadequate
@johntheother on the contrary, they don't all make women feel bad. For some it can be inspiring and energizing. I personally like fashion mags, that are geared towards women, not the kind with all the "dating tips" and "what men want" and " how to lose 10 pounds in 10 minutes" or whatever.
uh...I want lulz out of a relationship, and good intellectual & emotional discussion and openness. also...the other stuff...'YALL KNOW... but I can't have the latter without the former cause it makes me feel crap. just shows you how rigid and cold I am...
I would want someone who smart, caring, and kind. Basically someone's who gives shit, and cares about me but also cares about the well being of others as well. If a woman had those qualities, I'm sure I would find a way to make it work.
I only want to spend time with the person who I am in love with. I have more things I DON'T want in a relationship. I don't want to be the one in charge nor do I want to be bossed around. I don't want to "fulfill a need". I don't want to be needed. I don't want to be held to standards my partner doesn't hold herself too. I don't want to spend every waking moment with her.
Someone to watch their back that is clearly on their side, a safe place to come home to, a partner to conquer the world with, someone that appreciates what they like about themselves, someone who helps them understand that their failures are just stumbles on the path to success, someone who helps them safely expose their vulnerabilities, a playmate both in and out of bed, someone who will love the life and children they make together, someone who will help them be better and stronger.
As a man what do I want in a relationship? Hmmmm... its hard to pin point exactly, but you know it when its there. Also its hard to tell if its there if the person is not open or receptive. So guess the first thing would be somone who is open and receptive and acts naturally. Then the rest will either fall into place or it won't.
that thing called talking , resolve worrys ,anxietys,and genral dribble i tend to just build up and keep a backlog of,to not always agree with what i say as it makes me feel boring, to connect with my playworld or play along with games regardless of how silly they are, make goals and stick to them , stand by me for what i will gain and not run me down for what i loose or lack and yeah fantastic sex if the above is met
female: ability to be completely vulnerable (raw) with someone and them being able to tolerate it. that is one of my greatest fears of intimacy and that which keeps me alone. i want a man who counterbalances my proclivities towards isolation, insecurity, depression. a man who makes me want to keep searching, discovering, trying etc.
I look for intimacy most in a relationship. Somebody I can share my interests with, will be there for me during bad times as I will do for her, celebrate my victories as I will with her's. Somebody who has her own goals and aspirations, who is strong emotionally/mentally/spiritually/etc. An equal, not a significant other.
I want a friend, partner and a confidant..................who I can have sex with! :D
Sex is a necessary precondition for a successful relationship, but great sex is not enough (yeah, I'm greedy as fuck, right?). In order for me to maintain a lasting relationship with a woman I think the main thing is intellectual stimulation. For starters, a woman reading a book is far more attractive to me than a woman reading a magazine (unless it's Scientific American or something similarly stimulating). Aaaaand now I'm running close to the comment limit. To be continued.
@NeoDolph1n I think the best way to sum it up is that what you think is more important than how you look, but how you make me feel is more important than what you think. That being said, I wouldn't be able to maintain a lasting relationship with a woman who couldn't keep up with (and hopefully overtake) me in a discussion. It would just get boring.
I still find it hard to believe that my girlfriend has been putting up with me for the last 6 years, and is still here....
You know, I'll bet that I could give a really simple, straightforward answer that would totally clarify and impress..
The only problem is that I'm getting pretty hungry, there's no one to make smile at the end of the day, and I long for for the pleasures of physical affection, companionship, and cooperative validation with another human being. Maybe once I manage to get those things taken care of, I'll be able to compose myself well enough to provide a response. Hmm, maybe it will be "boobs".
On a side note, I'd probably find a woman more attractive if she were reading a book rather than a magazine because books have substance and take time reading whereas magazines just have little articles that you read and think to yourself 'well that's interesting' and go on with your day.
I suppose what I want in a relationship is love, compassion and understanding. Kinda cheesy I know. I would want a friend who I could hold and be with and share my thoughts with, and was actually interested.
Of course sex forms the pillar of virtually all relationships--they wouldn't exist if human beings weren't these reproduction mad simians. And it's the same for both genders.
Perhaps the reason why we choose our partners is in their individual detail, the same way you might buy a car. Sure I want something to drive, but does it have a digital radio? in this instance could be the same as Sure I want to have sex with you on a long-term basis in a loving relationship, but do you like Pink Floyd?
I think most men want their women to be like their mums. A woman that simply takes care of all the annoying jobs like cooking, cleaning, washing and so on.
I think most men want their girlfriends or their wives to have a similar qualities of their mothers.
@artisannika I dont think you need to worry. Its only those men that come from a well rounded loving family envoirnment. The types of men that are very close to their mums.
@Nuron666 I'm going to have to disagree, I don't want anyone that vaguely reminds me of my mother. I'm out of the house and I don't want to have to deal with my mother anymore. I think that rule only applies to those who like their moms, so maybe 'most' men do...
Also, I love cooking.Cleaning not so much but I'm not sure if anyone does. :P
I wouldn't want a stereotypical house wife, I wouldn't wish a mundane life on anyone, having everyone chip in on the annoying jobs is what I'd want.
@Nuron666 You're assuming I don't like my mother because my family isn't close, this isn't the case, please don't assume things about me that you have no knowledge of. Other than that, yeah, as I stated before I think that rule only applies to those who like their mother.
I think men want the same thing women do really, or at least that's how it works for my relationship. I think they want friendship, someone they get along with and can have fun with and understand their passions. Physical contact - that's just something that makes humans happy. Being in a relationship just means you've got to know the person really well, you know they're into you, so you don't have to go to the effort of finding someone else. Security. Trust. Comfort.
@princessannikki I agree entirely! The people who say 'men r just in it for teh sex' must realise that women are equally interested in sex. Thus, these kinds of statements effectively mean that they are saying 'both sexes / all genders just want sex' :-p
Reading Men's magazines is a good idea but there is a great deal of variation in magazine's and men. If you ask people directly what they want, most people regardless of gender will lie.
I'm an older gay guy and initial attraction continues to be important. Biggest quality would be someone that I enjoy talking with and going on adventures with. It is also very important to have shared values. Ideally they would help me reach my potential as an individual and I could return the favor.
@BoundlessEyes I think people lie because we don't want others to see how shallow we are. I see this in men and women, gay and straight. I see people lie to themselves and to others. I'm uncertain if this is a good or bad thing. I have little dating history but have a lot of experience being the shoulder people cry on. People's behaviour clashes with their claims.
A real man wants an independent woman that can take care of herself. That works together with them to become a better and more powerful person. That at the same time can take care of her as she will take care of him. Equality is what a good man wants.
@BoundlessEyes sorry for late reply, Criticism is different from say blatent personal attacks, constuctive Criticsum can keep you on the staight and narrow, if we all got along life would be Boring, say if i went majorly off the rails i would trust my nearist and dearest to give me a kick in the pants
Come on. Men do not desire true companionship from a lowly female-a man forges friendships with a woman so she can get comfortable enough to have sex with him. This is their biological nature. Any other qualities men look for in women are maternal, so he can be sure she will slave away feeding and burping babies while he is out with the boys at the strip club.
I'd like to wake up next to someone, see them through groggy morning eyes, inwardly sigh and think; it wasn't a dream, yay!
I see little difference between a friendship and a relationship. So I suppose I would call a relationship a friendship + intimacy. Being a polyamourous wittle kitty I would not seek a deeply intense life bond with one person - its far too much of a risky commitment :-p I seek the sharing of teh loves =)
hey, thanks for giving me a chance to talk about me. (ME ME ME HA!)
That being said, I enjoy the presence of females that are intelligent and kind. So my ideal relationships have been where we have gotten together later in the evening, hung out for an hour or two (talking, making something to eat, or something like that), and then going to sleep. So in essence, I guess if I could break it down, I like holding her and being held by her, kissing her, and understanding her. I much prefer these things over sex.
What I really try to do is just give people love. How does one define love is the obvious question. If you want me to go deeper into my definition of love I can, but I will wait for your cue.
But to branch open the concept of love into a relationship with a significant other (for lack of a better term), it can start having a much broader definition. When I think of being in a loving relationship with someone I think the most important thing is honesty. So can I say honesty must be involved in the definition of love?
I don’t think I have adequately addressed this…might respond again in the near future.
I'm still quite young, so this could change drastically in the future :)
I would say love is, in a sense, to will good upon someone. What is good is the obvious next question and here it can get more complicated. What is good? What is bad? Is this just dualistic thinking? Is the highest attainment of mind to transcend such dualistic concepts...I don't know. Maybe I could say love is the absence of ill will...
I often say “I love everyone” – to me, this means I do not wish any ill will upon anyone.
I'm a very independent person, and I feel that time spent doing the regular things that most people do with their gf/bf (television, outings that are meant to be "fun") simply do not appeal to me. I can do those sorts of things once in awhile, but not regularly. I need to use my time more effectively doing things that I think matter.
depends on the man and the stage of life he's in. I always wanted same things tho: somebody who can mutually build up something, a mutual supportive partnership with benefits too lol. romance is part of it. I like a girl with perspectuve. i have to be attracted to her too tho but dont need supermodel.
can't speak for anyone but myself... someone i'm attracted to, physically and mentally, who i find interesting, is a friend, that i can do fun stuff with, makes my world bigger, who i respect, who understands me... are you gonna do a what do women want from a relationship video?
there is nothing other than getting laid. Even evolved men, will not bother, if they are not getting laid. Its not that getting "laid" is the real issue, it's how you want to get laid. Is getting laid more important than how you secure it, or to an "evolved" man, getting laid requires some tact and delicacy and love. All men want to have sex, if you meet any man that says that sex is not important, run for your life.
@BoundlessEyes Sex is the glue that binds a relationship lovely. Sex is what makes all those yummy pheromones that smell good and create a lasting bond between partners.The more sex, the more love will be in the relationship. That's why they call it "making love" as a man i want as much love making as possible,not just sex for sex sake, because I want to have lots of closeness with the woman I love and care about.The loving embrace of a woman that loves you cures all of lifes ills.
@BoundlessEyes If lots of sex really did fix things, my ex wife and I would just be in nirvana. Doesn't work. I find it interesting that you seem to be buying that load of crap Elenkhos just spewed out. Yeah, never mind that pheromones don't smell at all and aren't detected by your olfactory sense. And it was called making love (movie term) because they couldn't say fucking. You want the secret? Here it is: biologically, women are wired to want sex with the bad boy, but live with the good boy.
@alaskafido At one stage in my life...yeah... now??? The idea of sex with a bad boy scares the shit out of me... I can't trust a bad boy...the more charming the more rehearsed, the more rehearsed the lines, the more rehearsed the sex....booooring! I can only bend myself so many ways, and no...I don't want anal either (common things in my experience with the bad boy and sex).
Good question. Consciously, i would want companionship, i want someone to have deep conversations with, someone that is interesting and full of life. Someone I can cuddle with on the couch. I think the real interesting question is: is what we think truly what we want, or is there some underlying wants that we arent aware of in ourselves? For example, are these wants all i really have, or are there other wants that im not aware of? If so, how does one become aware of these, if possible?
Well, according to the results of the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (and I think this fits me dead on): A "mindmate". Someone on the same wavelength. An intellectual equal, or better yet, a superior.
Wouldn't mind being able to let my guard down around the other person, either.
Fun and being exposed to different perspectives. I don't feel much of a need for companionship and certainly not any kind of emotional support. That said, if I met someone I might develop such needs. Being in a relationship changes my desires and needs so its hard to answer while I've been single for so long!
@BoundlessEyes I'd say they're all on the same level, each having their own time and place. Favoring one over the other indefinitely could cause potential problems. Moderation is key!
politics, history, economics,sociology anything that is academical. the biggest turn off is fashion,big brother and half the crap we see on TV specially channel 4
speaking as a guy who has never been in a relationship.. (hint hint jess) I generally just want someone who gets me and I enjoy spending time with and can talk to normally :D
hit me up some time jess ;) lol oh yes youtube come on
@BoundlessEyes *looks up big word* you say incorrigible I say committed :P
plus who wouldn't want to chat to someone you can argue over economic policy/workers rights with :D even though I think I could take you in a economic policy argument ;)
so yeah msn/skype sometime? we can thrash out arguments on equality and the like :D
so awesome in fact....perhaps you'd like to join the debate..bom chika wah wah..
I like how normally I comment trying to chat up boundlesseyes but this has turned into me writing a script for what essentially is the most messed up porn in the comments section of youtube...
I look for someone who I can have a connection with on a deeper level than just sex. I like a woman to be intelligent and can stand up for her convictions. While at the same time, someone who is caring and kind. I am seen as abit 'Picky' amongst my friends because I do not try to sleep with everything with a pulse. There has to be more than just looks.
BTW Men have no idea what women want either, I have not got a clue. Loads of girls I know seem to be with utter arseholes.
@BoundlessEyes No sorry I meant that looks are not a "must". I am not shallow, I treat women like human beings rather than someone who I can just sleep with. Thats why my friends call me 'picky' I am looking for the"ONE" so to speak.I think I am like this because I was raised by a single mother and she taught me to respect women.
@29harveydinio It was just the 'has to be more than JUST looks' part, my bad.
When I meet men who respect their mothers I always take that as a good measure of character, unless like my first boyfriend there's clear abuse negating such feelings, of course..
Man here: I mostly want friendship, companionship, someone to be completely honest with, someone to be affectionate with, someone to share life experiences with, someone that I can have deep intellectual conversations with, someone that shares my some of my interests. I'm lucky to have found someone who fills those needs.
@BoundlessEyes For the most part, I think(keyword) she wants the same. I try and be sensitive to her wants and needs. For example, I have an over active libido, (curse my biology) and a lot of the time I have to push those urges aside (or deal with it on my own) because she works long hours and probably doesn't want me trying to be intimate with her all the time. I have to say, I don't really fit the typical male stereotype being raised in a house with all females and no father.
It is about getting laid regularly, but by the same woman. men want status most of all and when sexual exploration seems hollow, ownership seems more inviting
This doesn't have to be a strictly patriarchal concept either when the status markers are progressive and labeled by the status of the female you can bond to
There is a passive aggressive anti macho type of 'little man' syndrome where the woman is dominant but paradoxically the guy plays heavy hitter 'the big teddy bear type' persona
Appearance wise I'm not fussy (in that I can't think of a physical attribute that would stand in the way of me wanting to be with someone) but I want love, respect, someone I have things in common with, someone to laugh and cry with, someone that understands my (many) flaws but loves me regardless and it would be nice if we were sexually compatible too. Selfish, but hey, I give as good as I get.
i doubt my opinion will matter much since i'm not a very masculine male, but the one thing i NEED in a relationship is trust. that is one thing i've never been able to have with my female friends (have never had a girlfriend) and it's very difficult for me to have now due to said female friends constantly betraying and abandoning me. i believe that once i can trust a woman, i can be completely comfortable and open with her, which will allow me to be the man she wants and needs.
I would like somebody who understands me, somebody I look at and I am happy to see, Who smiles alot and makes me smile and who understands the littel things that matter to me. But alas thats why I am singel (and have been for a long time) xD
I just want someone I can connect with, someone I can from, some one I can have an emotional sybiosis with, I think. Someone who I can give what they need, and who can give me what I need.
Fuck, I feel selfish typing that out.
Just can't connect with anyone, though. Feel like an alien. I've pretty much gotten used to that fact, I'm just not normal. The fact that I haven't made even a single friend since I was 5 confirms that.
Don't want to say never, because I know for a fact that there are more fucked up people out there than me.
Another thing I'd like is just someone to hug. I'm kind of touch deprived when it comes to other humans, but I don't mean it in the sexual sense. Hard to explain it like this, most people don't think about normal things like hearing someone's voice, seeing people or in my case, touching people.
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Absolutely nothing. Women are only good at being women, for themselves.
Why would I "want" anything at all?
Women have emotions, they want things. Wanting is a female attribute called desire.
So "men" don't want anything from women. C'mon, it makes no gender logic. Men are strong, we already have everything.
Soveraine 5 months ago
Above all, a woman that shares the same spiritual & religious beliefs I have. The other intangibles: intelligence, compassion, and passion for something as well -- I find a woman who can express her emotions to be attractive; not in some manipulative manner, but genuine human emotions. Turnoffs: tattoos of any type or size, smoking, atheists and feminists. Physical appeal: it varies. Most women have atleast one asset that makes them appealing in some way.
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Let's be honest, in a night encounter : tits, ass, lips.
Criticalperspective2 8 months ago
I'll tell you what men want. We want a relationship where women respect us as human beings instead of being objectified as sources of money, entertainment, and status. We want women that don't nag us and hate us all the time. We want equality instead of women attempting to dominate us. We want to be seen as people and not objects to be used and then thrown away the minute we cease to be entertaining and funny.
Is that impossible for women to give us?
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humanity is in the process of being divided and conquered on a fundamental level. forces have been arrayed to minimize the ability of people to sustain interpersonal relationships, between family, their children, and the opposite sex. femnism has supposedly freed women, and governments now collect taxes on twice as many people. children spend more time with tv and in school than with parents. fatherhood is merely a support check. you must ask the right question, and that is, qui bono?
knowthingman 1 year ago
I want companionship, someone to share feelings and exchange ideas with... someone to hang out with... oh, and having sex is good too. Gee, like isn't that what everyone wants?
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Depends on the guy in question.
Guys are varied.
If I were you, i'd just make an effort to be available and start weeding through guys you don't like to get to the kind of guys you do like.
Bluedragon094 1 year ago
They want masturbation accessories who wear corsets and heels that warp their feet and constrict their breathing, to keep us as sexy "pretend slaves" while we cook, clean, and stay pregnant out of fear of their brutal bullying. Meanwhile, they go to prostitutes and watch porn, occupations which grind women and children up like meat because trafficking and slavery are the backbones of those industries.
ChairmanNuke 1 year ago
I know this is such a belated response, but I was thinking about this the other day. What am I looking for in a partner? Somebody whom I can be ambitious, adventurous, supportive, world-changing, intimate and erotic with. I admire the people who challenge me intellectually the most. This is highly romanticized, but it's what I want!
EternalVigilant 1 year ago
I want a smart , confident woman with a sense of humour who doesn't think she needs to take herself too seriously. She's not the centre of the universe so she should be self aware enough to realise that. This might sound mean, but I'm starting to think I'd settle for any woman who isn't vapid, shallow and stupid. That's far harder to find than you think.
splutonium 1 year ago
It might be less of what they desire, and more of how they interpret what they desire... The men I've talked to want much of the same things women want, or they are good at reciting it...however, in practice it becomes an issue for guys..like you said the male ego is surprisingly fragile and criticism tends to put them off..can't grow if you can't eat some shit now and then.
compugeek7221 1 year ago
Joke Answer: BIG TITS!
I am just a red blooded male after all and the answer depends on which 'head' is doing the driving!
=]
ReverendSCAReY 1 year ago
Serious Answer:
An intellectual equal who is as much a friend as a lover who shares my outlook on the world and wants to see it better rather than worse. Someone who cares about their opinion more than how they look, but who is open to learning new things.
Not found her yet, just emotionally manipulative narcissists with all the depth of a worm's grave and the loyalty of a preying mantis.
LOL - I'm not bitter am I?
ReverendSCAReY 1 year ago
don't know what men want. i am male, and i've heard the gripes of many a brother re the female equation, but no, never worked it out. nor despite having loved and having been in love did i figure out what females want, the job descriptions tend to change with the girl, and in the longer relationships changed given time. i find it best now just to avoid it. i wish you well however with your pondering.
forkqall 1 year ago
I want romance, and all it's trimmings, and I want myself to help the girl I'm with grow and I want the girl to help me grow.
therorysnake 1 year ago
@MisterAvailable On closer analysis I think it's negligible to label her as a feminist when she didn't believe ideologically in collective political action, despite some political allegiance briefly in the twenties. It's because our understanding of human experience is so undeveloped that we attempt to label her anything.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
Hrm, I guess I want meaningful companionship; a linking on a very personal level, reliability, trustworthyness, mutual understanding (as best as can be done) and probably a few other things. I might be a silly headcase for choosing these thing as my priorities, maybe.
Nothingismagnificent 1 year ago
@Nothingismagnificent Snap.
I don't think you're alone. In fact I think you're part of the most desirable minority group of men. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes Heh, yay me. ^.^
Nothingismagnificent 1 year ago
When I figure it out you'll be the first the now.
subach 1 year ago
I'm not so sure if what they want out of a relationship is all that different. I can only speak for myself, but I believe I want someone I can have a conversation with, someone I can laugh with, and someone I can be intimate with. I want a partner, a comrade, a fellow adventurer. Someone who can help me take on the world with our backs to the wall and no one to save us but ourselves. We all need support, we all need love, and we all need understanding. I feel lucky to be with a girl like that.
TruthAtAllCost 1 year ago
@MisterAvailable Currently, Virginia Woolf, 'Jacob's Room'. Middle-aged white suits baulk at the sight of it. Her 'radical feminist' reputation (largely inflammatory) precedes her.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
the same as what women want really ,but without the twisted bullshit , if they are like i love you all the time and expect me to remind them that i instantly love them from day 1 then it just wont work ,to kids yes but im an adult so needs to be felt not said , when you can clearly see someone whos happy do they need to confirm it by saying they are happy all the time so yeah drop the bullshit
exdribbler 1 year ago
@exdribbler So, not the same as what women tend to want then.... that 'twisted bullshit' is where we differ.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes i know which is ashame,sometimes i really love picking my nose. if thats what they want to be compared with everyday, then its a lost cause anyway and will never know me.
exdribbler 1 year ago
tbh i have tryed but find it to be just words that mess with your head, reality is not television and i no longer fall for it , i want a relationship not something from eastenders , jeremy kyle etc
exdribbler 1 year ago
@exdribbler Hey man, it's your life, I'm just reading about it. Not judging. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes well felt i had to add that , to seperate me from those who are butt hurt , as i can come across as bit of a ebenezer scrooge , but im not just looking for something diffrent to what is seen as sociably acceptable, women can throw love around like theres no tomorrow with ease, where as men it needs to have a base or backbone to it or for me anyway ,yes no worrys its just my other me judging myself :)-~~
exdribbler 1 year ago
@TheElMoIsEviL you didnt mention looks.
Nuron666 1 year ago
I can definately help you with this one. And give you an edge too! PM me sometime: I feel glad to see you back home and around, you are looking good.
rosskay 1 year ago
I want affection and someone backing me emotionally and someone to support me through the tough times. Also someone who carries their weight around the house. Somone who gives advice when they see me going in a bad direction. Somone who prioritize the relationship over selfish needs. And someone who will share the good times as well and enjoy them. Somone who breaks the tension in the relationship or with other people. Also, If the relationship continues, a good mother.
hamidious 1 year ago
love, affection, trust, respect, companionship, to be needed, validation, a better half as they say (i am a man)
RadicalSyndicate 1 year ago
sex and love in that order.
DarthNutz 1 year ago
Trust is the factor that's been missing, or misplaced - and what i look for in a relationship. Also, dont read women's magazines, they're toxic, and designed to make you feel inadequate
johntheother 1 year ago
@johntheother on the contrary, they don't all make women feel bad. For some it can be inspiring and energizing. I personally like fashion mags, that are geared towards women, not the kind with all the "dating tips" and "what men want" and " how to lose 10 pounds in 10 minutes" or whatever.
rosskay 1 year ago
uh...I want lulz out of a relationship, and good intellectual & emotional discussion and openness. also...the other stuff...'YALL KNOW... but I can't have the latter without the former cause it makes me feel crap. just shows you how rigid and cold I am...
MetaCraken 1 year ago
I would want someone who smart, caring, and kind. Basically someone's who gives shit, and cares about me but also cares about the well being of others as well. If a woman had those qualities, I'm sure I would find a way to make it work.
AGodlessProgressive 1 year ago
I want fairly simple things really. I want to enjoy being with her and for her to enjoy being with me.
GriffinPilgrim 1 year ago
I want her to be for me
I want to be for her
not perfectly but we are in each others corner..with points of sentiment to cement us
Aslanspal 1 year ago
a very, very, very, very, very, very attractive best friend
th3inquisitiv31 1 year ago
I only want to spend time with the person who I am in love with. I have more things I DON'T want in a relationship. I don't want to be the one in charge nor do I want to be bossed around. I don't want to "fulfill a need". I don't want to be needed. I don't want to be held to standards my partner doesn't hold herself too. I don't want to spend every waking moment with her.
I'm in a romantic relationship for it's own sake.
Dadalama 1 year ago
Someone to watch their back that is clearly on their side, a safe place to come home to, a partner to conquer the world with, someone that appreciates what they like about themselves, someone who helps them understand that their failures are just stumbles on the path to success, someone who helps them safely expose their vulnerabilities, a playmate both in and out of bed, someone who will love the life and children they make together, someone who will help them be better and stronger.
michalchik 1 year ago
Essentially, most men want to feel attractive and important.
dannypantsgm 1 year ago
As a man what do I want in a relationship? Hmmmm... its hard to pin point exactly, but you know it when its there. Also its hard to tell if its there if the person is not open or receptive. So guess the first thing would be somone who is open and receptive and acts naturally. Then the rest will either fall into place or it won't.
FriendOregon 1 year ago
that thing called talking , resolve worrys ,anxietys,and genral dribble i tend to just build up and keep a backlog of,to not always agree with what i say as it makes me feel boring, to connect with my playworld or play along with games regardless of how silly they are, make goals and stick to them , stand by me for what i will gain and not run me down for what i loose or lack and yeah fantastic sex if the above is met
manix30000 1 year ago
For the most part we want Sex, Silence, & Food
ShaneVicious1 1 year ago
@ShaneVicious1 and maybe occasional companionship.
ShaneVicious1 1 year ago
You are drinking too much!
Monsieur421 1 year ago
buttsecks
VColossalV 1 year ago
female: ability to be completely vulnerable (raw) with someone and them being able to tolerate it. that is one of my greatest fears of intimacy and that which keeps me alone. i want a man who counterbalances my proclivities towards isolation, insecurity, depression. a man who makes me want to keep searching, discovering, trying etc.
seoul75 1 year ago
I look for intimacy most in a relationship. Somebody I can share my interests with, will be there for me during bad times as I will do for her, celebrate my victories as I will with her's. Somebody who has her own goals and aspirations, who is strong emotionally/mentally/spiritually/etc. An equal, not a significant other.
I want a friend, partner and a confidant..................who I can have sex with! :D
liknital07 1 year ago
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liknital07 1 year ago
Sex is a necessary precondition for a successful relationship, but great sex is not enough (yeah, I'm greedy as fuck, right?). In order for me to maintain a lasting relationship with a woman I think the main thing is intellectual stimulation. For starters, a woman reading a book is far more attractive to me than a woman reading a magazine (unless it's Scientific American or something similarly stimulating). Aaaaand now I'm running close to the comment limit. To be continued.
NeoDolph1n 1 year ago
@NeoDolph1n I think the best way to sum it up is that what you think is more important than how you look, but how you make me feel is more important than what you think. That being said, I wouldn't be able to maintain a lasting relationship with a woman who couldn't keep up with (and hopefully overtake) me in a discussion. It would just get boring.
I still find it hard to believe that my girlfriend has been putting up with me for the last 6 years, and is still here....
NeoDolph1n 1 year ago
You know, I'll bet that I could give a really simple, straightforward answer that would totally clarify and impress..
The only problem is that I'm getting pretty hungry, there's no one to make smile at the end of the day, and I long for for the pleasures of physical affection, companionship, and cooperative validation with another human being. Maybe once I manage to get those things taken care of, I'll be able to compose myself well enough to provide a response. Hmm, maybe it will be "boobs".
hugesinker 1 year ago
a penis :)
wyrdness1 1 year ago
Un-evolved men want to get laid. Slightly more evolved ones want to get laid with an attractive woman.
The truly evolved man though wants to have mind-blowing sex with an attractive woman and videotape it. Hope this helps :)
forestskog 1 year ago
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DeraJa 1 year ago
On a side note, I'd probably find a woman more attractive if she were reading a book rather than a magazine because books have substance and take time reading whereas magazines just have little articles that you read and think to yourself 'well that's interesting' and go on with your day.
I suppose what I want in a relationship is love, compassion and understanding. Kinda cheesy I know. I would want a friend who I could hold and be with and share my thoughts with, and was actually interested.
knifesson 1 year ago
Of course sex forms the pillar of virtually all relationships--they wouldn't exist if human beings weren't these reproduction mad simians. And it's the same for both genders.
Perhaps the reason why we choose our partners is in their individual detail, the same way you might buy a car. Sure I want something to drive, but does it have a digital radio? in this instance could be the same as Sure I want to have sex with you on a long-term basis in a loving relationship, but do you like Pink Floyd?
niriop 1 year ago
I think most men want their women to be like their mums. A woman that simply takes care of all the annoying jobs like cooking, cleaning, washing and so on.
I think most men want their girlfriends or their wives to have a similar qualities of their mothers.
Nuron666 1 year ago
@Nuron666 god I hope not, my boyfriend's mum is a flippin psychopath!
artisannika 1 year ago
@artisannika I dont think you need to worry. Its only those men that come from a well rounded loving family envoirnment. The types of men that are very close to their mums.
Nuron666 1 year ago
@Nuron666 I'm going to have to disagree, I don't want anyone that vaguely reminds me of my mother. I'm out of the house and I don't want to have to deal with my mother anymore. I think that rule only applies to those who like their moms, so maybe 'most' men do...
Also, I love cooking.Cleaning not so much but I'm not sure if anyone does. :P
I wouldn't want a stereotypical house wife, I wouldn't wish a mundane life on anyone, having everyone chip in on the annoying jobs is what I'd want.
knifesson 1 year ago 2
@knifesson you belong to the modern men category.
If you had come from one of those close knit families and you were close to your mum you might have a different opinion
Nuron666 1 year ago
@Nuron666 You're assuming I don't like my mother because my family isn't close, this isn't the case, please don't assume things about me that you have no knowledge of. Other than that, yeah, as I stated before I think that rule only applies to those who like their mother.
knifesson 1 year ago
@knifesson ok fair enough.
Nuron666 1 year ago
a sammich.
Raskolnikhov 1 year ago
I think men want the same thing women do really, or at least that's how it works for my relationship. I think they want friendship, someone they get along with and can have fun with and understand their passions. Physical contact - that's just something that makes humans happy. Being in a relationship just means you've got to know the person really well, you know they're into you, so you don't have to go to the effort of finding someone else. Security. Trust. Comfort.
princessannikki 1 year ago
@princessannikki I agree entirely! The people who say 'men r just in it for teh sex' must realise that women are equally interested in sex. Thus, these kinds of statements effectively mean that they are saying 'both sexes / all genders just want sex' :-p
MannyFandango 1 year ago
Reading Men's magazines is a good idea but there is a great deal of variation in magazine's and men. If you ask people directly what they want, most people regardless of gender will lie.
I'm an older gay guy and initial attraction continues to be important. Biggest quality would be someone that I enjoy talking with and going on adventures with. It is also very important to have shared values. Ideally they would help me reach my potential as an individual and I could return the favor.
cavejourney 1 year ago
@cavejourney Why do you think they lie?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes I think people lie because we don't want others to see how shallow we are. I see this in men and women, gay and straight. I see people lie to themselves and to others. I'm uncertain if this is a good or bad thing. I have little dating history but have a lot of experience being the shoulder people cry on. People's behaviour clashes with their claims.
cavejourney 1 year ago
A real man wants an independent woman that can take care of herself. That works together with them to become a better and more powerful person. That at the same time can take care of her as she will take care of him. Equality is what a good man wants.
NathanWubs 1 year ago
one word .. sex
FallenEncore 1 year ago
@FallenEncore Are you male or female? and how old are you?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes male 23 and insanely stressed from work and had to vent immaturity sorry :P
FallenEncore 1 year ago
@FallenEncore female 23 also lacking sex. Lost my immaturity somewhere though. I'd like it back if anyone finds it.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes can have some of mine i got plenty to go around apparently !
FallenEncore 1 year ago
@FallenEncore Immaturity or sex? lol
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes for You, You can have both!
FallenEncore 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes to be fair most guys want mainly there things friendship, trust and boobs, thats what most of my male friends look for,
FallenEncore 1 year ago
@FallenEncore Trust keeps getting mentioned. Can someone who criticises you occasionally, for example, be trusted?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes sorry for late reply, Criticism is different from say blatent personal attacks, constuctive Criticsum can keep you on the staight and narrow, if we all got along life would be Boring, say if i went majorly off the rails i would trust my nearist and dearest to give me a kick in the pants
FallenEncore 1 year ago
Come on. Men do not desire true companionship from a lowly female-a man forges friendships with a woman so she can get comfortable enough to have sex with him. This is their biological nature. Any other qualities men look for in women are maternal, so he can be sure she will slave away feeding and burping babies while he is out with the boys at the strip club.
GataAgressiva411 1 year ago
@GataAgressiva411 Do you mind specifying your own sex?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes I am a woman. You probably don't remember me : )
GataAgressiva411 1 year ago
@GataAgressiva411 You were either going to be a woman or a bitchy effeminate guy, lol. I remember you as saying something critical every video. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@GataAgressiva411 Fuck, now I hope it IS you I'm remembering, and not someone else with a similar name...
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes lol I don't know. I don't typically criticize your videos...
GataAgressiva411 1 year ago
you know very well it depends on the person, and also, depends at what point that person is in their life.
someone may want all the cliches one year, have a bad experience and then want no relationship, or a very shallow one from that point on.
an ideal relationship only exists in our heads though, reality is just a compromise and never lives up to the hype.
mikesomething 1 year ago
@mikesomething Probably the most sage response here.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes i have this theory that most people are right for most people, just that we dont meet at the right times in our lives
mikesomething 1 year ago
I'd like to wake up next to someone, see them through groggy morning eyes, inwardly sigh and think; it wasn't a dream, yay!
I see little difference between a friendship and a relationship. So I suppose I would call a relationship a friendship + intimacy. Being a polyamourous wittle kitty I would not seek a deeply intense life bond with one person - its far too much of a risky commitment :-p I seek the sharing of teh loves =)
hey, thanks for giving me a chance to talk about me. (ME ME ME HA!)
MannyFandango 1 year ago
That being said, I enjoy the presence of females that are intelligent and kind. So my ideal relationships have been where we have gotten together later in the evening, hung out for an hour or two (talking, making something to eat, or something like that), and then going to sleep. So in essence, I guess if I could break it down, I like holding her and being held by her, kissing her, and understanding her. I much prefer these things over sex.
baller1069 1 year ago
@baller1069 In that order?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes
No I wouldn't say in that order.
What I really try to do is just give people love. How does one define love is the obvious question. If you want me to go deeper into my definition of love I can, but I will wait for your cue.
baller1069 1 year ago
@baller1069 Heck, I'm all ears.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
But to branch open the concept of love into a relationship with a significant other (for lack of a better term), it can start having a much broader definition. When I think of being in a loving relationship with someone I think the most important thing is honesty. So can I say honesty must be involved in the definition of love?
I don’t think I have adequately addressed this…might respond again in the near future.
I'm still quite young, so this could change drastically in the future :)
baller1069 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes
I would say love is, in a sense, to will good upon someone. What is good is the obvious next question and here it can get more complicated. What is good? What is bad? Is this just dualistic thinking? Is the highest attainment of mind to transcend such dualistic concepts...I don't know. Maybe I could say love is the absence of ill will...
I often say “I love everyone” – to me, this means I do not wish any ill will upon anyone.
baller1069 1 year ago
@baller1069 I'd say love is compassion.
artisannika 1 year ago
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baller1069 1 year ago
I'm a very independent person, and I feel that time spent doing the regular things that most people do with their gf/bf (television, outings that are meant to be "fun") simply do not appeal to me. I can do those sorts of things once in awhile, but not regularly. I need to use my time more effectively doing things that I think matter.
baller1069 1 year ago
someone i enjoy spending time with whos not a herd follower and trust :)
BelialHexed 1 year ago
depends on the man and the stage of life he's in. I always wanted same things tho: somebody who can mutually build up something, a mutual supportive partnership with benefits too lol. romance is part of it. I like a girl with perspectuve. i have to be attracted to her too tho but dont need supermodel.
truevoiceofsanity 1 year ago
can't speak for anyone but myself... someone i'm attracted to, physically and mentally, who i find interesting, is a friend, that i can do fun stuff with, makes my world bigger, who i respect, who understands me... are you gonna do a what do women want from a relationship video?
MensRifleAssociation 1 year ago
@MensRifleAssociation Seems that we're crying out for one, although I didn't intend it originally..
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
there is nothing other than getting laid. Even evolved men, will not bother, if they are not getting laid. Its not that getting "laid" is the real issue, it's how you want to get laid. Is getting laid more important than how you secure it, or to an "evolved" man, getting laid requires some tact and delicacy and love. All men want to have sex, if you meet any man that says that sex is not important, run for your life.
Elenkhos 1 year ago
@Elenkhos Hmmm... I'm not sure how to take this.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes Sex is the glue that binds a relationship lovely. Sex is what makes all those yummy pheromones that smell good and create a lasting bond between partners.The more sex, the more love will be in the relationship. That's why they call it "making love" as a man i want as much love making as possible,not just sex for sex sake, because I want to have lots of closeness with the woman I love and care about.The loving embrace of a woman that loves you cures all of lifes ills.
Elenkhos 1 year ago 7
@Elenkhos Amen.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes If lots of sex really did fix things, my ex wife and I would just be in nirvana. Doesn't work. I find it interesting that you seem to be buying that load of crap Elenkhos just spewed out. Yeah, never mind that pheromones don't smell at all and aren't detected by your olfactory sense. And it was called making love (movie term) because they couldn't say fucking. You want the secret? Here it is: biologically, women are wired to want sex with the bad boy, but live with the good boy.
alaskafido 1 year ago
@alaskafido At one stage in my life...yeah... now??? The idea of sex with a bad boy scares the shit out of me... I can't trust a bad boy...the more charming the more rehearsed, the more rehearsed the lines, the more rehearsed the sex....booooring! I can only bend myself so many ways, and no...I don't want anal either (common things in my experience with the bad boy and sex).
compugeek7221 1 year ago
@Elenkhos are you taking relationship advice from vogter?
shEvoDEevolution 1 year ago
@shEvoDEevolution no not at all .... this is my own advice
Elenkhos 1 year ago
Good question. Consciously, i would want companionship, i want someone to have deep conversations with, someone that is interesting and full of life. Someone I can cuddle with on the couch. I think the real interesting question is: is what we think truly what we want, or is there some underlying wants that we arent aware of in ourselves? For example, are these wants all i really have, or are there other wants that im not aware of? If so, how does one become aware of these, if possible?
peteheatb3 1 year ago
Well, according to the results of the Keirsey Temperament Sorter (and I think this fits me dead on): A "mindmate". Someone on the same wavelength. An intellectual equal, or better yet, a superior.
Wouldn't mind being able to let my guard down around the other person, either.
SAsgarters 1 year ago
@SAsgarters Yeah, I'd echo that as well.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
Fun and being exposed to different perspectives. I don't feel much of a need for companionship and certainly not any kind of emotional support. That said, if I met someone I might develop such needs. Being in a relationship changes my desires and needs so its hard to answer while I've been single for so long!
GirlyVoice 1 year ago
Snuggles, decent sex, understanding, and more snuggling
matman125 1 year ago
@matman125 In that order of priority?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes I'd say they're all on the same level, each having their own time and place. Favoring one over the other indefinitely could cause potential problems. Moderation is key!
matman125 1 year ago
I can't tell you what men want from a relationship
I can tell you all I want is there to be a relationship for a relationship, if that makes sense :)
AsheIsTheRaven 1 year ago
asking this question is a symptom of societal decay
AGNOSTICEXTREME 1 year ago
@AGNOSTICEXTREME Would you mind expounding further?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
Perosnally someone whom i can talk to in subject i like.
theracemixer 1 year ago
@theracemixer What do you like?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes
politics, history, economics,sociology anything that is academical. the biggest turn off is fashion,big brother and half the crap we see on TV specially channel 4
theracemixer 1 year ago
speaking as a guy who has never been in a relationship.. (hint hint jess) I generally just want someone who gets me and I enjoy spending time with and can talk to normally :D
hit me up some time jess ;) lol oh yes youtube come on
Chaoticentertainment 1 year ago
@Chaoticentertainment Hehe you're incorrigible. =P
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes *looks up big word* you say incorrigible I say committed :P
plus who wouldn't want to chat to someone you can argue over economic policy/workers rights with :D even though I think I could take you in a economic policy argument ;)
so yeah msn/skype sometime? we can thrash out arguments on equality and the like :D
Chaoticentertainment 1 year ago
@Chaoticentertainment sounds kinky... ;P
compugeek7221 1 year ago
@compugeek7221 I do what I can :P...and who says politics is boring XD
and just think..debates get an audience... oh yeahhhh extra kink XD
Chaoticentertainment 1 year ago
@Chaoticentertainment HA HA!!! You are AWESOME!
compugeek7221 1 year ago
@compugeek7221 well thank you :D you're awesome to....
so awesome in fact....perhaps you'd like to join the debate..bom chika wah wah..
I like how normally I comment trying to chat up boundlesseyes but this has turned into me writing a script for what essentially is the most messed up porn in the comments section of youtube...
COPYRIGHTED BY CHAOTICENTERTAINMENT
there we go....
Chaoticentertainment 1 year ago
What do I want from a Woman in a relationship?
I want to make love NOT just fuck. I want to be valued for me, not for the car I drive or the house I own.
CanadienAtheist 1 year ago
Bacon.
CuriousMoth 1 year ago
I look for someone who I can have a connection with on a deeper level than just sex. I like a woman to be intelligent and can stand up for her convictions. While at the same time, someone who is caring and kind. I am seen as abit 'Picky' amongst my friends because I do not try to sleep with everything with a pulse. There has to be more than just looks.
BTW Men have no idea what women want either, I have not got a clue. Loads of girls I know seem to be with utter arseholes.
29harveydinio 1 year ago
@29harveydinio I'm taking from your first paragraph though that looks are a must?
I'm thinking we should do the women's version next, so maybe we'll find out. =)
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes No sorry I meant that looks are not a "must". I am not shallow, I treat women like human beings rather than someone who I can just sleep with. Thats why my friends call me 'picky' I am looking for the"ONE" so to speak.I think I am like this because I was raised by a single mother and she taught me to respect women.
29harveydinio 1 year ago
@29harveydinio It was just the 'has to be more than JUST looks' part, my bad.
When I meet men who respect their mothers I always take that as a good measure of character, unless like my first boyfriend there's clear abuse negating such feelings, of course..
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I want someone who appreciates me, who is a worthwhile human being in general, and who I get along with well. Anything else is extra.
Women clearly want "anything that isn't Ben". At least that's the best I can figure.
BENY0HAMA 1 year ago
Man here: I mostly want friendship, companionship, someone to be completely honest with, someone to be affectionate with, someone to share life experiences with, someone that I can have deep intellectual conversations with, someone that shares my some of my interests. I'm lucky to have found someone who fills those needs.
theshmee 1 year ago
@theshmee Yes it is lucky. I'd love to know what she wants. Do you think it's the same thing?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes For the most part, I think(keyword) she wants the same. I try and be sensitive to her wants and needs. For example, I have an over active libido, (curse my biology) and a lot of the time I have to push those urges aside (or deal with it on my own) because she works long hours and probably doesn't want me trying to be intimate with her all the time. I have to say, I don't really fit the typical male stereotype being raised in a house with all females and no father.
theshmee 1 year ago
It is about getting laid regularly, but by the same woman. men want status most of all and when sexual exploration seems hollow, ownership seems more inviting
This doesn't have to be a strictly patriarchal concept either when the status markers are progressive and labeled by the status of the female you can bond to
There is a passive aggressive anti macho type of 'little man' syndrome where the woman is dominant but paradoxically the guy plays heavy hitter 'the big teddy bear type' persona
Curas1 1 year ago
@Curas1 Curiously insightful, thank you Curas.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I want me some cuddles
shalylol 1 year ago
@shalylol lol Amen unidentified brother sister person
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
Appearance wise I'm not fussy (in that I can't think of a physical attribute that would stand in the way of me wanting to be with someone) but I want love, respect, someone I have things in common with, someone to laugh and cry with, someone that understands my (many) flaws but loves me regardless and it would be nice if we were sexually compatible too. Selfish, but hey, I give as good as I get.
A love of zombie movies would be a bonus.
StanMarsh1 1 year ago
i doubt my opinion will matter much since i'm not a very masculine male, but the one thing i NEED in a relationship is trust. that is one thing i've never been able to have with my female friends (have never had a girlfriend) and it's very difficult for me to have now due to said female friends constantly betraying and abandoning me. i believe that once i can trust a woman, i can be completely comfortable and open with her, which will allow me to be the man she wants and needs.
Cuddlebunzzz 1 year ago
@Cuddlebunzzz Yes, acceptance seems to be an important feature in other comments too.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
I would like somebody who understands me, somebody I look at and I am happy to see, Who smiles alot and makes me smile and who understands the littel things that matter to me. But alas thats why I am singel (and have been for a long time) xD
FratisNox 1 year ago
I just want someone I can connect with, someone I can from, some one I can have an emotional sybiosis with, I think. Someone who I can give what they need, and who can give me what I need.
Fuck, I feel selfish typing that out.
Just can't connect with anyone, though. Feel like an alien. I've pretty much gotten used to that fact, I'm just not normal. The fact that I haven't made even a single friend since I was 5 confirms that.
The ending of Suskind's Perfume sums it up.
Whoops, I bitch too much.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
@TookiGuy Someone I can learn from*
I think RaeOfSunder put it well - someone who can guide me, and someone who I may guide as well.
You should check out her channel.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
@TookiGuy Are you male or female, by the by...? I feel I should really know that already...sorry...
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes I don't have ovaries, but if you're talking about my mentality, I really don't identify with the social concept of a "man."
Nor a "woman," nor both.
i.e I'm not a macho surfer prick, and I'm no pink princess.
TookiGuy 1 year ago 2
@TookiGuy Ditto
juffjaff 1 year ago
@juffjaff You are awesome.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
@TookiGuy Evasive of gender delineation. If this was Facebook I'd 'like' you.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@TookiGuy You want the same things I want, by the way. Found them yet?
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago
@BoundlessEyes Don't think I will soon.
Don't want to say never, because I know for a fact that there are more fucked up people out there than me.
Another thing I'd like is just someone to hug. I'm kind of touch deprived when it comes to other humans, but I don't mean it in the sexual sense. Hard to explain it like this, most people don't think about normal things like hearing someone's voice, seeing people or in my case, touching people.
Lonely humie = sad humie.
TookiGuy 1 year ago
@TookiGuy Also ditto. Thanks for sharing... or some similarly Oprah-esque retort.
BoundlessEyes 1 year ago