I hope all woman or fathers burn in Hell for what they did i have no support or kindess or forging, imamutre fat ass who give up there kid bc they feel there not ready if i was there son ill pray every day they burn in hell for ever and suffer for everything...
My Husband was adopted by his Aunt. His birth mom gave him up, was doing to abort him. So his aunt steped in she couldn't have any kids. I just want to say that he has the best parents in the world. He's the best!!!
Sweetie,I'm sure your mother is looking for you,but is running up against brick walls.The less information mothers have,the harder it is to find their lost children.Most adoption are forced back then and today.Adoption Agencies make it so hard on both adoptees and their mothers by withholding information to protect the adopters.This is why Adoption needs to reformed.
I want to say thanks for sharing your personal thoughts on this matter. I am a licensed foster parent and am trying to decide if adopting a child is the right thing to do. I often wonder about how they will feel about it once they are grown. It is helpful to hear the thoughts directly from someone in your shoes.
my parents gave me that exact same book when i was younger. i completely understand how you feel. i have an open relationship with my birth mother and her family so it is a bit different for me. but i have never met my birth father because he didnt want to have a relationship with me. all i have are a couple pics of him from when he was younger. i am so scared to contact him but i know i will have to one day. my mom has had some contact with his mother but theyve never met. its always been hard
my daughter was raped at 12 had a baby (my grandaughter) i put up a long fight in the family courts to be able to keep her with me (and her birthfamily) but lost all i want to say is i hope and pray she will come and find us and believe me she the day she does find us she will know she was never given away freely i just hope and pray she does have a good life becouse she would have always be given the love of us if she was not stolen a part of my heart went with her when she left us
Hailstorm, The woman hates her birth mother because we adoptees, whether we are conscious of these emotions or not, feel a tremendous amount of pain, sorrow and rage when we are taken from our mothers. Our mothers are not the correct target of that hatred, however; a more accurate target would be the ignorance of society which posits that substituting one mother for another makes no difference to the emotional well-being of the baby. Losing a foster mother as well must have been even harder.
Yet you have enough time to waste by writing pathetic comments? Real intellectual huh? You chose to click on the video to leave a comment about not wanting to watch the video....do you see how ridiculous that is?
No.. Not really. I thought the video looked interesting then I saw this hormonal wreck monotomously ranting about her life, Then I saw how long it was. Decided I had better things to do.
The video is called 'My Adoption Story' the clue is in the title that she was going to be talking about her own experience and her own life. Also you would have been able to see the video length before you clicked on it. If you dont want to watch that is your choice, no one forced you to click it, but there really is no need to leave such an offensive comment.
You were sold like a toaster oven... ask your Aparent how much they paid for you.. (They call it fees...) But when you hand party A money and party a gives you a child you just bought a human being... Which is also known as child trafficking... now if adoption was not money based I would have nuthing to say
I watched the video And I feel horrible for those women, but not all adoptions are forced. And I know nothing about the circumstances, but the bottom line is I have great parents, and they love me, they've stood by me after all the horrible shit I put them through, they have given me many opportunities, I have a good life and I had a great childhood. I'm sure my birth mom would be glad to hear that.
You gotta be a heartless coward to do that to your own children or brainwashed .. I know... I am lucky I survived foster care after being adopted and returned for a new kid... the little good adoption does is nuthing compared to the crimes they have committed and been busted for time and time and time again...
Thank you for supporting this living nightmare that won't seem to end... thanks for helping to promote the very thing that killed my sister and 28 of my friends... I am sure they are grateful... they picked you? There are adoption line up upto 2000... I hate to burst your bubble... they got what they got.. do your research I know ignorance is bliss but not when the rest of us suffer for it.
I'm sorry you've had to endure shuch awful things. You sound so very angry, and I really don't blame you. The "they picked me" statement is a figure of speech. There are tonnes of good women out there that want children and would be amazing Mothers if they had the chance, and they can have that chance thru adoption. The people who hurt you should have to suffer, but other ppl shouldn't have to. Good things do happen sometimes.
@Bizziboy I understand your pain and know where your coming from.I too do not like Adoption Agencies and their ways.They are a multi-billion dollar industry and Solicitation for children need to be outlawed.Most don't know the real truth about Adoption Agencies,nor do I think they really want to know either.Adopters are so desperate to adopted that they don't care how Adoption Agencies get babies/children or that they are buying,not picking a baby.
@Bizziboy I agree and thanks.I do my best to get people to stop and listen about the real truth about adoption Agencies, social services and how they are ripping families apart.
Hey, just want to say interesting video. All the birth mothers I've met that placed back in the 60s & 70s were forced into it. They had no jobs, the boyfriends (or in some cases date rapists) pretended it wasn't their baby, the girl's parents wouldn't let her live at their home until after the birth & signed adoption papers. You can't just raise a baby on love alone. A lot of birth mothers suffer from PTSD symptoms..and I think that sometimes leads to many of the unhappy reunions.
I agree it is sad & heartbreaking and although things are mostly better today I've still heard some shocking modern adoption stories. I've met a lot of wonderful, loving adoptive parents but then again the agency I used to volunteer with did a much better job than most in educating adoptive parents about adoption issues and encouraging semi & open adoptions. Education and honest communication is really the key for everyone if an adoption is going to be a happy one.
liked the video also adopted mostly for the right reasons more regulation and history of were we come from and medical history and are ancestors we should not forget are genetic roots most children are from very young parents with no support and help society needs to wake up and support familys comunitys what is the world going to turn in to otherwise
That's what adopters and babybrokers say but they don't live with this hell every frigging day of their lives like adoptees and natural mothers do. Go sell your kool-aid somewhere else. Give away your own kids if you love it so much. Damn I'm sick of you people.
Love this video! I am an adoptee myself and I have recently reunited with my birthmom. I had a lot of the same feelings as you before finding her and also during the search. What if I came into her life and she doesnt want me there? What if she has other children and a husband now? I ended up finding her and she was really happy I did! I have a new sister now as well. Its been a rough road, but I couldnt be happier. Good luck with everything!
I am a birthmom. It has been almost 18 years since I placed my son up for adoption. All I have ever thought about is finding my son. The thought of never finding him is devastating to me. And I think, in saying that, I believe I could be very sure that I would be speaking for most of us in this situation. I would say, give her a chance, because, she is very likely to have been devastated by being separated from you.
What if your mother is longing desperately to know you, as I long for my son? I made a video for him and responded with it...
What if she never wanted to let you go, but was coerced because of her age, as I was coerced because I was poor and single AT THE TIME?
"She was JUST the woman who gave birth to me."
Can I ask you if you could "just" give birth to your daughter, walk away, and not think about her again, ever? Why does it make sense to you to believe your mom could do that?
After having my daughtewr it made me realize just how strong my b mom is, to gove me up for a better life.....I'm sorry I didn't mean to be little this at all
Everyone is different, so every reunion is going to be different. Most do go well, but it is a gamble and you have to be prepared for anything. In my case, I found my son. He has been reunited with his father and all of his siblings - things are good. I help others to find now and run a web site "Looking In Ontario" (should you be interested). However, even with reunions that are not perfect, people still get answers which they did not have before. Good luck with whatever you choose.
with the way things are going with my health right now, I may need to seek out some family medical info, and I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately.
I think it's interesting how the pulls are. I know, though, that it's not easy 'cos I had those feelings too? I have had my bmom in my life, though... but like you said, she's more of a best(est) friend to me than a mum. I love her dearly, and I don't know.
If you don't feel a real need to go searching then don't. It was a very disappointing experience for me that I wouldn't wish upon anyone. I'm sure for a lot of people it is great, but always prepare yourself first!
There is an ebook by Jennifer Lynch on lulu.com which is a novel
but deals with the relationships involved in the adoption process which may
be helpful.
angelbrightness 11 months ago
I hope all woman or fathers burn in Hell for what they did i have no support or kindess or forging, imamutre fat ass who give up there kid bc they feel there not ready if i was there son ill pray every day they burn in hell for ever and suffer for everything...
DjPetrov 1 year ago
My Husband was adopted by his Aunt. His birth mom gave him up, was doing to abort him. So his aunt steped in she couldn't have any kids. I just want to say that he has the best parents in the world. He's the best!!!
tashaneitzel 1 year ago
Sweetie,I'm sure your mother is looking for you,but is running up against brick walls.The less information mothers have,the harder it is to find their lost children.Most adoption are forced back then and today.Adoption Agencies make it so hard on both adoptees and their mothers by withholding information to protect the adopters.This is why Adoption needs to reformed.
ashatbulaparanormal 1 year ago
I want to say thanks for sharing your personal thoughts on this matter. I am a licensed foster parent and am trying to decide if adopting a child is the right thing to do. I often wonder about how they will feel about it once they are grown. It is helpful to hear the thoughts directly from someone in your shoes.
Marbenili 1 year ago
my parents gave me that exact same book when i was younger. i completely understand how you feel. i have an open relationship with my birth mother and her family so it is a bit different for me. but i have never met my birth father because he didnt want to have a relationship with me. all i have are a couple pics of him from when he was younger. i am so scared to contact him but i know i will have to one day. my mom has had some contact with his mother but theyve never met. its always been hard
FASHIONISTADARLING 2 years ago
my daughter was raped at 12 had a baby (my grandaughter) i put up a long fight in the family courts to be able to keep her with me (and her birthfamily) but lost all i want to say is i hope and pray she will come and find us and believe me she the day she does find us she will know she was never given away freely i just hope and pray she does have a good life becouse she would have always be given the love of us if she was not stolen a part of my heart went with her when she left us
penzandpaul 2 years ago
dude your AWSOME!!!!
taybeast18 3 years ago
Hailstorm, The woman hates her birth mother because we adoptees, whether we are conscious of these emotions or not, feel a tremendous amount of pain, sorrow and rage when we are taken from our mothers. Our mothers are not the correct target of that hatred, however; a more accurate target would be the ignorance of society which posits that substituting one mother for another makes no difference to the emotional well-being of the baby. Losing a foster mother as well must have been even harder.
Sammicsno 3 years ago
Sorry havn't got 7 mins to listen to your life storey. Shut up.
MrMolineux 3 years ago
You're a cunt MrMolineux.
SeriouslyPissedOff 3 years ago
Yes I am. Pleased to meet you. Xx
MrMolineux 3 years ago
Yet you have enough time to waste by writing pathetic comments? Real intellectual huh? You chose to click on the video to leave a comment about not wanting to watch the video....do you see how ridiculous that is?
hideandseek80 3 years ago
No.. Not really. I thought the video looked interesting then I saw this hormonal wreck monotomously ranting about her life, Then I saw how long it was. Decided I had better things to do.
MrMolineux 3 years ago
The video is called 'My Adoption Story' the clue is in the title that she was going to be talking about her own experience and her own life. Also you would have been able to see the video length before you clicked on it. If you dont want to watch that is your choice, no one forced you to click it, but there really is no need to leave such an offensive comment.
hideandseek80 3 years ago
whats your birthdate?
PLANTAMURA0920 3 years ago
I do not see how you have any claim to my buissnes yet it does not bother me. 14/12/1990
Oh an I was the first person to veiw your channel. How sad.
MrMolineux 3 years ago
Tell me what is it like to be a slave who was bought..? And why would you be so happy about it? Must be the T.V rotting your brain...
Bizziboy 3 years ago
You were sold like a toaster oven... ask your Aparent how much they paid for you.. (They call it fees...) But when you hand party A money and party a gives you a child you just bought a human being... Which is also known as child trafficking... now if adoption was not money based I would have nuthing to say
Watch this video watch?v=ks3P59z5gUk
Bizziboy 3 years ago
I watched the video And I feel horrible for those women, but not all adoptions are forced. And I know nothing about the circumstances, but the bottom line is I have great parents, and they love me, they've stood by me after all the horrible shit I put them through, they have given me many opportunities, I have a good life and I had a great childhood. I'm sure my birth mom would be glad to hear that.
hailstorm1375 3 years ago 2
A strong person to give up your children...
You gotta be a heartless coward to do that to your own children or brainwashed .. I know... I am lucky I survived foster care after being adopted and returned for a new kid... the little good adoption does is nuthing compared to the crimes they have committed and been busted for time and time and time again...
Bizziboy 3 years ago
Thank you for supporting this living nightmare that won't seem to end... thanks for helping to promote the very thing that killed my sister and 28 of my friends... I am sure they are grateful... they picked you? There are adoption line up upto 2000... I hate to burst your bubble... they got what they got.. do your research I know ignorance is bliss but not when the rest of us suffer for it.
Bizziboy 3 years ago
I'm sorry you've had to endure shuch awful things. You sound so very angry, and I really don't blame you. The "they picked me" statement is a figure of speech. There are tonnes of good women out there that want children and would be amazing Mothers if they had the chance, and they can have that chance thru adoption. The people who hurt you should have to suffer, but other ppl shouldn't have to. Good things do happen sometimes.
hailstorm1375 3 years ago
Are the "good things sometimes" worth risking the lives and futures of the rest of us?
It was not just one family it was 9 years of hell...
Bizziboy 3 years ago
@Bizziboy I understand your pain and know where your coming from.I too do not like Adoption Agencies and their ways.They are a multi-billion dollar industry and Solicitation for children need to be outlawed.Most don't know the real truth about Adoption Agencies,nor do I think they really want to know either.Adopters are so desperate to adopted that they don't care how Adoption Agencies get babies/children or that they are buying,not picking a baby.
ashatbulaparanormal 1 year ago
@ashatbulaparanormal well said.
Couples buy a "family" at the cost of our families. It's barbaric.
Bizziboy 1 year ago
@Bizziboy I agree and thanks.I do my best to get people to stop and listen about the real truth about adoption Agencies, social services and how they are ripping families apart.
ashatbulaparanormal 1 year ago
Hey, just want to say interesting video. All the birth mothers I've met that placed back in the 60s & 70s were forced into it. They had no jobs, the boyfriends (or in some cases date rapists) pretended it wasn't their baby, the girl's parents wouldn't let her live at their home until after the birth & signed adoption papers. You can't just raise a baby on love alone. A lot of birth mothers suffer from PTSD symptoms..and I think that sometimes leads to many of the unhappy reunions.
RealWaitress2 3 years ago
That is so sad, I couldn't imagine being forced to give up my child.
hailstorm1375 3 years ago
I agree it is sad & heartbreaking and although things are mostly better today I've still heard some shocking modern adoption stories. I've met a lot of wonderful, loving adoptive parents but then again the agency I used to volunteer with did a much better job than most in educating adoptive parents about adoption issues and encouraging semi & open adoptions. Education and honest communication is really the key for everyone if an adoption is going to be a happy one.
RealWaitress2 3 years ago
liked the video also adopted mostly for the right reasons more regulation and history of were we come from and medical history and are ancestors we should not forget are genetic roots most children are from very young parents with no support and help society needs to wake up and support familys comunitys what is the world going to turn in to otherwise
furtherandyfield 4 years ago
Adoption the loving option. Every baby is wanted. If the mother doesnt want the baby she then can adopt it out. Then every baby is wanted.
DeanClark68 4 years ago
That's what adopters and babybrokers say but they don't live with this hell every frigging day of their lives like adoptees and natural mothers do. Go sell your kool-aid somewhere else. Give away your own kids if you love it so much. Damn I'm sick of you people.
softsocialista 3 years ago
Love this video! I am an adoptee myself and I have recently reunited with my birthmom. I had a lot of the same feelings as you before finding her and also during the search. What if I came into her life and she doesnt want me there? What if she has other children and a husband now? I ended up finding her and she was really happy I did! I have a new sister now as well. Its been a rough road, but I couldnt be happier. Good luck with everything!
peggers33 4 years ago
I am a birthmom. It has been almost 18 years since I placed my son up for adoption. All I have ever thought about is finding my son. The thought of never finding him is devastating to me. And I think, in saying that, I believe I could be very sure that I would be speaking for most of us in this situation. I would say, give her a chance, because, she is very likely to have been devastated by being separated from you.
treycievelyn 4 years ago
uhm.. dont smoke while you make movies, unless they got to do with smoke.:D
TheHighVic 4 years ago
Wow. You look amazingly like me.
madamoisele1 4 years ago
What if your mother is longing desperately to know you, as I long for my son? I made a video for him and responded with it...
What if she never wanted to let you go, but was coerced because of her age, as I was coerced because I was poor and single AT THE TIME?
"She was JUST the woman who gave birth to me."
Can I ask you if you could "just" give birth to your daughter, walk away, and not think about her again, ever? Why does it make sense to you to believe your mom could do that?
AmRisArt 4 years ago
After having my daughtewr it made me realize just how strong my b mom is, to gove me up for a better life.....I'm sorry I didn't mean to be little this at all
hailstorm1375 4 years ago
Everyone is different, so every reunion is going to be different. Most do go well, but it is a gamble and you have to be prepared for anything. In my case, I found my son. He has been reunited with his father and all of his siblings - things are good. I help others to find now and run a web site "Looking In Ontario" (should you be interested). However, even with reunions that are not perfect, people still get answers which they did not have before. Good luck with whatever you choose.
madoldwoman 4 years ago
with the way things are going with my health right now, I may need to seek out some family medical info, and I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately.
hailstorm1375 4 years ago
I think it's interesting how the pulls are. I know, though, that it's not easy 'cos I had those feelings too? I have had my bmom in my life, though... but like you said, she's more of a best(est) friend to me than a mum. I love her dearly, and I don't know.
It's different for everyone.
God bless
believeinthis410 5 years ago
If you don't feel a real need to go searching then don't. It was a very disappointing experience for me that I wouldn't wish upon anyone. I'm sure for a lot of people it is great, but always prepare yourself first!
auntkatkat 5 years ago