Self-Help Tips : How to Tell If You Have Low Self-Esteem

[flowr122]

ok this is how u tell if you have low self esteem but how do u get rid of it ?

[gaurdian22]

Self esteeming is generally an outdated modeling which has been eclipsed by sensing levels of satisfaction about events or performance, and more powerfully be self-compassion. Self-esteem is a no-win game.

[Blahblahbox1]

I remember someone in my class, years ago told me that my smile wasn't pretty. I do smile today but everytime I do, I just hear that persons voice telling me to stop smiling, I wish people would be more kind

[drf7at1]

Someone people are 25 or 30 and never had a girlfriend before. I know quite a few actually. 

[mrchrmedone]

@veronicachic i know i feel the same way 24/7 coz i think nobody like me coz im gay little femm. and it sucks.. the way people look at me , omg its horrible. i need freaking help too,.. some pills or something ahahah

[johnyzero2000]

@TheSeeker008 Sorry not interested in becoming a terrorist, YES I SAID IT!!!!!

[dbrandinni]

I usually have the "I don't care what people think about me" attitude. But I think deep down everyone cares. I feel like I'm not good enough for most of the attractive girls that talk to me. Two really cute girls I know, both wanted to go out with me. I'm sure they don't now, but I didn't go out with them because I thought I would just be wasting their time. That I wasn't worth their time... Here I am, a year later. Nothing has changed. (18 years old.)

[johnyzero2000]

I love all these posts I feel as if I'm no longer alone.

[theunknownuser217]

GAAAAAYYYYYY

[taurkron]

omg it's a fag!

[scottieman2]

I never had a girl friend. Let alone a girl that was a friend. No offense to the girls I talk to at work, but I know they don't want to do anything with me outside of work, so, they're not friends. I will never have a girlfriend, do anything I dream of doing, just a looser. I'm going to be a looser for my whole life.

[vdubnerd]

I don't think people might not like me. I'm 100% sure people HATE me. I'm a stupid idiot with an ugly face and stupid clothes. I fuck up everything I get near and I have no friends. Whenever I think somebody's mad at me I delete their phone number. I'm such a moron. I hope somebody murders me.

[JennyWeee]

My self esteem makes me scared to look at people. I think I'm hideous, and I can't even look into people's eyes without looking away, afraid that I'm too ugly to talk to them. I'm scared to be with the guy I like, because I feel like he thinks I'm ugly too. Sometimes, I wish that I could die and be reborn as someone much prettier. Even though I know I'm being shallow, I can't help feeling this way 24/7, and it makes me so sad and tired.

[ningle4567]

@meow0meow7 what country do u live in and u can't be all boy proof like I am girlproof

[ningle4567]

I have low self-esteem because I'm not perfect and I've never had a girlfriend:( atleast I wouldmt cheat on them like all the fucktards I know

[jambrandon531]

@ningle4567 well nobodys perfect i hate myself because i have never had a girl either i believe i am lame as hell i get high to feel better about myself though

[Everlastingev]

I have zero self esteem I want to be invisible nobody accepts the real me so I always pretend personas.

[troydeancarpenter]

I don't know if saying I'm not wanted is necessarily low self esteem. I'm just giving it an honest call down the middle. I'm probably liked more than I realize by many women, but at times it seems like they just don't like me. I'm guessing many men feel this way.

[meow0meow7]

I call myself "boy proof"

[TrueDiligence]

@jambrandon531 Yo same here brotha! OMG. I feel the exact same way as you do. Our minds keep playings games with us, and we gotta change this.

[16carnage]

girls like me but still cant get a gf but most of the time im not interested even if they r pretty.but i like this one girl and she likes me but every time i try to talk to her or get near her words just wont come out i freeze up i dont know why cause i can talk to most girls normaly.(i cant believe i wrote this.its so embarrasing)

[alreadycrowning]

@16carnage Yo it's probably because you really like her and don't feel embarrassed to talk about it because trust me you not the only one who goes through something like that.

[scottieman2]

@16carnage There's a difference between low self esteem and being in love. Sounds like you're more in love with her then low self esteem.

[guy8900]

@jambrandon531 So you hear voices in your head then...?

[50908]

@Young7Prince

dawmm why??

[Young7Prince]

@50908 Well when you find out how people truly always felt about you, and your back is up against the wall with no support system, you'd feel like me.

[50908]

@Young7Prince

dawmm thats terrible, hmm today i took a bus since my cars battery went dead, and i saw this pretty fine lady, i was looking at her straight in the eye, she looked back, then she was checking up every 30 seconds if i was still looking and i was, and we bumped our eyes each other at the same time, and she smiled, i smiled as well, so i knew she was interested in talking to me, i approach her and simply talk to her, in the end i got her phone number. Confidence is all you need.

[orange1elephant2]

this video help me out SO MUCH tytytyty

[BlackHeartedOne1]

my self esteem is so low that I thought I had social anxiety.

[lawrencespade]

@agenthelios1 it sounds like u know what ur talking about but its to easy to avoid her friend

[agenthelios1]

@jambrandon531 I have the same problem....its because women are intimidated, they know what they are worth and they think they arent worthy of being with you, so they get with losers.

Just exploit their insecurities, if you are conscious of their insecurities its easy to get laid.

[lawrencespade]

@agenthelios1 bro i got a question for u wen u see a girl do u even try to talk to her or do u wait and expect for her to aproach u cause wen it comes to girls it dont work dat way buddy girls expect guys to at least be bold and agressive enough to approach them. jus tryn to help

[agenthelios1]

@lawrencespade It has worked for me. Think about it this way...when a girl is at a club that tells you 1. she is looking for attention 2. she is no mother theresa

So go up to her and just ask something like "hey, my name is ___what is your name" when she tells you say "what are you drinking". When she tells you say that sounds good...well it was nice to meet you ___(her name) when your ready for another one of those drinks just look for me",.....

[50908]

@lawrencespade

By looking these comments Im getting the inspiration of doing a book of how to score with the ladies, its easy as hell, i got 2 new women to score for this week, i dont even search them they come to me. Its all about attitude, and being confident.

[ryahul]

People with low self esteem have earned it - George Carlin

[MiyakoLuvBoomer]

I have low self esteem

[thetwistofcain]

OK now how do you spot a rectal cowboy? (Assuming they aren't pretending to be a doctor, and dont try to *Thpeak withth a valey girl ackthent mixed with a lithp that would put Thilvethter to shame.)

[tammy1ize]

i bet your gay lol

[Norguy77]

i just found out i have high self esteem! :)

[pinoyboxerfan08]

i have a low self esteem because of my "crossed bite" teeth (i thought a I had a long jaw, but now i realize that the problem is my teeth)... so i decided to go to a surgeon to fix it... but the surgery just made it worse.. im not crossed bite anymore but my jaw is too short... now i look even weirder...

I miss my old me... I regret going to dentist...

[sychkid]

If you think like Arthur Schopenhauer, then you have low self esteem.

[rizlas2]

I'll tell you what NOT to do when you have low self esteem: eat psilocybe cubensis and look in the mirror... xD

[NinjaOutfitInTheWash]

I think my physical appearence is alright, but that is just thanks to my parents x) I feel my personality needs to be "worked at."

Am i wrong for feeling this way?

[jm2trash]

@NinjaOutfitInTheWash Yes and no. It's good to recognize what you need to work on in your personality because it makes you a better person than most. However you should still be able to see your good side; for instance the fact that you WANT to improve yourself sets you apart.

[pacloro]

im 18 and still havent had a gf,the only reason i missed the chance to be with so many girls is because of my low self esteem.i wish i could be born again :(

[lawrencespade]

@pacloro bro i got a question for u wen u see a girl do u even try to talk to her or do u wait and expect for her to aproach u cause wen it comes to girls it dont work dat way buddy girls expect guys to at least be bold and agressive enough to approach them. jus tryn to help

[pacloro]

@lawrencespade sometimes i do but always get extremely nervous for no reason,i khow its weird but what can i do lol and thanks for the advice...

[lawrencespade]

@pacloro sure thing bro

[50908]

@pacloro

i could hit you up with some tips to score with girls, i score at least 1 girl a month, but usually do 2 to 3. max 5 is my record. Anybody can do it , if you have an average appearance, and you have a good way in talking to girls its done. I got some clevers ways to get girls, im good looking i wont lye, helps a lil bit more, but some girls dont really give a dawm. Why is it that you have self steem?

[pierneus]

@pacloro I was just like you when I was 18, then everything changed in my early 20s'. What you have to overcome is the "fear of rejection". Next time you are about to ask someone out, don't focus on a possible negative answer, and if there is, don't make a big deal out of it and move on immediately. What girls think of you is not who you are. Bear it in mind!

[pacloro]

@pierneus thanks for the advice bro,im doing better now :)

[libertard666]

@pacloro I'm 28, I've only had sex with one girl, one time after which she dumped me because I was bad at it. I beat you at this, dude, don't even try.

[dorinioanaalexandra]

@pacloro never be sad about this, if you want gf you will have one when you are ready trust me. I understand u saying ''i wish i could be born again'' i think we all would want to fix something in the past, but i think i would do the same mistakes.

[pineappledust]

@pacloro dude, every day you're born again.

[pacloro]

@pineappledust you see that dont make any sense lol

[pineappledust]

@pacloro yea, you're right. I was high quite honestly. I have low self-esteem too, and I sympathize with your want to start over. Dwelling on the past will only keep us living in it longer. I had my first boyfriend at 18. Now, at 21, I feel a lot more confident in myself, but that took time to happen. My advice: Be selfish. Only do what makes you happy.

[skittlesareyum48]

@pacloro Believe it or not, moving to big cities can be an option. Of course you have to work out your confidence, but in the city there are sooooo many options. Pretty much anytime you get on the subway/bus and anything in between is a chance to meet a new girl, and in NYC where there are 8 million people, there is a plentiful amount of good options out there. Not the best suggestion, but there you go.

[pacloro]

@skittlesareyum48 i live in NY lol int the bronx but thanks :)

[BinaryReader]

sorry to hear that mate, but you aint alone in that regard.

[TheRainbowmonkeys]

Well all I can say is that u guys/girls have better self esteem then I do...because u all say u think ur good looking.....for me ik I'm not since even friends and family like to pull the ugly card on me offten. (haven't had a girl friend my whole life).....so I shut down. Call me a loser or watever u want iv heard it all b4....

[dubbymacky]

i consider myself good looking and i avnt had a girlfriend in years lol if you dont like something about urself change

[SuperRockit22]

@dubbymacky i agree. i feel the same too. i think im hot but i never had a boyfriend. i feels ya lol i smells ya

[atlantoon]

Dr. Bowler, good info, thanks.

[inov8or]

@Jambrandon531

I have the exact same thing dude, i think im an attractive guy, but when it comes to beautiful women i always think im not good enough for them

[JieHongChen]

@inov8or

Well, i've got good news for you.

I'm a gay guy with a lot of attractive female friends, and believe me women really aren't that picky. All the hollywood movies and the media delude it for straight guys, but ultimately women want you just as much as you want them, even the beautiful ones.

You should really watch 'The Secret' if you haven't already

Good luck man

[HatemShredHed]

Damn, I think of the same here too. You know, our thoughts & opinions about ourselves and towards others is really what makes things go bad. Have you watched 'The Secret'? That helped me allot.

[JieHongChen]

yep, amen to that.

[sweetchocolate1977]

how would u know the symptoms of LSE

unless you've had it?

[crazysoccerman14]

Ya. good advice though

[fuckoff942]

my best friend kelsey always downs herself she'll look at a pic of herself and then she'll say Oh I look so ugly in this picture, and I told her you do know you're bringing yourself down, she said I dont care then I was like well You're going to lower your self esteem and it isn't good for you, she kept saying nasty things about herself, and until one day I told her she should stop, she ACTUALLY listened to me and plus that her BF helped with that to. so shes been pretty good about it lately!

[matthewm0311]

thats exactly what i was going to say.... Sometimes I think my low self esteem comes from being a realist. Because when I am doing well and accomplishing goals my self esteem always seems to be high.

[strawberrypanic81]

@matthewm0311 :

Hear! Hear! Apart fr realists, I've noticed low self-esteem tends to plague those with a perfectionist streak, too.

[joanofarcxxi]

many people with low self esteem rely only on their looks to feel good about themselves. they look in the mirror, like what they see, and believe that is who they are. yet they are crushed by lack of adulation - you have to tell them all the time how great they are because they are beautiful? shallow. healthy self esteem comes from within even if you aren't a beauty by common standards. you feel good about who you are, not about how you look and you make other people feel good too!

[HotmenClubCentral]

wow!! my friend is going CRAZY!! she thinks she has low sel esteem!! it's so annoying! thanks